In traditional Chinese weddings, there is a custom called "marriage dispute". This is a kind of wedding activity with banter and jokes as the main form, aiming at increasing the interest and active atmosphere of the wedding. However, with the progress of society and the change of people's ideas, some vulgar and radical marital quarrels have aroused widespread concern and discussion in society. This happened to me when I attended a friend's wedding. Let's share my experience and coping style.
It was a sunny day and I was invited to attend a friend's wedding. The wedding scene was full of excitement and laughter. However, when the bride and groom entered the venue, a sudden wedding event made me feel very embarrassed. Some relatives and friends began to play practical jokes on the bride and groom, such as painting the groom's face as a big face and hiding the bride's shoes. Although these behaviors seem harmless, in my opinion, they have gone beyond the normal scope of marriage and become a bit excessive.
Faced with this situation, I first chose to stay calm. I know that the wedding is a big day for the bride and groom, and they hope to get the blessing and support from relatives and friends on this special day. Therefore, I can't affect their good mood because of my embarrassment and discomfort. At the same time, I also understand that marriage is a traditional custom, and its significance lies in enhancing the feelings between relatives and friends, rather than making people feel embarrassed and uncomfortable.
Secondly, I try to understand this kind of marriage behavior. I know these relatives and friends mean no harm, they just want to express their blessings and joy to the bride and groom in this way. But I also think that this excessive marriage behavior does not conform to the values of modern society, and may bring unnecessary trouble and pressure to the bride and groom.
Finally, I chose to take an active part and do my part to alleviate this embarrassing atmosphere. When someone tries to play a prank on me, I will accept it with a smile and then fight back. I find that doing this can not only get rid of my embarrassment, but also make others feel relaxed and happy.
Generally speaking, I think marriage is an interesting traditional custom, which can increase the interest and active atmosphere of the wedding. However, it should also be noted that excessive marital disputes may bring unnecessary trouble and pressure to the bride and groom. Therefore, while respecting tradition, we should also pay attention to personal feelings and conduct marriage activities moderately.
In the future wedding, if I encounter similar situations again, I will try my best to remain calm and rational and do my part to maintain the harmonious atmosphere of the wedding. At the same time, I will try to guide others to understand and accept moderate marriage behavior, so that the wedding can truly become an occasion full of joy and blessings.
Marriage is a traditional custom, which reflects people's wishes and expectations for marriage. But with the progress of society and the change of people's ideas, we should adjust and change this custom in time to make it more in line with the values and needs of modern society. Only in this way can the wedding really become an interesting and meaningful wedding activity, rather than an embarrassing and uncomfortable prank.