As in daily life, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are born with two enemies.

Even if one of them is willing to bend down to please the other, the flattered party will "unconsciously" take Joe as a position and pretend to be willing to refuse.

Because "disgust" cannot be concealed, and it is also the emotion that is most easily used as an excuse.

It is said that if you want family harmony, you have to roll with the punches and roll with the punches. However, some people like to make a fuss about small things and regard the original beautiful things as "malice".

So contradictions arise and their feelings will break down.

0 1 I spent 1500 yuan gave her mother-in-law a meeting gift, but I didn't expect her to do so.

Zhang Li, a netizen, met her in-laws for the first time and was put in a duel.

She has been in love with her boyfriend for a year. He urges her to go back to her hometown with him to meet her parents all day, but she doesn't want to go.

On the one hand, she thinks that their time together is too short to get married, and it is not good to meet their parents too early;

Secondly, her parents have always disagreed with this relationship. They dislike the man's poor conditions and feel that the door is not right and the two sides are not suitable.

However, Zhang Li had to promise her boyfriend a holiday and go back to visit her parents with him.

Boyfriend is very happy. Before he left, he took Zhang Li to the shopping mall to pick out clothes and said, "Buy a down jacket for my mother. She always said that she wanted a warm down jacket. It is too expensive to sell in the city, and she is reluctant to buy it. "

Zhang Li is a little guilty: "This means that I will buy expensive." She didn't show dissatisfaction and chose obediently.

They finally chose a long down jacket, big red, with spliced fur collars, which was beautiful and fashionable. After the discount of 1500 yuan, Zhang Li gritted his teeth and paid for it.

She has just started working, and usually buys clothes for herself, which is only a few hundred dollars. The clothes she was wearing were bought last year.

Zhang Li is used to frugality, because she has a younger brother at home, and her parents have secretly told her that she will definitely focus on her younger brother in the future.

In other words, Zhang Li is responsible for her own life and her family can't help her.

So now, she is willing to spend this money to please her future mother-in-law, and hopes that she will be better to her husband's family, and his family will be better to her in the future.

But who knows, when two people came home tossing and turning, the mother-in-law shook off her clothes and tried them on, and directly said, "Daughter-in-law, do you look down on us rural people?"

My mother-in-law cried and said that I looked down on her. I am really wronged.

Zhang Li was speechless. She looked at her boyfriend and wondered why she looked down.

She explained: "Aunt, this brand-name dress is not cheap, so I chose the latest model. What do you mean? "

Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law turned to wipe her tears, and her mouth broke into tears: "I am short and fat. How can I work if you choose such a long one? " It is not easy to squat. If you look down on our family, you won't come at all, and you don't have to buy clothes to tease me. "

Mother-in-law talks more and more vigorously, and everyone is embarrassed as soon as they meet. Her boyfriend advised, "mom, where did you think?" Lily heard that you are reluctant to buy yourself winter clothes, especially for you. How can I look down on you? "

"That is, you see, this is my ankle. The zipper is still tight, and I am obviously buried by clothes. " The mother-in-law turned her head and began to comfort her son: "I told you not to look for girls in the city." I hate to let you say it, but I have to be wronged by my family. You just won't listen. "

Zhang Li said she couldn't think of anything. She bought a dress with her own money, but was accused of so many things. Her mother-in-law played this trick of crying, making two noises and hanging herself perfectly. This is obviously an excuse to give yourself time.

She paused and saw that her boyfriend didn't come to comfort herself. Her father-in-law was rubbing his hands beside him, and he didn't know what to say. He fully understood one thing: "This family is determined not to contact again."

So she called her boyfriend on the spot: "Your mother is right. I look down on you. I want to go home. You can give me the money for clothes later. 1500 yuan, and we will write it off."

Then she went out to take a taxi with her bag on her back, and finally found a private car on the side of the road and was taken to the station.

And her boyfriend, from the time she went out to the time she got on the train home, never asked her if she was safe.

Has Zhang Li been wronged? She was wronged and wronged. She never thought that a dress would make such a joke, and what she didn't expect was that she saw the face of her boyfriend's family.

03 "Looking down" is the usual trick?

When Zhang Li went home to talk about it with friends and relatives, a friend told her, "Don't you know? Generally, a mother-in-law looks down on her daughter-in-law if she doesn't look down on her daughter-in-law. This is the usual trick. "

Zhang Li asked, "Why?"

The friend said, "Because you can't argue, once the other person thinks you look down on her, you can always find some reasons that you can't explain. I have seen some people use allergies as an excuse not to eat, and that's how they drive their daughter-in-law out. "

I have to say that these so-called "tricks" are really unreasonable.

Emotion itself is what you want. Even if the family doesn't recognize the child's love object, you can say it generously. There is no need to refuse in this "wonderful" way.

Such an injury not only hurts the other party, but also leaves a hidden danger that it is difficult to get along with; Second, in order to achieve their own goals, it is really counterintuitive to hurt each other in such a bitter way.

The next day, Zhang Li's boyfriend contacted her to apologize, saying that she shouldn't have ignored her feelings yesterday and admitted that her mother had done something wrong.

Unfortunately, Zhang Li has lost her way and decided to draw a line with her boyfriend and never contact her again.