We all expect marriage to be the sum of a lifetime of piano and harp, that is, we will never get tired of eating at the same table and sharing the same bed without kicking down. From a big perspective, this requires us to have almost the same three views, almost the same passion, almost the same sense of proportion, and almost the same expectations of each other. In a small room, one can't just eat sweet and spicy food, nor can one have a nervous breakdown. You just snore like thunder in the middle of the night.
What is the food that you basically eat every meal without getting tired? Is it your favorite braised pork, boiled fish and cheesecake? No, it is a bowl of white rice. Marriage is like a bowl of white rice. Very dull, but not tired. How nutritious and delicious the next meal is has nothing to do with how much attention you pay to this pot of food, how much time you spend and how much love you have.
So it's great to doubt your boyfriend's sincerity to you, but don't ignore his panic about marriage. Your boyfriend's love for you is a bowl of braised pork, but is it appropriate to cook a pot of white rice every day? What if I accidentally want to eat fried powder? He hasn't found the answer yet.
In fact, you haven't found the answer yet, but women are generally more realistic than men. It's better to cook a pot of rice with someone who likes it than with a stranger.
You don't want your boyfriend, and you don't want this relationship to be unmarried. The first step, don't underestimate marriage, and don't overestimate marriage. When two lovers are together, marriage may not be happy, but it is not difficult to make two normal people crazy. As long as you don't regard marriage as the ultimate sublimation of love and the only means of happiness, you think it will be unfortunate to live with someone who has never loved you deeply for a few years-of course, if you have this idea, it is really easy to fall into the whirlpool of misfortune. People are people who are driven by just things and become just, and people also have the unfortunate idea that I am easy to become unfortunate.
In short, married life is married life. He provides you with the economic contract between two adults, the convenience and policy support for raising offspring between two adults. Of course, in the current state, he can also provide you with peace from now on. Don't be nagged by your parents about why you don't get married. That's all. Others are similar to love, loyalty, trust and consideration ... they don't need to be given to you. In other words, unless you are in a hurry to buy a house or have a baby, or your parents force you to hang yourself, getting married one year earlier or one year later is actually no big deal, let alone proof of love. It's interesting to say that if you feel that your love needs to be proved, you are actually more inclined to exchange interests than emotional feelings. )
Well, you know this yourself, you might as well seduce a man and get a certificate. We are all taught to love our work and be dedicated, which shows that even if it is an economic contract, we hope to cooperate with people we like and do what we like. Then it is easier and smoother to get married with someone who has an emotional foundation than to start with someone who has no emotional foundation. He is afraid of taking on a family, so you can attack by innuendo what responsibility he is afraid of taking on. Do you think that making money from each other is not enough for children to buy milk powder, or are you worried about changing from a goddess to an aunt after marriage? From a woman's point of view, earn more money, spend more time on yourself, maintain your feminine charm, and maintain a certain independence on men. Not to mention that every man likes to marry this kind of woman, but at least it won't hurt him. It is more useful for a person to see and understand your value and know that he has nothing to lose than to cry and hang himself.
Finally, if you rationally think it is important to get married at the age of 28 or 29, then after years of self-efforts, you will find that your current boyfriend may not consider this matter after three to five years, so you can only make enemies before friends. You might as well contact other men. At this time, you are not necessarily looking for the feeling of love, but looking for an economic, sexual and spiritual fit. You really meet a suitable normal man who is willing to try to marry you.