Both parties agree to get married, that is, engagement, commonly known as engagement. Engagement requires a bride price, also known as a bride price, which has local customs. In ancient times, leather and silk items were used as dowry, and it was not until the Han Dynasty that dowry was used. Future generations will own all their property, depending on their family situation. Engaged men and women are regarded as husband and wife, and others are not allowed to visit relatives and friends.
During the period from engagement to marriage, both parties should give gifts to each other on holidays. The wedding ceremony is decided by the fortune teller according to the horoscope.
One or two days before the wedding, the man will give the woman a gift for a banquet. When a woman receives a gift, she will feel rewarded. At this time, relatives and friends of both sides will send a gift. Congratulations to the man are mostly money, wine, joy and happiness. Things are the main things for the woman, mostly clothes, utensils and cosmetics, which are called wedding gifts.
The day before the wedding, commonly known as dowry. On this day, the bride's family puts the dowry in the yard for people to visit, which is called putting the dowry. Dowry depends on financial resources, and silk quilts are essential for pillows, boxes, cabinets, tables, barrels, basins and dressing tables. In the old society, for ostentation and extravagance, some wealthy families prepared all the daily necessities and means of production, and some even married them off, saying that the dowry of the whole house, including woodland, was included in the dowry, until the coffin after death, the basket of poor beggars and dog sticks. Toilets are indispensable in dowry, commonly known as children's bucket, which contains red eggs, meaning happy fruit and giving away children. When you send makeup, everything is counted by the elevator. The rich and the poor are different, and the rich have hundreds of elevators.
In the old society, eight people carried a sedan chair and four people carried one. When the sedan chair arrives at the door of the woman's house, women in Nanyang, Henan and other places close the door. The man fired a shot and played music to show his announcement. Folk songs have the custom of singing "Blow three times, hit three times, and blow in-laws to open the door". Before the girl gets on the sedan chair, she must wring her hair off her face with cotton wool, weigh her face, take a shower and dress up, commonly known as playing sedan chair. At noon, the woman held a farewell dinner and invited guests and the man to marry.
Before getting on the sedan chair, the bride should say goodbye to her ancestors and bow down to her parents. The sedan chair is usually carried by the woman's brother or the bride is carried into the sedan chair. When leaving, there is a custom of crying and marrying. The woman's parents, brothers and sisters should send each other tears and say some auspicious words while crying. They think that the more she cries, the more children her daughter will have. When the bride heard her mother's cry, she could only cry in harmony to say goodbye.
In a man's house, like in northern China, the bride has to step over a saddle and then bite an apple to show her peace.
Visiting the church requires three kneels and nine knocks, first to worship heaven and earth, first to worship ancestors, then to worship parents, and then to bid farewell to husband and wife, commonly known as heaven and earth. After the ceremony, the bride was sent to the new house, but her feet were not allowed to step on the ground. The floor should be covered with sacks, mats, futons, etc. And they will change before and after walking. This is called bag-passing, which is subculture.