Change fee: On the day of engagement, both men and women usually go to their parents' home for dinner (both men and women have to hold banquets), and both men and women have to change their names to address each other's parents. Both parents have to change their names to their prospective daughter-in-law or prospective son-in-law, ranging from several thousand to tens of thousands. Generally speaking, men pay more.
Playing with money (both sides): These are all separated from the bride price. These seemingly odds and ends of money are generally tens of thousands, which cannot be ignored or confused.
Bride's new job fee (first guest appearance fee): This fee is paid by the bride. The bride's brothers' red envelopes are relatively large, ranging from seven to eight thousand to tens of thousands. When other family members come to their parents' home for the first time (such as the owner of the dowry group on the wedding day), everyone has to give hundreds or even thousands of red envelopes. Of course, these relatives and friends will give the bride a wedding fee before she gets married, so basically they still give and take.