Face: In the past, people kept up with the joneses. At that time, the house was no better than the car, but the gift money was more than anyone else, and the three gold was heavy. In order to save face, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had to buy three gold coins, and the new daughter-in-law took them with her. The family thought that their girl married a good family, and her husband felt the scenery!
First, I think it's recognition from my husband's family!
As a post-80s generation, I don't feel much about gold diamond rings. My mother left me all hers, so my mother-in-law said she wouldn't give me three gold, and I didn't think there was anything wrong!
They are free to fall in love, and I didn't expect my husband's family to fall in love and get married. When I got married, my mother-in-law said that gold was useless and not as good as money, so she didn't buy gold and gave me a passbook of 200 thousand (didn't tell me the password) I was confused at that time, too. I think my mother-in-law is quite right. I can't take it out with me!
After the wedding, my mother-in-law said that this 200,000 will be kept for us. She was young and heartless, so she gave it back to her then. So, I didn't spend a penny to marry me, and I picked it up for nothing!
After I got married, I understood a truth. If I don't give you anything when I get married, it will be very difficult to get married, that is, I have no money. Therefore, when parents talk about bride price, they must have three gold, first prove that they are married, and then prove that the man's parents approve!
Second, steamed bread is a breath, which is indisputable. Gold can't represent love, but it can prove your future family status in your husband's family!
Sometimes I wonder, is it really good that the woman's parents are all kinds of dowry and the man's parents are all kinds of hardships and poverty? Marrying a daughter-in-law doesn't even want to buy some gold, and it's not shameful to expect others to support the elderly in the future. If the son reaches the age of marriage in the future, the gold is ready and the gold bars are ready. Just tell her family that your girl has everything she needs when she comes to my house, and her husband's family has enough to eat and drink, including family status. She came first, and I came second!
I always said this was for my son. I started all kinds of calculations when I got married. I can't wait to cut the gift of200,000 yuan in half. This is a vegetable market for buying vegetables. A daughter-in-law who marries at a low price has face. Look at your son's face. Did you take it home or spend it all? Don't you still live with your son? I could sell or lose the gold, and finally I left it to your granddaughter's wife. In fact, if you calculate carefully, you won't suffer!
Don't care about that little money. This is the only chance in your life to prove your financial ability, giving your daughter-in-law face and yourself face, so as a husband's wife, you must buy this gold and give the money!
Summary: In 1970s, Sanjin was a gold ring, earrings and necklace. In the 1980s, Sanjin was a gold bracelet, a gold necklace and a gold earring, and the ring became a diamond ring. After 90, it seems that no one has seen anyone beg for three gold, only fighting for a house and a car. Marriage, money is not important, gold is not important, but attitude is very important!