So, girl, if you want to marry love, you must first understand whether he marries you because he loves you or because you are suitable for marriage. A man who marries you because you are suitable for marriage has the following characteristics in his daily life.
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Wedding planning is completely in accordance with the usual process, there are no surprises, and you will not carefully prepare the sense of ceremony you want.
A friend who has been married for many years said that she could tell at a glance that a couple did not love each other. Two people who don't love each other may have embarrassment, anxiety and happiness in their eyes, but they are unmoved.
The most touching wedding I have ever seen was when the groom was tone-deaf, but bravely sang the bride's favorite "Little Lucky" in public. Because it was so ugly, the guests burst into laughter from time to time.
Singing and singing, the groom's face is getting redder and redder, but the bride's eyes are getting redder and redder. Finally, the groom was embarrassed to say that I had been practicing for a long time, and the bride was in tears.
In some weddings, a couple were manipulated by the master of ceremonies like puppets, mechanically standing on the stage and smiling at the guests, mechanically drinking a toast and saying I do. Although they held each other's hands tightly from beginning to end, their eyes were not full of love.
For those who get married because of love, the wedding is a romantic witness and a lifelong memory. For those who marry because they are suitable for marriage, the wedding is a custom, a show for others, and even a means to recover money.
Whether he loves you or not can be seen from the way he treats the wedding.
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I won't compromise for you in case of disagreement.
It is not difficult to talk about marriage in a relationship, but it is easier said than done, and there are a lot of troubles. Because marriage is different from love, it is a combination of two families and, to some extent, a combination of interests.
Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and disputes are indispensable when it comes to money. How many feelings go their separate ways when talking about marriage, and even die of old age.
I have always stressed that marriage must find someone who loves each other. First, marriage is essentially a loss. If you don't love him, you can't do everything for him. If he didn't love you so much, he would never be willing to compromise a little more for you.
I once heard a man say to his brothers on the wine table, "I thought it was a good thing to marry her because she was sensible." Who knew so many things would happen? I can tell her, so I will follow the rules of our family, otherwise the marriage will not be concluded. What trouble! "
I don't know how sad the girl will be when she hears this, but I'd rather she heard it, because then she realized that the man who didn't want to compromise for her didn't want to save face or be afraid of trouble, but didn't love her at all.
Love is tolerance, giving and compromise.
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I won't share everything with you, nor will I let you into his inner world.
My friend Dandan met her husband on a blind date at the age of 28. Because both of them are older and more suitable, they got married after half a year.
For Dandan, her husband doesn't like to talk, and he is also a good man at home. He will take the initiative to share the housework, give her enough living expenses every month and prepare small gifts for her on holidays.
She always felt that her husband loved her, but she was not good at expressing it. Until one time, I accidentally pulled out the chat record between my husband and a girl from his mobile phone and looked at the chat record that could not be turned out on the screen. She was desperate.
Judging from the chat records, it is confirmed that although the girl is her husband's predecessor, they have not seen each other since they separated. Of course, they didn't talk about anything ambiguous and excessive, just some parents' stories and each other's joys and sorrows.
However, he never told her these little things or his little thoughts. What impressed her most was that he was obviously unhappy for a while. She asked him several times, but he shook his head and said nothing, but he turned his head and chatted with his predecessor. He also spoiled his predecessor for comfort, which made her feel trance. The husband she saw seems to be completely different from the husband in the chat record.