propose
First, relatives and friends introduced them, and if there is a suitable object, they made unannounced visits. Yes, the two of them associate first, and then introduce them to their parents slowly. The man should prepare gifts and exchange Geng Tie. According to the Geng post, see if it matches and whether the zodiac matches. Avoid six reds, Long Hudou, chicken and dog fights, tiger and sheep fights, snake and mouse fights. After thoroughly considering these factors, we began to discuss marriage.
Observe and evaluate the suitability of future spouse or son.
Also called visiting relatives, mainly unannounced visits. Observation is to observe the appearance, figure and family situation of both sides. Unannounced visits are mainly focused on cuffs, which are invisible. If through unannounced visits, both sides are interested in each other, and both sides agree that the man will meet the woman on his own initiative one day, exchange tokens of love and make an engagement. The gift prepared by the man for the woman is called toilet paper sticker.
employ oneself in/engage in
Also called engagement, the purpose is to formally inform relatives and friends that the girl has a husband and the young man has a father-in-law. The main relatives of both parties meet, and the man entertains the main relatives of the woman. The man will send pre-arranged engagement gifts to the woman's house to set off engagement firecrackers and invite her closest family. The elder of the woman will hold a meeting ceremony for the engaged boy, and the girl will come to the man. She lives in a house with her family, and the man will arrive. When the relatives of the woman come to the man's house, they should have two cups of tea. One is jujube tea with sugar and cake, and the other is glutinous rice noodles with lard. The banquet is held at noon. The dishes are quite rich and the specifications are quite high. Every time on the wine table, the man arranges relatives who can drink a lot of wine to pour the wine. After the banquet, the engagement ceremony ended, and the man sent his wife and relatives away with firecrackers.
Chasing festivals
One or two festivals before the man prepares to get married, and he will go to the woman's house to chase after the festival. Usually, fish, ducks and geese are the objects of festivals. Duck means to temporarily detain my daughter-in-law at her in-laws' house. Taking a goose means it's time for the girl to act. I want to marry her home. There is also a saying that the in-laws will not approve the daughter's marriage this year for the time being, so the man's family will take the daughter-in-law home before the year.
Visit someone and congratulate him/her on moving into a new house.
It means that the day before marriage, after both men and women agree on the wedding date, both sides should make some preparations in advance. Some families choose a date in advance and give the big dowry to the man in advance. On greenhouse day, both men and women should have wine to entertain relatives and friends, led by the uncle. On warm house days, the bride takes a bath and changes clothes, usually accompanied by a bridesmaid. The next day, she will dress up and wait for her wedding. The groom should also take a bath and change clothes on the warm house day, and the wedding bed should be made by Grandma Fu. When making the bed, she will say something auspicious, such as wormwood green and straw yellow. I will make the bed for the couple. I will go to the East to give birth to your son and go to the West to be the number one scholar. Put some calamus, mugwort leaves, red dates, peanuts, fruits and cloud cakes on the bed, which means loving couples, having a baby early, and finding a little boy to sleep with the groom is called pressing the bed. Give red envelopes to the little boy that day.
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After the luncheon, enter the dowry ceremony. Before moving things, the married grandma Bao ordered a red paper twist, put all the dowry through a sieve covered with red paper, twisted it with a small mirror and lit the red paper. Sending boxes is exquisite. A house with a red envelope from the groom in the box. The woman must be enlarged to a box with the same amount as the man's red envelope. Put it in the box and tell it to press the cash box. Then pinch it. When pinching the lock, give the person who pinches the lock a red envelope, commonly known as pinching the lock seal. After all formalities are completed, the goods will be delivered. The first one to be sent out must be the toilet. There are red eggs in the toilet, which is called toilet by later generations. The toilet is usually served by the groom, brother-in-law or brother-in-law. When the dowry is shipped to the boat, the bride's brother or younger brother will accompany the bride for dinner. A hearty meal. Generally, there are only two kinds of dishes, fish and tofu, which means you can go home safely when you are full. At this time, Grandma Bao usually feeds the bride a little bit of everything. At this time, both the bride and the bride's mother will cry, which is also called crying marriage. Cry, take the bride to get married, then the bride's feet don't fall to the ground, put on the bride's shoes, put them in her brother's shoes, and carry them on her back.
When the boat arrives at the bride's house, the bride will set off firecrackers in advance. After the ship is docked, the bride is not allowed to disembark first. After the dowry is delivered, she will stay on the boat for a while, which means to control her temper. At this time, according to the distance from the dock to the groom, there are harmonious poles on the ground of the bride's house. With the help of Grandma Bao, the bride walked slowly on the sidewalk paved with harmonious poles. When the bride enters the new house, a child will beat the window sealed with red paper with a prepared reed pole. While playing, she will also shout the jingle taught by adults: holding Chai Lu chopsticks, standing outside the window, pounding red paper, having a son inside, playing drag, loving the couple, breaking through the customs, and adopting a son to be an official.
Make trouble in the bridal chamber, broken windows are making trouble in the bridal chamber. First, people with a little literary talent began to make a scene, surrounded by people. Singing auspicious words, they entered the bridal chamber and sang red candles. I came to see the bride. At first glance, the bride's hands are like lotus roots, and the champion is away from your home. Second, look at the bride's feet, like water chestnuts. The water chestnut is sharp and the bride is as beautiful as a fairy. After the noise, my father-in-law was hugged by everyone, wearing a tall paper hat, a dustpan and turkey chops on his shoulders, and his face was covered with black ash. Mother-in-law Xis wears a pair of glasses, which has both good and bad sides. It is suggested that she turn a blind eye.
The atmosphere at the scene is getting bigger and bigger, and some people remind their parents-in-law to smoke and give candy to the people who make trouble in the bridal chamber, and end it early. After a rich meal with the bride and groom, I closed the door and went to bed, but a pair of lights in the room just didn't turn off.