If you had known that marriage was a besieged city, you would not hesitate to wait for it, and you would be happy to be trapped inside. If you know you don't want to be trapped in the city, don't rush in, because it's easy to rush in, and then you may be black and blue; If you had known that he was not the one who could protect the city with you, then ... consider others before it is too late. Stella (female) 28-year-old financial analysis According to my own feelings after marriage, there are several people who are actually not suitable for family. If they get married, they will not only feel uncomfortable, but also suffer for it. People who only discuss everything with themselves are not suitable for marriage. They didn't notice the existence of the other half at all, so why go looking for the other half? Good communication is the foundation of a stable marriage. Even if you quarrel, it is also a kind of communication. If you are too lazy to talk and quarrel, then this marriage will exist in name only. Cleanliness is not suitable for marriage. After marriage, you have to endure not only the mess of real life, but also the occasional mental impurity of the other party, which is probably unacceptable to those who demand perfection. Narcissists are not suitable for marriage. Such people generally only love themselves, always find each other's shortcomings, can't stand a little injustice, and won't want to marry someone who is as plain as water and noisy as children. Possessive people are not suitable for marriage. Your other half doesn't just belong to you, he should have his own private space and circle of friends. If you don't agree with this, jealousy and doubt will grow like grass, which will hurt both yourself and each other. As long as career-oriented people are not suitable for marriage. Because it is difficult for you to see him in the bedroom and at the dinner table in the future, you can only hear his urgent voice on the phone; His date should be a desk and a conference room. Lin Lin (female) is 24 years old and a makeup artist. Because of my work, she often attends weddings and makes friends with some young couples. At the wedding, all the newlyweds were happy and smiling, but after a long time, they began to hear complaints, and some even said, "I really shouldn't get married." Personally, I think people should get married, but there is a difference sooner or later, because people are afraid of loneliness and need to comfort each other. However, it is really bad to get married too early. I've seen too many couples break up for this reason. Getting married too early is not measured by age, but by psychological premature. Some people are young, but psychologically mature enough to be responsible for themselves and others and handle problems with ease; However, some people have lived for many years, but their psychology has been growing slowly. Just because you are not young, you get married rashly. In fact, even marriage is still unclear, let alone loving others and taking on a family. They often accidentally screw up many things and hurt many people unintentionally. Marriage is not a feast and performance, nor is it to show off to others; Marriage is not necessarily a necessity for everyone, only those who are really mature in mind deserve it. Li (male) 32-year-old technical support All fairy tales are only about the prince and princess finally living together, and all girls' imagination of love only comes to an abrupt end when they set foot on the red carpet. I have been married for more than four years, and the children in the company often ask me, is it fun to get married? My answer is: not funny, but interesting. Marriage is not a dollhouse. There are many places that you can't imagine before you get married: for example, if you want to buy a house, your parents want you to buy it closer to them, while her parents want you to buy it closer to them; For example, she wants children, but you are not ready, or you are ready, she doesn't want them; For example, when she saw you chatting with your ex-girlfriend on MSN, you had a big fight, or when she saw her reading her ex-boyfriend's blog, you pointed her out and you had another big fight; For example, when you start to treat each other as buddies, you can discuss the handsome guys and beautiful women on the street with each other, but the beauty, ugliness and gender of each other are not clear ... If you are surprised to hear this, then you are not suitable for marriage, or it is not suitable for marriage yet; Only when you can accept the imperfections in these marriages can you appreciate the beauty of marriage.