Rural customs, crossing the ocean to save energy to go to your mother's house. Yes, how do you have the custom of going back to your mother's house on the second day of the first month and the sixteenth day of the first month? Can you tell me more about Henan and Henan? Because women don't sacrifice stoves, they don't ask their daughters to go back to their parents' homes on the day of sacrifice. The first day of the first month is the beginning of a year, and the water spilled by the married daughter is married to her husband's family. On New Year's Day, it is naturally inconvenient for the whole family to get together and go back to their parents' home. The fifteenth day of the first month is also the first full moon day of the year, fearing that the daughter-in-law will not be reunited with her family when she returns home. So it's usually the second day of the first month and the sixteenth day of the first month. In order to take care of the reunion and celebration of both parties to the marriage. There is a saying in Luyi County that "please (girl) on the 16th day of the first month, and deliver it on the 2nd of February. Don't get sick". The custom in Shandong is to go back to her mother's house on the second day of the second day. According to traditional customs, it is a very grand thing for a daughter to return to her mother's house on the second day of the New Year's Day. Daughters and sons-in-law should prepare cakes, fruits, cigarettes, alcohol and other gifts in advance. The bride's family will set two or three tables of rich banquets for her son-in-law, with eight dishes and four bowls for each table. Meizhou Hakka, from the second day of junior high school, women have "left their homes" (returned to their parents' homes) to visit their parents and brothers. Whoever gets married in the last year, the husband and wife go to visit their parents-in-law and elders together. This is called "new uncle coming to the door". It will continue after the second year. Going home is also called going home in northern China. This is a unique custom of Han nationality 18 years old. Every year, on the second and third day of the first month, the married daughters of Han compatriots from all over China have to go back to their parents' homes, and their husbands have to go with them, so it is commonly known as Wedding Day. Take a present when you go home. This is called holding hands or accompanying hands. A big bag of biscuits and candy must be arranged by the mother and distributed to the neighbors, just like the scene of the New Year. If there are many daughters at home, and these daughters don't come back on the same day, then we will share them once. The gift is quite thin, just four biscuits. But it reflects the deep affection, the real "courtesy is light and affection is heavy", and expresses the girl's miss for the villagers. When the girl goes home, if there is a nephew at home, menstruation has to pay again. Although she gave lucky money on New Year's Day, this time it had a different meaning. The daughter who got married on this day went back to her parents' home to visit and even stay. Because it is very hard for my daughter to manage housework, serve her in-laws and deal with all kinds of relationships between her sister-in-law and aunt after marriage, the family will take her home for a few days during the Chinese New Year. This is called visiting relatives, but it is actually a rest. However, it expresses the traditional psychology that Han laborers generally hope to bid farewell to the old and welcome the new. It embodies a deep affection, and the real "courtesy is light and affection is heavy", and the girl misses the villagers earnestly. The taboo of returning home is also called "mothering", which means that the taboo of returning home is mostly about the bride, but it refers to the taboo items of the bride returning home. In Henan, in addition to the above-mentioned taboo of going back to your mother's house to watch lights on the fifteenth day of the first month, you should also avoid offering sacrifices to stoves and going back to your mother's house on the first day of the first month. Because women don't sacrifice stoves, they don't ask their daughters to go back to their parents' homes on the day of sacrifice. The first day of the first month is the beginning of a year, and the water spilled by the married daughter is married to her husband's family. On New Year's Day, it is naturally inconvenient for the whole family to get together and go back to their parents' home. The fifteenth day of the first month is also the first full moon day of the year, fearing that the daughter-in-law will not be reunited with her family when she returns home. So it's usually the second day of the first month and the sixteenth day of the first month. In order to take care of the reunion and celebration of both parties to the marriage. There is a saying in Luyi County that "please (girl) on the 16th day of the first month, and deliver it on the 2nd of February. Don't get sick". In Zhejiang and other places, old brides are forbidden to go home on the winter solstice. Otherwise, I thought I would kill my husband's parents. As the saying goes, "My mother's family lives for a winter, and my husband's family goes to work." Jiangsu also has this custom. However, the reason is different, that is, if the winter solstice is spent in the bride's house, the bride's house will decline. The custom of returning to her parents' home on June 6 in northern Shaanxi is said to be to contact her in-laws' feelings, when she will invite her daughter and son-in-law home for reunion. Henan also has this custom, but it is the season to cooperate with wheat harvesting and threshing. As the saying goes, "When the wheat harvest is over and the game is over, there will be no girl to look after her mother." . The prostitute didn't visit her mother, and her father-in-law died. "The taboo of returning to the door is to let the bride abide by the communication order. When she should not return to the door, she must not return to the door, otherwise something will happen; When it's time to go back, you must go back, or something terrible will happen. Usually on the third day of marriage, the bride and groom will go back to visit their parents, but they must return to their husbands' home before sunset that night, because the wedding can't be empty. In Linxian County, Henan Province, the bride goes back to her parents' home in three days and goes along the road to greet her. The so-called "three days without two roads". Yi brides avoid talking to the groom on their way home. They are like strangers. This is related to the custom of keeping marriage. When the Han people go back to their hometown, the young couple always kiss, talk and laugh. There is a folk tune of "Going Back to Mother's Home". The gifts that newlyweds bring home are always in pairs, not singular. The bride's family can't accept it all, and she has to take some back when she goes back to her husband's house. Some brides, influenced by superstitious ideas, will have to wait 120 days (4 months) to return to Ning, while others will have to wait three years to go home. In some places in Zhejiang, some women were sentenced to "breaking their mother's family". Such a woman is not allowed to get on the sedan chair at home. When getting married, the man's house picks up the woman to go out. A woman dressed in rags pretends to beg and put on a sedan chair in the temple, which is called "borrowing marriage". The parents and relatives of the woman's family must hide, and everything is taken care of by her husband's family. One hundred and twenty days after marriage, you can save your relatives. Otherwise, the bride's family will lose everything or suffer misfortune. There are also so-called criminals who "divorce" (husband and wife are separated) and "turn around" (take chestnuts from the fire) and can't go home until four months or even three years later. Generally, after one month of marriage, in-laws can communicate with each other. When returning to China, the bride can stay with her parents. The number of days to stay is very particular. Some areas in Henan have the custom of staying for a few days. As the saying goes, "eight to eight, twenty cents" and "nine to nine, two ends". In other words, those who return to their parents' home on the eighth day of the eighth month can stay at their parents' home for eight days, and those who return to their parents' home on the ninth day can stay at their parents' home for nine days. In this way, the most time is to stay for one month. If you live like this, it will be auspicious for both men and women, otherwise it will be bad. However, there is also a saying that don't live for eight days. As the saying goes, "if you live seven years old, you will not live eight years old, and your family is poor." The formation of this taboo is generally due to the ideological consideration that it is not easy for a married daughter to live in her parents' home. Among them, there are emotional constraints, moral constraints, economic pressures and production needs, and many factors have contributed to the agreement of this custom. If the bride and groom go back to their parents' home together, then their accommodation in their parents' home also has different taboos. In Han and Manchu, it is a custom for newlyweds to go back to their parents' home to avoid the same thing. Manchu allowed their children to live in Xikang, and other guests were not allowed to live in Xikang. But girls and children can't live together. It is said that the newlyweds staying at home will make the family decline. This is also caused by the concept of unclean and blasphemous sexual behavior. People often think that women are always troubled by things between men and women. Because of this, female families always feel a little depressed psychologically. Besides, if the bride's family and her husband's family are not of the same clan, how can we provide a place for the husband's family to carry on the family line in the bride's family room? If she was really pregnant at her mother's house, wouldn't she take her "human potential" and "financial potential" to her husband's house? The bride's family will definitely decline because of this. Therefore, it is absolutely forbidden for young couples to stay at home together, which is the idea under this custom. However, whether in the Han nationality or in many places, it is not taboo for newlyweds to share the same bed at their parents' home. Sometimes, these two completely different customs will coexist in the same county, for example, in Linxian County, Henan Province, these two customs coexist. After the bride's return, her identity has changed and she belongs to others, so her family often "guards against her". The Oroqen people were forbidden to wash pots when they married their daughters and returned to their parents' homes. Otherwise, her family's fortune will be brushed away by her. There are similar taboos in Xiuwu County, Henan Province. The local folk taboo girls go out to touch their parents' spoons and fire pillars. They all say that "touching the spoon won't kill my father-in-law, my mother-in-law" and "lifting the torch won't kill my father-in-law and my son-in-law". Also taboo to take the knife and scissors of her family, taboo to catch her dog and so on. He said, "I'm afraid I'll cut off my family and bite the road in the future." In short, make every effort to prevent married girls from using or taking things from their parents' house. If they take things from their parents' house after marriage, disputes and disputes will inevitably affect the relationship between men and women. However, it is not a good idea to guard against it. How can we make her consciously not take them? So I used the spell of "dead father-in-law" and "dead son-in-law" to scare her as a warning. When the bride returns to her mother's house, she should avoid telling her family all the bad things she encountered in her husband's house, and avoid returning to her mother's house and then telling her family things regardless of weight. The result of "learning to speak" in this way will often cause trouble, affect the relationship between men and women, and the bride will also lose her reputation as a rapper. So there is a saying that "you can be a daughter-in-law and hide at both ends, but you can't be a daughter-in-law and pass it on at both ends." This is indeed a very useful experience for the bride to deal with the relationship between men and women. What are the taboos for going to my parents' house on the 15th of every month? According to folk customs, people who travel to their parents' homes will collide these two days. Children get sick easily. The positional relationship between the sun, the moon and the earth is easy to cause emotional fluctuations. How did you come to your parents' house on the third day of the Lunar New Year? "After the second day, it will be the third day: kannika nimtragol returns to her family: I want to see it. "This childhood ballad: It's about the procedure for people to celebrate the New Year. The second and third days of the first lunar month are the days when married daughters return to their parents' homes. According to ancient customs, women are not allowed to go back to their parents' homes for no reason. So on this day, her brother must go to the man's house to pick her up and invite her sisters back to her parents' house for a party. After a family dinner; Married sisters and sisters go back to their parents' homes to visit relatives; Family reunion; Happy; This is commonly known as "being a guest" and "returning to a foreign country"; Mother's home, "mothering": but this procedure has been simplified to an invitation in modern times. Why did the daughter who got married in the New Year return to her family on the second day of the Lunar New Year? Legend has it that going back to her mother's house on the first day of the New Year will make her poor, so everyone goes back to her mother's house on the second day of the New Year. Moreover, from the beginning of the Lunar New Year, the husband's family has been busy with various Chinese New Year festivals, customs and ancestor worship. If the daughter-in-law only cares about going back to her mother's house and doesn't help, it is the responsibility of the younger generation. In addition, there is an interesting sentence: I think when I go back to my parents' home in the second day of junior high school, my parents and family are worried that a woman will meet a bad mother-in-law after marriage and may never let her daughter-in-law go back to her parents' home. That's why this custom exists. Whatever the reason; The custom of going back to her mother's house on the second day of the lunar new year provides an opportunity for a party; For sisters who haven't seen each other for a long time: catching up. But don't forget to prepare some gifts when you go back to your mother's house: that is, "to accompany your hand" or "to wait for the road". In addition to bringing some gifts back to parents' home to celebrate the New Year with their husbands and children, married women will also send red envelopes to their elders as a way of congratulations, and these elders will also send red envelopes to their grandchildren brought back by their daughters. If you have brothers and sisters at home: of course, you should also give a red envelope: congratulations. In ancient times, foreign families also gave drumsticks to their grandchildren or hung them around their necks with red velvet ropes, which was called "tie straps". However, these ancient customs have long been replaced by red envelopes.