When you decided not to serve wine, it was normal for them not to follow the ceremony. Don't dwell too much on the consequences of your past decisions. This is unnecessary.

Affection is intangible, and no one can tell what he looks like; Feelings are free, and no one will let you spend money to buy them; Affection is priceless, and nothing in the world can match her price; Affection is selfless, and nothing in the world can sacrifice herself more than her; Affection is endless, and you will realize that it exists in your life every moment.

So I think this ritual thing is capable and can be followed as much as possible. Even if it is a little small, I think the recipient will be grateful. Just try to avoid hurting the feelings of both sides by not following the ceremony.

I wish you peace and health ~