For example, in Myanmar, young Shan men will give betel nuts to each other when they find the right person. If the woman accepts betel nut, it means that she agrees to associate with men. Shan people also have the custom that after marriage, the man has to work in the woman's house for three years before he can take his wife home. However, if the man can climb the betel nut tree alone and pick betel nuts for his lover, he can avoid working for three years.
In China, betel nut also participated in every step of love and marriage between Li Men and women. The Records of Hainan Island records that "on the 15th and 6th of the year, the western women will provide money for wine and meat to be sent to their families, which is called" promising life "or" sending betel nuts ". On that day, both men and women entertained their guests. There are also so-called brides. Some men invite their relatives and women to dress up and go to their daughter's house. Women wear bright makeup and present several bags of betel nuts and candied fruit. Male relatives receive betel nuts and give one or two yuan a pack, which is called' gambling'. " This shows that betel nut plays an important role in Li nationality's marriage and banquet.