Wedding banquet is a wedding banquet, and Huimen wine is Huimen wine, which are two different things. Traditionally, wedding wine is divided into wedding wine for women and wedding wine for men. But in modern society, for the sake of simplicity, wedding wine and wedding wine are treated together, collectively called wedding wine. Huimen wine is usually returned to her mother's house on the third day after her daughter gets married, and the next day. Huimen wine is mainly invited by her relatives, most of whom are less than three servings. Relatives are uncles and aunts. The reasons for leaving the door probably have the following meanings: 1. Don't forget your parents and thank them for their parenting. 2. Understand whether the daughter's sexual intercourse is harmonious.

Nowadays, many wedding wines are handled by the man and the woman together, and the gift money is collected by the bride or a special person. But the gift money includes four parts: friends and colleagues of the groom, friends and colleagues of the bride, parents and relatives of the bride, and parents and relatives of the bride.

Judging from the sentence "unlike the bride and groom directly given by others or parents", it is obvious that the man and the woman jointly organize the wedding wine.

If it is a joint banquet, all the wedding gifts received will be given to you young couples. There is nothing to say, which is equivalent to what your parents and your parents-in-law gave you young couples. But if they are all for your parents-in-law, it is not suitable for family ties and ceremonies, unless the relatives and friends who come to the wedding party are all relatives and friends of your parents-in-law.

If it is a joint wedding wine, the gift money must be clearly divided and handled in the following ways:

1. Give gifts to relatives and friends to parents-in-law, because they will return them later.

2. The gifts that your parents' relatives and friends gave your parents, because they will return the gifts.

You can use gifts from friends and colleagues as private money.

4. Your husband also has the right to deal with gifts from friends and colleagues. He can use them as his own private money or give them to his parents. This is his business, because so are you.

The above 3 and 4 parts are usually shared by your husband and wife, and the bride and groom rarely hold them alone.

As for the banquet money, according to the rules, before getting married, the man should give the woman's parents and grandparents (if grandparents are still there) a set of bride price, banquet money and a set of clothes (which can be converted into money).

If the man didn't give the woman money for the family banquet before, the wedding banquet money will be paid by the man, without deducting it from the gift money, including your own friends and colleagues. The banquet money is also counted as the woman's house, and the man's house is out.

If the man has given the banquet money to the woman's family before, the banquet money for the woman's treat will be paid by the woman's family or deducted from the gift money of the woman's family. If you want to take gifts from friends and colleagues, you should also deduct the banquet money from the members.