Although the old society said it was suitable for every family, this theory can still be established in today's society. Nowadays, many so-called "Phoenix Men" and "Money-worshippers" are called because of the unequal economic conditions and social status between them and their partners.
Moreover, it is easy to cause some inappropriate misunderstandings and jokes in marriage. The protagonist of today's story broke up with her mother-in-law at the wedding because of her unequal social status.
At the wedding, the mother-in-law humiliated her daughter-in-law. Bride: I can't afford a college student with a monthly salary of 3 thousand.
"A diploma workshop of third-rate college students, graduated for three years, a monthly salary of 3000. I am embarrassed to say that I am a climber. Where did I get the sense of superiority? "
This sentence is said by a girl named Niannian (a pseudonym). The following contents are dictated by the year after year and arranged by the author of this article.
My boyfriend and I met three years ago. His name is Shi Qiang. When I first met him, he was a senior and I worked in a clothing store. Our shop is near their school, and he comes to me with some milk tea cakes every weekend. In fact, when he pursued me, I muttered to myself: he is a college student and his family is a city dweller. I am a rural wild girl who dropped out of junior high school for my younger brother's education. Can I be worthy of others?
Later, I couldn't stand his kindness to me. In the long run, I agreed. I know I am not good enough. I haven't been to my boyfriend's house since I was with him. I worked hard in the shop, and I worked hard wholeheartedly. Achievement in career can make up for the background.
In the past three years, with my own clothing store, my small business is not bad. After deducting the cost every month, I can also reduce 20 thousand to 30 thousand. At this time, my boyfriend graduated for three years and changed several companies back and forth. He can't find a suitable job, either his salary is low or he is tired from work. Under my persuasion, I finally sold in a housing agency, but the house could not be sold, holding a basic salary of more than 3 thousand a month. Of course, it is not that I don't like him. I always advise him to take his time. A man's career begins at 30. Just then, my boyfriend offered to take me home to meet my parents. I hesitated and agreed.
The first time I went to their house, I actually felt something was wrong. When his mother heard that I was from the countryside and didn't graduate from junior high school, my expression suddenly changed. The initial enthusiasm suddenly disappeared, and I dragged my boyfriend back to the house for a while before coming out. I don't know what I said. When I came out, there was that smile on his mother's face, and he almost didn't recognize me. Not long after, when I said I was going to get married, I didn't really have any opinion about his mother, but after three years of love with my boyfriend, I still had deep feelings, thinking that I was marrying her son, not her. So I agreed to this marriage.
The next point is that before this incident, I felt that my mother-in-law was a little awkward, which made me feel that this person was so conceited, arrogant and snobbish.
On the wedding day, the previous steps were quite good. The MC also said some touching words, and I shed tears several times. Unexpectedly, when it was the master of ceremonies' turn to let her mother-in-law speak, the style of painting changed.
Next is my mother-in-law's original words: our son is a college student, and my daughter-in-law is illiterate in rural areas. Being able to marry a son is like flying on a branch and becoming a phoenix.
At this time, there was a burst of laughter from the audience. I didn't understand what she said later. When I heard this sentence, my fist clenched. Although I am from the countryside, I have never been so insulted in my life. I took my boyfriend by the arm, and I asked him to interrupt his mother and give me a statement. I didn't want to make a mountain out of a molehill at first I didn't expect my boyfriend to say: My mother loves to brag, so bear with it. You are right. Marrying me is your highest honor.
Honestly, I can't help it. I know what my mother-in-law said, and I don't have the same knowledge as her. Unexpectedly, my man didn't protect me either. Well, everyone is having a hard time.
I grabbed the microphone directly, and my mother-in-law was startled by my action. I took the money receiver and said: A third-rate college graduate from a diploma workshop can only earn 3,000 yuan a month after graduation for three years. I can't afford it? I don't know where your family got the sense of superiority What happened to my primary school culture? Earn 30 thousand a month by yourself. Since you think I can't reach the heights, I won't marry.
After that, I pulled the veil, threw away my wedding ring, turned and jumped off the stage and left. I didn't look back at that time, but I heard someone calling me and someone scolding me. I can't help it. Maybe some people will say that I have no culture and don't respect my elders in public. But I think I'm right. Respect is mutual. She doesn't respect me, so don't blame me.
Three days later, my boyfriend called to admit his mistake and said that her mother-in-law knew it was wrong. I didn't expect this to happen, begging me to go back to the wedding. I refused, such a man and such a husband's family. Forget it. I don't want anything to do with such people in my life. The sense of superiority came inexplicably. I am nothing, and I always feel that others can't. I am hehe.
After listening to the self-report every year, my point of view is very clear. There is such a contradiction with her mother-in-law every year because her mother-in-law thinks that she is born in the countryside and is not worthy of her son. In fact, to put it bluntly, this is the mother-in-law subconsciously thinks that every year is not equal to her son's social status.
Husband's connivance to her mother-in-law can also be seen that he and her mother-in-law actually have the same idea, but they just didn't find it. This also shows that the husband's cognition of himself is not clear. A person's social status is not only determined by his registered permanent residence and education.
Through the stories I read, I also hope that unmarried friends can understand one thing. Marriage is a matter for two families. Before deciding to get married, we should carefully consider whether all aspects of family conditions match. If the family conditions of both sides are not equal, I hope you can find both parents to communicate well and let them volunteer to bless your marriage.
A marriage without family blessing will not be happy. I hope you can understand and wish you a happy marriage.