Wedding custom In the old society, the "red event" of marrying a daughter-in-law in northwest China lasted for three days. On the first day, it gets married, on the second day, it entertains guests, and on the third day, it says goodbye. Southeast source lasted for two days, the first day to marry and entertain guests; See the guests off the next day. Pay attention to diversity, step by step and be polite. After two or three days, the bride and groom will be exhausted, but they must stick to the end, or they will be laughed at. Since the 1960s, it has gradually changed to one day. On this day, the main etiquette must be completed.

From the perspective of marriage tools, modern times have undergone many changes. Before 1950s, sedan chairs, carts and cars were also used for weddings. In the 1960s, many people rode horses and donkeys (men) and married mules. Because mules don't "sit on their tires", it is generally believed that married daughters-in-law will not have children. Cycling in the 1970s; In the late 1980 s, I began to take cars or other motor vehicles.

1. Send a sedan chair: On the wedding day, send a sedan chair to greet the bride and start "doing things". Greet friends, relatives and clerks for breakfast early in the morning, and then prepare to leave for the wedding.

Clean indoor and outdoor sanitation; Red paper couplets are posted on the gate and the small door; Where the word "Xi" is posted, it is "Xi" Li; Put new white paper on the window, stick grilles; When the suona began to ring, the farmer suddenly showed a thriving and beaming atmosphere.

The groom should burn paper in front of the graves of ancestors or parents (deceased) to pay homage to them and "comfort" them. He has grown up and is ready to get married and start a family. Then I shaved my head and changed clothes, put on robes and jackets, new shoes and socks, borrowed a "top hat" or bought a new "lining hat", inserted gold foil flowers, which were brand-new from head to toe, and then served a drinking plate, accompanied by suona, to toast and kowtow to the old and young husbands, as the groom's "wearing red", one on his shoulders and one on his chest.

When you marry a woman, you should carry a "welcome dress" bag, which not only contains clothes such as "hijab", but also a small amount of symbols such as bran, salt and green onions. Because bran is homophonic with "Fu", Bao bran symbolizes "Five Blessingg"; Salt is homophonic with "fate", and salt symbolizes "God-given marriage"; Onion is homophonic with "from", and wrapping onion symbolizes the bride's "intelligence and virtue".

More importantly, the package of "wedding dress" must be wrapped with "wedding table" (some are sewn in the quilt). "Marriage" is written on a piece of red paper, and the content is generally:

It's lucky to push the wedding, and it will never be combined with Zhou Tang.

Pregnant women don't avoid it, and it never hurts to marry and give it away.

The three evil spirits in front of the horse should avoid each other and go up and down the car door to Kyrgyzstan.

Lu Yu Well, the stone should be covered with red. If it meets a grand ceremony, it will give way.

Copper money grass beans meet the door, newcomers enter the room, and they are rich and glorious.

Happy from now on, live a long life.

XX year x month x day

The original intention of "marriage form" is to order the devils to stay away, eliminate all kinds of taboos and maintain the smooth flow of sedan chairs. In the eyes of local people, it is no small matter to carry the bag of "welcome clothes". It must be managed by careful people who know manners, and everything must be wrapped. Otherwise, it is not only embarrassing for the woman to see something missing, but also difficult.

Red paper couplets are posted on both sides of the sedan chair door, which read "Flowers bloom all the way, and the sedan chair is full of joy" or "Sheng tube attracts the beauty of the boudoir, and the colorful sedan chair meets the beauty of the famous family". Putting a bucket of wheat in the sedan chair for the bride to sit on, commonly known as "sitting on a bucket of wheat", means that the bride has plenty of food and clothing after marriage; There is also a big rooster, commonly known as "sedan chair chicken", which means the groom welcomes him. Before the sedan chair comes out, the groom gets on the sedan chair and lifts it up and down for a while, which also shows the groom's welcome. Then the suona cleared the way, with the sedan chair in front and the horses and chariots behind, lined up in a string and married.

On the afternoon of the wedding day, the old man will burn a kang for the new house and a wooden pier on the kang, which is a sign of "burning the pier this year and having grandchildren next year". Mother-in-law or sister-in-law should personally press nuts such as walnuts, dates and peanuts on the four corners under the reed mat on the bride and groom's kang. According to the homonym, it means "early birth, long life."

On the way back from the wedding, if the sedan chair meets another sedan chair, exchange small gifts to make way, indicating mutual interference and safety. In case of funeral, you have to divert the road, or cover the sedan chair with red silk to ward off evil spirits before shooting. If the two in-laws get too close, they have to take a detour to show their dignity and show off. At the same time, in a village, two families get married, and sedan chairs compete for early return, which means that whoever has a daughter-in-law who enters early will have children early and be happy and harmonious.

2. Wedding flowers: It's etiquette to return from the wedding sedan chair. In the past, the return of sedan chairs was mostly controlled by the sun pressing the mountain and near dusk. In ancient times, "marriage" was regarded as "fainting". "White Tiger Biography" said: "Married people get married when they are unconscious, so they get married; Marriage, women get married because of their husbands, so they get married. " Why do ancestors hold weddings at dusk? Folklorists have different views on this.

It is said to be related to the phenomenon of robbing marriage in the slavery era. Since it's a robbery, it's necessary to hide people's eyes and ears, hide their ugliness in the dark and get married secretly, which will become a habit. Another is to take men (men) to welcome women (women). "In the Soul of Li Yi's Poems" said: "The ceremony of marrying a wife is based on fainting, hence the name. If you want to faint, Yang will go to Yin. " It can be seen that in ancient times, when the wedding ceremony was in a coma, it meant that the yang was coming to the yin. If you don't get married at this time, marriage will be untimely and unlucky.

The sedan chair is not far from the door of the house. A "striker" will come back to report that the sedan chair will come back and get ready for the flowers. Suddenly, the suona sounded, firecrackers exploded and the audience was blocked. The sedan chair was decided according to the direction stated in the "Marriage Letter" (the direction of getting off the sedan chair depends on the time of the sedan chair. The rule is: Chen should go west, not north at noon, east, and Haizi ugly should go south). The bridesmaid led the groom around the bridge three times and reversed three times.

The bride was helped down by the bridesmaid (commonly known as "the one who helped her daughter-in-law") and stepped on the carpet laid on the ground. It is an old habit of "the bride and groom walk on the carpet of the husband's family without touching the soil" that the two carpets move forward in exchange. The bride and groom walked side by side to the flower room where they worshipped the world. The hostess greeted the "big guest" who sent her to the neighbor's house for tea and relaxation, and then served her dinner. ?

3. Worship heaven and earth: When worshipping heaven and earth, there are also many stresses on the setting of the drawing room. Generally, a picture is hung on the wall in the middle of Zhuangzi, and the word "Xi Xi" is slowly attached; There are incense table offerings on the table, and the red candle shines high; Some also enshrine the memorial tablet of "Three Realms of Heaven and Earth, Duke of Zhou, Peach Blossom God"; Also put a bucket, a scale, a ruler, a rolling pin, an abacus and a mirror. Why do you put these things?

Obviously related to myths and legends, symbolizing good luck. According to legend, Duke Zhou (not Zhou Gongdan of the Western Zhou Dynasty) and Peach Blossom were originally two fairies around the Jade Emperor in Tiangong. Because the boy repeatedly broke the precepts, he was banished to the world and reincarnated as Duke Zhou. When he is on earth, he often understands secrets and breaks dogma. The Jade Emperor sent many generals to try to subdue him and punish him, but predicted that he would flee first. Later, he secretly sent a girl to the lower bound, reincarnated as a peach blossom, and married him to wait for an opportunity to surrender. Unexpectedly, he found himself in love with Peach Blossom, and they became a happy couple.

It is passed down by the people as the god of "God-given marriage". People often say that love pride "goes to the Peach Blossom Garden", which also comes from this. As for putting a bucket and a weight on the table, there are many legends, such as symbolizing "fairness and rationality", "balance and fullness", "three media and six certificates", "husband and wife are United" and "treat each other with sincerity" and so on. There used to be many lyrics of bridesmaids, such as "entering the church", "worshipping the church" and "announcing marriage". Different characters, simple and convenient. This is one of them:

Entry words:

How gorgeous the scenery in the drawing room is, and the colorful clouds are auspicious.

Qingluan can dance for a thousand years, and husband and wife will live long.

See the bride:

Looking for peach blossoms to avoid Qin, peach blossoms are another spring.

Fairy fish in Taoyuan drift with the tide, just waiting for Yu Lang to pay attention.

One worships the heavens, the earth, the sun, the moon and the stars, and the other worships the Oriental Lady.

Three worships in Nanbingding fire and four worships in Xijin,

Worship the agriculture in the north and the black chicken soil in the middle,

Seven generations of ancestors, eight fathers, mothers, uncles, aunts and brothers,

Nine visits to teachers and ten visits to relatives and friends.

Wedding notice:

luxuriant

On XX, XX, XX's successor, with the instrument of offering wine, I want to inform the God of X family the day before yesterday:

Heaven and earth meet Thailand, protect Thai Yuan, and there are two beauties in the world, next to Xingshe Bridge. XX, XX husband and wife get together, get married, worship their ancestors together, celebrate good words in the flower hall, have a happy marriage, respect and love each other for a hundred years. Ancestors in the world, I dare to be happy. My ancestor Fuxi is a wise man after enlightenment, and will continue forever. Your suggestion.

Later, these lyrics and essays were abolished. When offering sacrifices to heaven and earth, only the best man sings: first, offering sacrifices to heaven and earth, second, offering sacrifices to ancestors, third, offering sacrifices to parents and couples, so the bride and groom can bow down and salute accordingly. Local customs believe that worshipping heaven and earth will become a formal couple.

4. Entering the bridal chamber: The bridal chamber is also deep. The language comes from Lu Ji's Gentleman Thinking and Walking: "The first is lofty, and the wedding room is a pavilion." In the future, the bedroom of the newlyweds will be called the new house.