1, prepare gifts for children
On September 1 day, children will carry small schoolbags and walk into the primary school gate happily. One day, this little baby, who has placed her mother's infinite concern and expectation, will disappear into the corner of the teaching building and start a new stage of life alone. This day is not far away.
When children enter school life, they enter a new stage. 16 years later, the child left like this, and when he walked out of the university, he was already an adult. When he came in, he was still a little baby who didn't understand the world and relied on his parents everywhere. When he came out, he was already a person who could cope with the storm of life alone.
School life, for a person, is a magical journey. This is crucial. Now, the baby is standing at the school gate. Mothers, what expectations and wishes do you have for your children?
I wish you success! This represents the mother's greatest hope and best wishes for her children.
Use these days to choose a souvenir for your baby! Choose carefully, choose carefully. On September 1 day, the day when the child walked into the campus, he solemnly gave it to the child: that is a mother's heart! The child doesn't understand yet. But one day, he will grow up and understand. When he grows up and understands, he will be moved to tears for his mother's heart.
2. Understand the role of mother
Anxious parents, in other words, you girls, you'd better educate your children first and know the role of mothers. Mom, applying for a father refers to the whole, not to a specific mother ... the mother's self is closely integrated with the child's self, which is inseparable. Especially when children are young, they are inseparable.
Mothers must first understand this. Then you will know where anxiety comes from and why it is inevitable. In other words, a self is divided into two halves, and the half is out of reach. How do you feel about this stage when you are separated from your other half? There must be feelings, right? This feeling is still very strong. This feeling is anxiety. Why are you anxious? If you are worried and helpless, you will be anxious.
Children go to school, a new environment, a new starting point.
Anxiety is the natural feeling that the mother is separated from the other half, but she can't touch the other half. Anxiety is inevitable. Hello, dad. I'm not tied to my children, so I don't usually feel anxious. When children go to school, anxiety is a mother's sexual problem, not her individual problem. In other words, you are not the only one who suffers. The fact is that all mothers suffer from anxiety. So, what should you do?
First of all, since I'm not the only one suffering (sometimes, I'm painful and happy), let's accept it frankly. Just like when you gave birth. Then, you know, what is the best way to adjust your mentality? This is action. You must act and find something to do so that you won't always feel sorry for yourself. ...
Tomorrow, September 1, the baby will walk into the school gate. At that moment, anxiety rose to the extreme ... Action is the only magic weapon to dilute anxiety, so mothers should make some preparations for action when they "rise to the extreme".
Step 3 look into the eyes and talk
The man looked into his eyes and spoke. Why should he look into the eyes and talk?
It's simple. Every hemp, when talking about teachers, has an unconscious assumption tendency ... I feel that teachers are made of special materials, so I have a lot of expectations and imagination. In fact, there are also teachers here. First, people like you and me.
Do you know what happens subconsciously when people communicate?
He wants to seek feedback. For example, teachers give lectures, and lectures are a kind of communication for teachers. Teachers know knowledge and should pass it on to children. When she lectures, she will constantly ... subconsciously seek feedback from the children in the class. Many times, children can't talk. How did he know what he said? Have the children learned?
Here is a secret: any teacher will find several "benchmark students" for any class he teaches; The teacher will constantly observe the reaction of the "benchmark students" to what he teaches. If Ji Sheng frowns, he will know that he has not fully explained what he just said, and he will continue to explain what he just said until the doubts on Ji Sheng's face are cleared. So, how can the teacher know whether the child understands? Through eye contact, the first step of eye contact is to look into the other person's eyes when you speak. School hasn't started yet, and the class hasn't been formed yet. Actually, there is no class yet, so that we won't be distracted by each other's demeanor.
Later, Father Shen found this method very useful. Some people, especially leaders who hold positions in state-owned enterprises in institutions and institutions, will always look at each other with new eyes. Dad Shen doesn't know if it's intentional. Shen's father took this approach, and those people showed it to Shen's father very uncomfortable, and some forgot what they were talking about. They are used to staring at their eyes and suddenly meet a worse one, but their hearts are empty. I don't know what happened anyway.
However, when communicating face-to-face, Shen's father generally doesn't bully people and says what he should say. Once you meet a stranger, and this guy doesn't know much about it, if you come up and fight with Shen Dad, it will be miserable: Shen Dad stares at his nose and beats everyone who dares to challenge.
In fact, looking at the other person's eyes properly (not cross-eyed) can make the other person feel that you attach great importance to this conversation and him during communication. This is a very important link in communication.
Whether you attach importance to benchmarking students or not, it is always important to ponder slowly and cultivate children to look into each other's eyes when they speak and say, don't look timidly. As for how to train children to look into each other's eyes and talk, Shen Dad has no experience. We can explore slowly and share success and lessons together. With goals, ways and means can always be found.
When children communicate face to face, they have positive eye contact with each other, not to say that they are trained to "speak". Some parents confuse these two things. They are very successful, but the children just talk nonsense.
As far as teachers are concerned, they don't like children who always keep their heads down and ask nothing, but it's nothing. Most children are like this. However, it is really "hateful" to face a child who doesn't open a door, regardless of it, and talks nonsense with his mouth open. There are several such children in each class.
Slowly guide children to communicate effectively with each other with body language and vision; Don't encourage children to talk but not practice, there is a big difference.
Dad Shen doesn't pay attention to the content of classroom teaching. In fact, there is no need to pay attention to it: the current level of teachers is high enough, and every teacher can teach children well what they teach in primary schools. It is the teacher's duty to teach children the knowledge in the classroom, so parents don't have to worry too much; Parents should worry about their parents' things: how to prepare their children for that knowledge.