Speaking of kowtowing, it's a great gift. Influenced by TV, we know the truth of kneeling down to our parents, and we also know that there is gold under a man's knee. Everyone who kneels except his parents seems to be insulting. In fact, when I think of the word kneel, I think of sweeping the grave. Every Chinese New Year or Tomb-Sweeping Day, we should kneel down sincerely to visit our ancestors' graves. Apart from sweeping graves, my memory of kneeling is that when I was a child, my parents asked me to kneel down to pay New Year greetings to my grandparents, and then my grandparents gave them red envelopes. I said I knelt down for my parents, but I never gave them a big gift.

No, I used to kneel for my parents, that is, when I got married, I was kneeling when I offered tea to my parents. At that time, both husband and wife knelt down to offer tea to their parents to express their gratitude for their parenting. When children grow up, it's time to honor their parents. At the same time, the wedding is a rite of passage in their parents' minds.

But in some places, marriage should not only bow down to parents, but also bow down to other relatives. It may be nothing for locals, but it is hard for foreign wives to accept. For example, my friend Xiao Li has met this custom in her husband's family. Because of the other party's insistence and her so-called lack of sympathy, the wedding ended in vain.

It was their wedding day. After Xiao Li and her husband served tea to her in-laws, someone put a big cardboard box in front of the main seat, and then an old man sat on the right seat. The host began to make them bow. Xiao Li is a little confused. Who is this? Why is he kneeling?

My husband said that this is my second uncle. When I got married, I took a red envelope to bow down to my elders. Under the persuasion of her husband and the urging of her master, Xiao Li bowed his head, and his uncle went over and took out 200 yuan and put it in a big cardboard box. I thought this connection was over. Just as I was about to leave, the host grabbed Xiao Li and pointed to the crowd. Xiao Li looked at it, darling, the crowd has lined up for dozens of meters.

According to my husband, these are all relatives of an old man, all their elders, and some of them are even children. However, qualifications are not the only thing, but qualifications are the most important. These people must kneel down. Xiao Li quit, saying that I only knelt for heaven and earth, kitchen god and parents since I was a child, because I was a girl, I couldn't sweep graves, and even my ancestors didn't kneel. Not to mention kneeling down to them when I came to you. I had to knock my head out with nearly 200 people.

As soon as everyone lined up, they began to pour out that this daughter-in-law could not do it. In short, there was not a good word, and her husband got excited and scolded Xiao Li angrily, saying, This is our tradition here. You should do as the Romans do, or the marriage will not be concluded. Xiao Li refused to say, which is a bad habit. How old are you to bow down to presents? I can accept that it is not easy for your parents to raise you, but what does this have to do with them? Kneel if you want. I won't wait on you. I'm not getting married.

Xiao Li fell off her wedding dress and left. She jumped on the wedding car and asked the driver to take her home. At first, the driver refused. After talking for a long time, he gave several times the charter money. Drivers also specialize in driving for business. If he had money, he would succeed, so he took her back to her family. As a result, the two families lost the opportunity to get married because of this incident.

Our country is vast in east and west, stretching from north to south, and every place has its own customs. We should know how to do as the Romans do, and endure if we can, but some customs are hard for outsiders to accept, so there is no need to force others to do so. Nowadays, getting married is a matter for young couples. There is really no need to follow the custom in an orderly way. Nowadays, almost all weddings are Western-style or a combination of Chinese and Western styles. Many people don't even have weddings when they travel.

As parents, we should have a clear and thorough understanding of what kind of wedding to adopt and whether it is just a formality according to tradition. If the form is good, we will be happy and satisfied. However, the protagonist of marriage is a young couple, and it is they who need to be satisfied. As long as they are happy, the young couple's life can be happy. Otherwise, the decline in population will really ruin my son's marriage, which is even more worthless.