People's emotions are very complicated. In the face of a person and a thing, we will make a lot of associations and considerations, and then respond with a relatively appropriate attitude. But people's emotions are sometimes very simple. You respect me by one foot, and I will respect you by one foot. If you treat me coldly, I will repay you.

"reciprocity" is a way of getting along, and it is also regarded as the iron law in interpersonal relationships by some people. But many people don't know that in fact, when relatives get along, they should also pay attention to reciprocity. Out of affection and care, we can be selfless, but no one will be willing to pay for a long time without asking for anything in return.

There are three kinds of people in life. The first kind of people are very independent and introverted, never bothering others, and never owe people. The second kind of person is very self-aware, but if he owes a favor or is benefited by others, he will definitely repay it; The third kind of people have low emotional intelligence, or are selfish, and only know how to ask for it blindly in the process of interacting with others.

No matter what kind of people, we can find their shadows around us. In general communication, people with high cultural literacy can often be kind to anyone. But those who don't know how to get along with each other and blindly ask for it will certainly welcome everyone's antipathy, and will eventually welcome others' "regard sb with special respect."

0 1. It's a good thing for a woman to be kind, but it's not a good thing that kindness turns into cowardice. Xia Wen has always been a very warm and good girl. Because both parents work in factories, Xia Wen has contracted all the housework at home since he was a child. Even some farm work is done by Xia Wen.

Although from the countryside, I don't know much, but kindness has always been the most conspicuous label in Xia Wen. Relatives and friends all know that Xia Wen is very kind, so they are very willing to introduce her. Everyone knows that a girl's inner beauty is the real beauty, so everyone introduces her to excellent young men from relatives and friends.

By the age of 25, Xia Wen had changed two jobs and opened a pet shop in the town. Although the scale is not large, she likes this profession very much. Although Xia Wen doesn't like the man she met on blind date, she likes the owner of a pet dog.

* * * The same hobby made two people chat happily and soon became lovers. The young man named Xiao Bin is plain-looking, but straightforward and loves his girlfriend very much. Xiao Bin has a younger sister, and the relationship between brother and sister has always been very good. Later, Xia Wen learned that Xiao Bin would give the 23-year-old sister 1500 living expenses at the end of each month.

Xia Wen herself is kind, so she has no opinion. Even after a year of dating, Xia Wen herself gives this future sister-in-law 500 yuan every month. Every time we meet, Xia Wen will invite her to dinner and prepare a snack bag for her. Nevertheless, the little girl who was not sensible never said thank you to Xia Wen.

02. Six months later, Xia Wen went to Shanghai on business. Because Xiao Bin's sister is also in Shanghai, she wants to stay in Shanghai for two nights. Surprisingly, Xiao Bin's sister disappeared without replying to the message. Xia Wen didn't think much at first, but later she knew that Xiao Bin's sister thought she was a rural person and would lose face, so she deliberately didn't reply.

It's normal for girls to save face, so Xia Wen doesn't have much opinion. However, when they got engaged, Xiao Bin made an excessive request: the bride price for marriage was only 1.8 million, but Xia Wen's family had to pay 1.28 million as his dowry. The reason is that Xiao Bin's sister is getting married soon and needs a sum of money to get married.

In order to be kind to others, Xia Wen agreed after consulting with his parents. At the same time, Xia Wen's hometown is about to be demolished. As an older only child, Xia Wen was allocated a house of160m2 in addition to her parents' house. Everyone is very happy, because it is also an asset.

On the eve of the wedding, everyone is busy preparing for the wedding. When hanging the balloon, Xiao Bin's sister pulled Xia Wen aside, and then smiled with an evil spirit: "Sister-in-law, my brother said that after you get married, your resettlement house will be mine. You are a good man, you have to help me buy furniture in the end! "

Xia Wen was at a loss. Although she didn't know what Xiao Bin said to her sister, the information made her unable to turn back. Looking at her sister-in-law's greedy eyes, Xia Wen stubbornly replied this time: "I didn't promise your brother. Besides, do you deserve it? "

It is definitely not what Xia Wen wants to see if the relationship is frozen. But in the face of greed and ignorance, Xia Wen really had enough. Concessions and compromises again and again are not the gratitude of the other side, but intensified. I believe no one can stand such a situation.

After marriage is a family, but the priority of husband and wife is higher than anyone else. People who know how to run a marriage will definitely regard their other half as the most important. No matter what decision you make and what problems you encounter, smart people will definitely discuss with their lover at the first time.

Because they know that a lover is the most important person in life and the one who will accompany them through life. Moreover, two people are the closest whole. Only when two people learn to strive for more benefits for a small family can they run a small family well. Only by running a small family well can we have the energy to take care of others.

The affection between brothers and sisters must be extremely cordial and firm. And we found that whenever there are children from two families, the boss will take extra care of the second child. This is a virtue, but also the embodiment of family. But many times, this kind of love depends on the occasion and the degree. Blindly spoil and love, not only can not get each other's gratitude and growth, but also may affect your life.

As brothers and sisters, when we get gifts from relatives and others, we should not only feel happy, but also let ourselves grow up quickly, and then express our gratitude with our own efforts and appropriate ways. This gratitude is not necessarily material, but it can definitely touch each other and make them feel warm.

Self-knowledge is the most important thing for a person. Anyone who gets a favor owes him a favor. This rule only works when facing his biological parents. At any other time, we should have such awareness. There are many people like Sister Xiao Bin in life. They may get temporary benefits, but in the end, their interpersonal relationship will definitely become a mess.