After listening to her best friend's words, the chef put down her cosmetics and wine, bought two bags of fruit, and then followed Fan to his house. After entering the door, his parents greeted him warmly, pouring tea and cutting fruit. Very lively. Johnny Ma is a very diligent girl. She can't stand waiting and taking care of others. After a quarter of an hour, she couldn't sit still. She just went to his kitchen to help. When she saw unwashed vegetables, she washed them at once. When she saw the uncut meat, she immediately cut them into silk. She thought her performance was perfect. After entering the kitchen, Fan's mother went to the living room and whispered to her father for a long time, but she didn't know exactly what to say. I only heard my best friend say that you can't bring expensive gifts when you meet your in-laws for the first time, but she didn't say that the kitchen can't help. Anyway, there's nothing wrong with acting well. Johnny Ma thought so. She thinks she did it perfectly. At this time, her future mother-in-law came in, saw all this, and then she was sorry to say that this dish and meat were originally for jiaozi. If you cut it into pieces, it will be difficult to handle. When you meet your in-laws for the first time, don't please them wholeheartedly, especially don't show off your cooking and housework skills too much. Otherwise people will think that you can't wait to marry their family. Please believe this fact, they don't marry a daughter-in-law because you love housework, superb cooking, love labor and so on. But because you deserve to marry them, expressing yourself too enthusiastically and actively can only make them think that you hate getting married. Giving an expensive gift The value of a gift lies not in what you can do, nor in whether you love the man or not, but in respect and etiquette. You brought a small gift to respect, not to please. Originally, you were a very distinguished guest in their family. There is no need for excessive enthusiasm and dedication. What you need to pay is enthusiasm and etiquette, instead of spending all your mind on choosing gifts. Instead of spending a lot of time and energy on choosing a gift, think about how to make yourself more beautiful, or match your clothes, or draw a delicate makeup, so that they think you are excellent, not your efforts. Because your relationship with their family is mutual affection, not the replacement and incitement of interests. Please others by giving gifts, but only businessmen or profitable people will choose to do things. There will be no pie in the sky. If you are beautiful enough and good enough, you don't need to please them by giving gifts. They will accept you, recognize you and even appreciate you. On the contrary, if you are too enthusiastic to please, you can't wait to pour out your heart and lungs, which will only make them feel that you are buttering up and begging for mercy. Love is equal and respectful. It is undoubtedly very tiring and risky to try to win good feelings and likes with excessive efforts. Too humble attitude, humble love and being loved will lead to happiness. Too humble to like and cherish can only spoil ungrateful people. If you can meet someone who understands you, it is naturally good; If you meet someone who doesn't understand you, your concession and tolerance, understanding and consideration will be a disaster. Johnny Ma didn't cut the wrong meat and vegetables. Her future mother-in-law also has bad feelings, so just say it, without beating around the bush or giving her any face. So Johnny Ma told her future mother-in-law that she would buy the same meat and vegetables again, and she would take them away after cutting them. Hearing Johnny Ma's handling attitude, the future mother-in-law couldn't say a word, because she solved the problem and was full of affection, and never hurt her kindness. Even if she is with Fan in the future, she won't hold a grudge because of what happened today. No matter how big the matter is, as a girl, we should also have our own attitude. For example, the man's parents talked about your family, their comments and reactions, your occupation and background, your attitude and so on. If you touch your bottom line and principles, please be brave enough to clarify your position and attitude. This meeting is definitely not as simple as having dinner together or getting to know each other, but to find out your style and touch on your details. If you are gentle and kind, you will suffer in the future if you are caught by others. On the contrary, the more you respond and get along with each other with an attitude, a position and a sense of proportion, the more you can win back real respect. When I meet my in-laws for the first time, I can't do a few things, let alone help my mother-in-law. Remember that when the little princesses go to their in-laws again, they must be careful not to rush to help their mother-in-law, because people's first impressions are very important. If you are diligent for the first time, people will ask you according to this standard in the future, so if you are almost, people will think you are lazy or pretentious in the future. In order to prevent them from asking too much of you, don't do everything too well for the time being, just know what to do and what not to do. 2. Don't be told by your husband in front of his family. In love or wedding, there is always one person who can dominate. That man is your husband, but you must not let your husband know. If others see that you are weak in front of your son, will your husband's family still treat you like a hard dish? If you let your husband listen to you, will your mother-in-law dare to look down on you? Because she is also afraid of losing her son, she can't boss us around, but she must be car-scrapping. 3, to know how to guide her husband's work, most of them are the concept of the elderly: a man is the head of the family, can not do housework, can not enter the kitchen. But now a few young people agree with this statement. Remember, when you come to the door for the first time, you must reverse this situation, otherwise you will be too tired to vomit blood in the future. Everyone in your family thinks this is appropriate. It doesn't matter if a woman does some work. Most importantly, people will think it's right after you finish it. If you don't tell your mother-in-law that you want to work the first time, she will want him to work later, which shows that you are not sensible. 4, remember not to blindly say something to please in-laws, girls pay attention to the first time to leave a good impression on future mother-in-law, do not blindly say something to please in-laws. In fact, this is not wrong in itself. What is wrong is that others will make you a soft-hearted and hard-hearted person. The more you please, the more mistakes you make. People don't take your flattery as courtesy, but think you are afraid of them. If in-laws are the kind of people who know how to help, respect and care for each other, please them well or increase your's feelings. Remember, we must never give in on the issue of principle. Sometimes our powerful mother-in-law has discovered our weakness and knows that it is not easy to fight for benefits for the first time, so she puts forward a series of things such as bride price and dowry at this time. For example, my mother-in-law said: You were admitted to your brother-in-law's university this year, and all the money at home was given to you, so that you could go to college in your brother-in-law. I have no money at home, so I have to worry about it when I get married. Some prospective daughters-in-law are embarrassed to speak at this time. That is wrong. If you don't talk, people will take it as your default. If you are picky, it's your fault. 6. Don't send money for the first time. Remember that girls can't bring money for the first time. The first is the amount of money. In your eyes, it may be a very large sum of money, but in the eyes of your husband-in-law, it may be the rain in Mao Mao. Maybe people will say that you are stingy and have this money with you after a hard trip. Or you might say: can't I give more? Let people not find fault. But in that case, have you thought about the future? It's my first time to come to your house. The more you give, the higher people expect of you. Can you handle it? Well, I'm always here to take stock of these six tricks for everyone. After reading these six tricks, you should know what to do when you meet your in-laws for the first time. Remember that we are in a new era. Since men and women are equal, they are actually equal. If you can't earn money, men are superior to women, and filial parents must be filial together.