Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once described marriage like this:

Love doesn't have to be intimate, and marriage doesn't have to be spring night every night. Love should be kept warm and marriage should be kept fresh. Marriage without love is a mistake, and love without marriage is a pity.

In real life, there are always people who can't tell the difference between love and marriage, and always think that they are the same thing, but in fact, love and marriage are two different things. Some people say that marriage is an extension of love. This sentence is both right and wrong and needs to be treated dialectically.

In my opinion, love does not need to be considered too much, as long as two people have passion. But marriage is not like this. On the contrary, marriage needs to be considered too much. I think marriage is equivalent to life. Any trivial matter may affect the quality of marriage, which requires both husband and wife to work hard.

But there are always people who like to confuse love with marriage, treat marriage with the attitude of love, and demand marriage with the standard of love. The consequence of this is that when the passion fades, it will become more and more difficult for couples to get along in their marriage life. There are frequent marital conflicts, and the relationship between husband and wife becomes more and more dull, and finally marriage becomes boring.

Love is the foundation of marriage, but it is by no means the same as marriage. When a couple becomes husband and wife, it doesn't just end with a wedding, but with identity and responsibility. Without responsibility, marriage is meaningless.

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Yuling recently encountered a particularly annoying thing. There was an emotional crisis between her and her husband. This time, the contradiction is more serious. Yuling is going to divorce him, but he refuses to live or die, and the two are deadlocked. Yuling is very upset about this.

Yuling has been married to her husband Paul Yu Pin for more than three years and her daughter is two years old. If it weren't for her daughter, Yuling might have divorced him long ago, but this time Yuling really couldn't stand it. She thought that the continuation of this marriage would only make herself more painful and there was no room for redemption.

The marriage of two people was not valued by people around them from the beginning, because their family backgrounds are too different, so they should not belong to the wrong family. But Yuling likes Paul Yupin very much, so she refuses to listen to the people around her and insists on marrying Paul Yupin. She thought marriage was the same as love, but this time she was all wet.

Yuling's husband Paul Yu Pin is actually an out-and-out Phoenix man. As for the reputation of Phoenix Man, I believe everyone has heard about it. It was the Phoenix man who scared all the women, but Yuling wanted to marry him anyway, which led to the beginning of this painful marriage.

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Paul Yupin's family is poor, his hometown is in a remote rural area, and his parents are farmers, making a living by farming. Paul Yuping has two sisters and one sister. Because there are many children at home, she has always been poor.

However, Paul Yupin has done well in his studies since he was a child. At the beginning, he was admitted to the university by his own efforts and became the only college student in his family. With the joint efforts of the whole family, he was sent to college.

After graduation, Paul Yupin chose to stay in this city. He found a job and took a part-time job outside of work. He tried to make money only to change his fate.

This is the Phoenix Man, but Yuling likes him. She thinks he is mature, stable, strong in work ability and self-motivated. He must be a potential stock. That's why I'm with Paul Yuping.

Two people have been in love for more than a year and feel that they know each other almost, so they are ready to get married. But this marriage was opposed by Yuling's parents.

Parents think it will be very hard for their daughter to marry such a phoenix man in the future, and Paul Yupin's family environment is too complicated, so it will be very tiring to marry such a family in the future.

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But Yuling didn't listen to her parents' dissuasion at all, and insisted on marrying Paul Yupin, even at the expense of falling out with her parents. Parents can't dissuade their daughter, but they have to agree to the marriage.

Paul's family is poor, so he can't afford a house or a bride price. These Yuling accepted, not only that, but her parents also married a suite so that they could have a place to live without renting a house.

Married life is not as beautiful as Yuling imagined. On the contrary, many trivial things in life test the feelings of two people. When the shortcomings of two people are gradually exposed to each other, differences and contradictions gradually appear.

Two people quarreled for the first time because of the family from which conservation products were subsidized. After marriage, Paul never paid Yuling the rest of his salary, and he didn't care about the expenses at home. All the money was paid to his parents at home. Yuling feels unreasonable. You're married. How can you subsidize your family when you should put it first?

Two people quarreled because of this matter, but Paul Yu Pin still went his own way, and Yuling became more and more disappointed with him.

After a year of marriage, Yuling became pregnant. Paul Yupin took the initiative to take care of Yuling, in fact, he wanted his mother to go to town to play.

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The arrival of her mother-in-law made Yuling's life even more sad. There are many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because of their different living habits and consumption concepts.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting more and more serious, and they often quarrel when they disagree. And Paul Yu Pin's attitude made Yuling even more disappointed. He either turned a blind eye or sided with his mother and accused Yuling.

From then on, Yuling thought about divorce. But thinking about the baby in her belly, she put up with it. After the baby was born, because it was a girl, both her mother-in-law and Paul Yupin preferred sons to daughters, which made Yuling more miserable.

Since her mother-in-law knew that Yuling owned the house by herself, she always wanted to occupy the dowry room. One year after the baby was born, Paul Yu Pin took back his father. Yuling repeatedly told him to send his in-laws back to their hometown, but Paul Yupin didn't listen and called Yuling unfilial. The couple's feelings are getting weaker and weaker, and Yuling has been completely disappointed with Bin. If it weren't for her daughter, she would have divorced Paul Yupin.

Not long ago, my mother-in-law mentioned adding a house. This time, she even said that a "democratic family meeting" would be held, and everyone in the family would vote to decide whether the house should be named.

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As a result, Paul Yu Pin and her parents agreed to add their names. Yuling looked at their family and felt ridiculous. In order to occupy his own house, he simply lost face.

Mother-in-law is still shouting there: the minority is subordinate to the majority! I will add my son's name to the house tomorrow.

Yuling doesn't want to live this life anymore. She said directly: No, I will divorce your son tomorrow. Get out of here, your family!

Hearing the divorce, Paul Yupin and her mother-in-law were frightened and begged Yuling not to divorce. But Yuling has made up her mind that this time she must sever all relations with this phoenix man.

It is Yuling's fault to regard marriage as love. Many women make such mistakes. In the face of marriage, we must be calm and prudent, and think it over before making a decision. Because this is not only responsible for yourself, but also for the other half.