First of all, the wedding is a burden for many people, which not only needs to spend a lot of time and money, but also needs to face all kinds of complicated preparations and arrangements. For example, choose the wedding venue, layout, food, clothing and so on. For those who don't want to spend too much energy and financial resources to prepare for the wedding, not having a wedding is a good choice.
Secondly, not having a wedding doesn't mean not paying attention to marriage. The wedding is just a ceremony, which does not represent a person's recognition and commitment to marriage. In fact, many people think that what really matters is the marriage itself, not the wedding. Even if there is no wedding, as long as the husband and wife promise each other and consciously pay for each other, such a marriage will be regarded as a successful marriage.
In addition, for some people with social anxiety and introverted personality, holding a wedding may be a kind of torture. At the wedding, it may be a torment for people who are not good at communication to face the attention and evaluation of many relatives and friends, even strangers. Not having a wedding can avoid this kind of social pressure and let couples enjoy each other's love slowly in their own world.
Of course, some people think that the wedding is a necessary ceremony, which can reflect the recognition and commitment of two people, and also allow their relatives and friends to witness this historical moment. Therefore, whether it is necessary to hold a wedding depends on personal circumstances, and cannot be generalized.
Here are some examples of getting married without a wedding:
City card receiving ceremony: In some cities, there is a standard city card receiving ceremony. The couple, their family and friends were in a small room in the city hall, presided over by the mayor or other officials, and announced that they were legally married. Although this is not a traditional wedding, it is a warm and intimate celebration for many people.
Small private ceremony: Some people choose to invite only close family and friends to attend small private ceremonies instead of holding a grand wedding in a big venue. They may hold a simple ceremony at home or in some small places, and then enjoy a family dinner or a small party.
Travel wedding: Some people choose to get married on a trip, perhaps on a romantic beach or on a beautiful mountain top. This way can save the cost of the wedding, and at the same time let the couple spend a particularly unforgettable moment.
Pay attention to practicality: Some people may pay more attention to married life than the wedding itself. They may choose to hold a simple ceremony at home or in some more practical places, inviting only the closest family and friends. In this way, they can use the saved money to buy household items or make other preparations for their wedding life.
Another reason is that the cost and arrangement of the wedding may lead to conflict and stress between husband and wife. For some people, they may be more willing to reduce the pressure and quarrel on wedding expenses and planning, and concentrate on more important aspects, such as starting a new life and living together. For those who already have wedding plans, they may find themselves forced to make wedding plans according to other people's expectations rather than their own ideas, which may lead to unnecessary pressure and dissatisfaction.
Others may not want to have a wedding because of their personal beliefs or cultural background. In some religions or cultures, marriage is regarded as a private matter between two people, rather than something that needs to be celebrated and publicly displayed. Some people may not want to be bound by religious or cultural traditions, but would rather choose a more private and simple way to celebrate their love.
Finally, some people may choose not to hold a wedding because they are not interested in the wedding itself. For some people, wedding is just a tradition, and they prefer to spend energy and money on other things, such as traveling or decorating their new home. These people may think that marriage is a private matter between two people, not something that needs to be shown to others.
In short, not having a wedding does not mean that there is no recognition and attention to marriage, nor does it necessarily affect the quality and happiness of marriage. Every couple has their own choices and preferences. As long as both parties can communicate frankly, respect each other's ideas and decisions, and are willing to work for the same future, marriage will be as happy as newlyweds.