What is Huimen?
Also known as Federal Gate? Parenting? , that is? Go back to your mother's house? . Marriage customs of ancient Han nationality. That is, the daughter-in-law goes back to her daughter's house to recognize her family. Huimen, also known as mothering, is a traditional marriage custom of the Han nationality. Refers to the woman's first visit to her family after marriage. The newlyweds returned to their parents' home on the third day after their marriage. For the bride, returning to her parents' home after marriage.
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Traceback time
In ancient times, it was the third, sixth or seventh, eighth and ninth day of marriage, and there was also a full moon to visit relatives. There was a custom of Huimen in the Spring and Autumn Period, which has been inherited by later generations. Because? Back to the door? It is the newlyweds who return to China together, so it is called? Two doors? Take the auspicious meaning of pairs.
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Back door dress-up
When returning home after marriage, the bride and groom should decorate and dress up as carefully as they did at the wedding, so as to maintain the beautiful and handsome image at the wedding. If the woman needs to hold a grand banquet, the bride and groom should carefully choose their dresses.
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What does the bride wear when she goes home?
Every place has different customs and different clothes. But on the whole, there are still some similarities. First of all, it needs to be new, and the color is mainly festive. For example, big red, because this kind of pure big red clothes can't be worn at ordinary times, we can't waste our clothes once, so in order to wear them at ordinary times, we should pay attention to the choice of colors, such as light pink, pink, pink purple, or deeper red, such as rust red and deep red. Anyway, just focus on this bright color.
However, to avoid these colors of black, white, gray and blue, after all, it does not look festive. In some places, you can't wear big red clothes when you get married, but now it's not so particular.
For the style of clothes, you can choose clothes and trousers, or small skirts and dresses. The long skirt looks very elegant, the small skirt looks sedate and dignified, and the dress looks fresh and bright, all of which are the best clothes to wear when returning home. But it should be noted that the skirt can reach the knee length, not too short. You can also choose to wear cheongsam. Clothing should also be selected according to the temperature throughout the year. You can choose a small sweater and skirt in spring and autumn, a dress in summer and a beautiful down jacket in winter.
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What should I pay attention to when returning to the door?
When going back to her parents' home, the old custom stipulates that the bride walks in front, and when going back to the man's home, the groom walks in front. Because this visit is the first time that my daughter has returned to her mother's house after her wedding, some of them are still called? First trip? . Are you online? Two doors? After that, it is generally not allowed to spend the night at Yue's house, and you must go back to the man's house that day, because in the old society, there was a custom of staying at home for one month after marriage.
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What should I prepare for marriage?
The bride's old man attaches great importance to going home for three days, so the groom should make preparations in advance, leaving a happy and beautiful impression on his parents-in-law both ideologically and as a gift. At this time, the new son-in-law will also devote herself to her parents-in-law? Reunification ceremony? 、? Pay back the money? And bring different gifts according to different places. Someone brought a rooster and took it away? Good luck? Meaning; Some bring some gifts such as meat, eggs and noodles; More common are oranges, apples, bananas, wine and so on. They all serve food, but the style is not fixed, but the return gift should not be single, and it must be even, which means that husband and wife are paired for a hundred years, and the odd number is unlucky.
Huimen banquet
Generally speaking, when a couple get married and go home, the woman gives a banquet, and the new son-in-law is seated, accompanied by the female elder. In-laws held a banquet for their newly married husband, which was a back door banquet. At dinner, the bride should accompany the groom, propose a toast to parents, relatives and neighbors, and thank everyone for their wishes for their wedding. Don't rush home after dinner. You should chat with your parents for a while, listen to their teachings, and then leave and go home. And should take the initiative to invite two old people and brothers and sisters to their homes, or invite relatives, friends and neighbors.
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Stirring ceremony
The ceremony of mixing noodles is an important part of Huimen banquet in southwest Shandong and its surrounding areas. What are you going to say? A dough ceremony? First of all? Hang the curtains? Hanging door curtains is a folk marriage custom of Han nationality. Popular in southwestern Shandong and surrounding areas. Legend has it that the curtain is one of the dowries that Wang Zhaojun asked the Emperor Wu of Han Dynasty when he left the fortress. Later generations followed suit and followed suit.
On the wedding day, after the bride and groom entered the new house, the bride's brother took out a curtain and hung it on the door of the new house. Most of the door curtains are red or pink, or idyllic red water or Xiushan Qifeng. The man put his wallet in red paper and gave it to the bride's brother, saying? Send him money? . Brother, do you understand? Send him money? Tell the bride's father how much it is. Send him money? What about below? A dough ceremony? Related.
? A dough ceremony? This is the last ceremony of the wedding. The bride returned to the door, and the new uncle held a banquet at her home. The new son-in-law was seated, accompanied by a female elder. The in-laws hosted a Chinese banquet for their newlyweds. This is the back door banquet. What is the most important part of the back door banquet? A dough ceremony? After the banquet, my father-in-law personally brought noodles (two poached eggs on a large bowl of noodles) to the new son-in-law. When he first brought them to his son-in-law, he took the noodles and put them on the dining table. Then he stirred the noodles in the bowl with chopsticks. No matter how his father-in-law advised him, he refused to eat them. After a while, he will leave his new son-in-law and wait for his father-in-law to come back. After a while, the father-in-law will take this wrapped red envelope (which contains as much money as the wedding gift) and put it on the dining table for the son-in-law to eat noodles. My son-in-law can't say anything to continue fried noodles. After a while, the father-in-law will leave the son-in-law and wait. After a while, his father-in-law will come back with a red envelope in his hand (the money in it is twice or twice as much as last time) and put it in front of his son-in-law. At this time, the new son-in-law has two choices. A dough ceremony? . Another option is to continue to stir the noodles, and the father-in-law will continue to leave to get the red envelopes (the money in each red envelope cannot be lower than the last one, and if it is increased, it must be doubled), until the new son-in-law is satisfied with the noodles. Today? A dough ceremony? Generally speaking, it is enough to end the ceremony with any symbol and go back and forth twice. There is not much to pay attention to. ? A dough ceremony? It used to be that I took a donkey from my father-in-law's house before I forgot about it (meaning I took quite a lot of wealth from my father-in-law's house). Nowadays, many families are only children with only one daughter. Some parents think that everything will be their daughter's sooner or later. Why not save face for their daughter? A dough ceremony? Sometimes I give my son-in-law expensive gifts such as a house and a car, but this is still a minority.