There is nothing wrong with love itself, and there is nothing wrong with people, but people always make mistakes in love.

She sat by the window, looking at the crowd, and suddenly felt that the world was very big, but she was very lonely. It's really a bit melodramatic, so she won't tell the opposite person what she just flashed.

The person sitting opposite is her brother, her own brother, who loves to bully her since she was a child, but can protect her when she grows up. For example, like this moment, she was lovelorn and lay at home for several days. Her brother came back and said he would take her out for tea.

She doesn't like tea herself, but her brother does. She used to despise his hobbies. But when her brother made this suggestion, she didn't hurt him as before for the first time: "the hobby of the elderly!" " "

Her brother looked at her and said, "Talk to him. What's the matter with you? I have never seen you like this. You are a gourmet. Mom actually said that you didn't eat at noon. "

Hearing her brother say this, she felt a little choked up in her voice: "I am lovelorn." She said that at this moment, she really hopes to find some comfort from her brother, such as "Don't be afraid, I have my brother to support you when the sky falls."

However, her brother let her down. Instead of comforting her, he continued, "It's not the first time you've been lovelorn. Are you so sad? " I don't eat rice. "

Her voice rose a little: "This time it's different."

He asked, "How is it different?"

She thought for a moment, then lowered her head, but always said softly, "This time, I, he, I love him very much." Before the opposite person could speak, she spoke again and lowered her eyes: "Brother, what do you think my life is? Why do I always meet love rat? "

She took a sip of tea and looked at the people outside the window. It's still lively outside, but she feels more lonely and wants to cry.

02

When in love, both boys and girls feel that the people they meet are the most beautiful people in the world. But when you lift the veil of love and see the people in front of you clearly, there are always many people who think they were blind at the beginning.

So is she. She has been in love three times. In the first half of the year, boys took the initiative to chase her. Finally, inexplicably, cold violence began, and she broke up first. The second paragraph is still half a year. When a boy falls in love with her, he falls in love with another girl. The third time I fell in love, that is, this time, the boy talked with her for a year, and was originally very kind to her, but suddenly said that he wanted to break up half a month ago. It turned out that there was no affair, but I just didn't love her.

So she felt wronged in her heart. She was obviously not a bad girl. Why can't she meet someone who can hold herself in the palm of her hand?

After listening to this, her brother thought for a moment and said, "Sister, when you always meet love rat, you should think about three things about yourself."

He took a sip of tea: "First, it is your most basic concept of mate selection. I know that in your twenties, you still put your appearance first like a little girl. Does this matter? "

It is true that she was right at once, but just like arguing with her brother countless times, she naturally refused: "Ugly people are more troublesome, and handsome people are generally infatuated."

He smiled and said, "This is just for you girls to comfort yourself. Although a person's character is not measured by looks, it is very dangerous for girls to take this as a standard. Because in most cases, really good men will not focus on dressing themselves, they will pay more attention to other things. "

She didn't understand: "What is it?"

He: "It must be to constantly improve your ability. This is the idea of every good man, because you have to bear the responsibility of a family in the future. This concept may be born earlier when a man leaves society. So they all think that their own strength is more important and neglect to beautify their appearance to attract the other half. How many good people have been killed because of your ideas. And if you choose from them, it is easy to choose love rat, because good-looking people also know their own advantages, and it is best to cheat you. Therefore, to measure a man, you have to understand and then observe his inner quality. "

03

She felt that she had been stabbed to the point of pain, so she wanted to get back 10%: "Brother, I just had this idea, and I didn't really say that I just looked at the appearance. The second boy is average, and it is not derailed in the end. "

He looked at her and suddenly smiled: "Yes, he is not good-looking, not as good-looking as you, and finally cheated." Have you thought about the reason? "

Without thinking, she said, "He is a scum."

He said, "So, this is the second place you should consider. How appropriate it is for you to set up checkpoints when they are chasing you. " Seeing her puzzled, he explained, "For example, if a boy chases you, you can test him, but don't overdo it."

She said, "Then how do I know if he is sincere?"

He replied: "whether you are sincere or not is not proved by the length of time you chase." Sister, most of the time, love rat is persistent. Why? Because I am unwilling, I have paid a lot in front, and it will be in vain if I don't chase. So they will continue to pursue, of course, in this process, it is not known whether he is really single-minded. Their purpose is only to get, and they will not let go easily before they think about the future and get it. But after you get it, patience will not last long. There are many examples like this. And a really capable man won't spend too much time chasing a person. "

She asked, "Why?"

He said seriously, "Because of a man's self-esteem. Once refused, I will insist, twice refused, I will think, and three times refused, then I will definitely walk away. A good man, they take a relationship seriously, and they give you love in the hope that you can return it. In the face of love, this is an equal relationship, not for you to test or trample on at will, because their purpose is to spend a lifetime with you. If you do this again and again, it will naturally make them feel that you are not a really suitable person, so they will walk away because self-esteem does not allow it. "

04

She never thought about this question. She was silent for a while, but it seemed reasonable, because she used to be like this, like to refuse repeatedly and pretend to be reserved, but she didn't pick a good one in the end.

He looked at his sister and seemed to be listening. Then he said, "There is a third place you should think about. After falling in love, did you personally turn him into love rat? "

She subconsciously retorted: "Can he blame me for becoming love rat?"

He smiled and said, "Yes, sister, my brother tells you that sometimes your sister-in-law quarrels with me and says that I don't care about her and don't like her. I'd rather read by myself than go to see her during recess. I have a headache. " I really don't love her. I love her very much. Only when a man falls in love with another woman, he often needs his own space. Sometimes reading and playing games alone feels very comfortable and I want to be alone. That's all. "

She thought, in this way, when she was with her ex, she really had a little "work", and she needed him to be on call 24 hours a day. If the news doesn't come back in a few seconds, he will be very angry. She was angry because she had a stomachache, and he said that she should drink more hot water. She is very good, and would rather play games than find herself or get angry. Even many times, she was angry for a long time, and he was unaware of it, talking and laughing.

All this once made her feel that he didn't love himself.

Brother's words pulled her back: "So, two people in love need to understand and tolerate each other, and occasionally they are cute to men." He is also willing to coax, but arrogance is not good. Maybe he has been dissatisfied for a long time, but you are still thinking about how to punish him tomorrow. You didn't lie to yourself this time. A person who has been very kind to you suddenly wants to say goodbye. Isn't he the love rat in your heart? Moreover, it is very likely that it is caused by itself. "

After listening, she continued to be silent and bowed her head to drink tea, only to find that the tea in the cup was clean, leaving only the tea at the bottom of the cup. He suddenly smiled: "Sister, you are drinking cow's water!" " "

She smiled when she heard the news. He breathed a sigh of relief and stood up: "It's not easy to make you laugh. Let's go. "

She was puzzled: "Where to?"

As he walked, he turned around and said, "Pay first, and then take a lovelorn and hungry child to dinner. Well, this meal is also on me. " She smiled and suddenly felt as if she didn't work so hard anymore.