Can the wedding bride price be paid in installments?
It's hard to achieve.
To put it another way, if the bride price is given by your family, you don't need to give it directly, because after marriage, your wife's daughter will become your family when she marries you. How can you give it in stages? Isn't this more burdensome to his daughter?
What if I can't get married because of the bride price?
First: two people agree first.
For the bride price of marriage, two people should discuss it clearly by themselves, first find out how much the man can give himself and how much he wants, reach an agreement on these issues, and then discuss it with both parents. If two people don't discuss it in advance, don't mention it to your family for the time being.
Second: Pay more attention to your feelings than the so-called bride price.
You must give a bride price when you get married, but this bride price is not the final factor that determines your marriage. In fact, it is only a subsidiary condition of marriage, but it can be big or small, just an accessory to icing on the cake. However, what determines your emotional affiliation is whether the other person is worthy of love in your heart, whether you are worthy of unremitting efforts for the other person, and whether the other person really loves you. If he is willing to pay more bride price, but he does not treat you wholeheartedly and does not give you enough care, then even if he is willing to pay more bride price, he can't marry him. If he loves you very much and is willing to work hard for you and give you enough warmth and care, it doesn't matter if the bride price is less.
Third, know how to respect the opinions of both parents.
It's not easy for them to raise you. They take care of you, are considerate, and everything is centered on you. Now that our daughters are getting married and our sons are getting married, we must respect them. Love is between you two, but marriage involves two families. On the issue of bride price, you should respect the opinions of both parents. They just want you to have a better life. There is no need to make a fuss about the bride price, and the woman should never make a fuss about the bride price to repay her parents' kindness. Just pay more money. The most important thing is your filial piety. True filial piety cannot be measured by money.
Fourth, don't blame each other, let alone be impulsive.
If a man can't meet your bride price requirements, then calm down first, don't be too impulsive, and don't complain about each other. Both of them attach great importance to marriage. If one party complains first, it will make the other party more anxious. At first, he tried to solve the problem, but if he listened to your complaints, he would lose confidence in you. Two people should continue to discuss patiently and understand each other's situation.
How to treat the installment payment of wedding bride price
The bride price is actually in the moment. It's not as meaningful as before, but more of a form. However, on another level, it becomes the key to verify the stability of the relationship between two people. You know, before marriage, many people parted ways because of the bride price. Part of the reason is that one of the lions has a big mouth, which is unrealistic. However, in fact, a greater part is because of disappointment.
Disappointed with each other's attitude towards such problems, without understanding and consideration, the so-called love is just a feeling and talk at that moment. Although the bride price cannot determine the success or failure of two people's marriage, it is a test before marriage. Many people think that marriage is the end of life, but in fact it is just a new starting point of life.
Therefore, it must be the details of how two people get along, whether to accept the bride price or not, or to verify the relationship status of two people from the side.
Why is the bride price prone to contradictions?
Originally, the bride price was meant to show sincerity, but now marriage has become more and more clearly marked. Families with sons feel that the pressure of bride price is too great now that their sons are married. As for the woman, it seems that the bride price can show her daughter's Excellence when she gets married.
Both parents think that the child is not bad and should be "worthy" of a higher price, so they give the child a set of statements: "He can't afford the money. Do you expect him to be kind to you? /Their family is like this. Do you expect her to be good in the future? "
Although most people think that the bride price is for the future use of two couples. But when it comes to material things, marriage begins to change. Although after marriage, the affair of two people has become the affair of two families, we can't put down our real family and devote ourselves to the family where we came from.