Also see your description, your family has given in, and both parents are very reasonable people. Regarding your question, I think you and your lover should discuss it with each other first, don't quarrel, and then discuss it with your parents to see if it's ok. The lady asked each of you to give a red envelope. If you think from his point of view, maybe he wants you to give yourself face, look good in front of relatives and friends, and prove that you are married well. If you give in, ask him how much each child costs. How many children are there? It doesn't matter if it's not too unbearable. If it costs a lot, you can reason with your lover. After all, you two will live in the future, and the others are outsiders. If you suffer yourself or bring trouble to your parents, it is unnecessary. See if what I said is useful. If she insists on it, I suggest you give her a hand, because some girls will have pre-marital phobia and feel bad or wronged before marriage. You must make sure that he will let bygones be bygones.
Besides, marriage is the key. As long as you are happy, it is also your parents' wish. After all, parents love you. Don't let money and people who don't want to be safe affect your personal feelings. There will be a running-in period when two people are together. Communicate more and listen to each other's thoughts. Then it is important for boys to study hard, know the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and do a good job between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. what do you reckon ? It's entirely my personal opinion, and I can point out anything wrong.