Excessive self-esteem, especially good face, and the pursuit of superficial glory have led to vanity. For example, you can't correctly evaluate yourself and take the glory of your parents or others as your own; For fear of being looked down upon by others, regardless of whether the economic conditions allow, they keep up with each other in dressing; In terms of knowledge, I don't know how to pretend to understand; I always want to show that I am always right, and I can't listen to other people's criticism of myself, and so on. These are all manifestations of vanity. Vanity is built on inferiority complex. People with vanity are very concerned about their image in the eyes of others. In order to appear as good as others or superior to others, they will always involuntarily cover up their weaknesses. Vanity makes them not try to improve their own strength, but make superficial articles for quick success and instant benefit. As a result, they can't really change their disadvantage, but further lose their self-esteem. Therefore, vanity can't really make us feel inner enrichment, and never-satisfied vanity can only bring endless troubles to people. Vanity and jealousy are common weaknesses of human beings. Psychologists tell us that vanity is a contradiction, a characteristic of human beings, and it is terrible, and its terrible scope is almost infinite. Numerous facts show that normal social relations are lost because of vanity. If you want to find a person without vanity in the world, it is as difficult as finding a human who does not hide his inferiority on the surface. Mothers show off their children, men boast that they are more capable than women, and the rich laugh at the poverty of the poor. It can be said that the circle of vanity is complete, and it is no wonder that sensitive poets want to say "vanity, vanity, everything in the world is vanity!" There are various ways of emptiness, and the ocean is infinite. From race and figure to eyes and nose, it is worth boasting about. Vanity is a characteristic, it takes offense rather than defense, so anyone with strong vanity will become an enemy around him. He doesn't get pleasure and help from interacting with people, but often conflicts with neighbors, colleagues, friends and even relatives. Although vanity can deceive oneself and others, it can never deceive nature, and nature cannot tolerate any insult. Vanity has become a deep-rooted psychological weakness in human nature. So, what methods can be used to avoid disadvantages and make good use of them? Modern psychologists tell us: "Absolutely!" "For vanity, we must not start with how to destroy it, but should focus on how to improve it and induce it to go to useful places. For example, for those who are beautiful and vain, you can let her use beauty as a tool to influence the hearts of young criminals; For a rich and vain person, you can ask him to take some as a charity fund, or run a business to give others all kinds of security; For talented and vain people, you can make them make more contributions to society. Then, vanity, an obstacle in normal interpersonal communication, will benefit us. Talking about vanity, my friend casually talked about vanity, which was quite touching. Yes, people run in an impetuous world. We pursue worldly desires and interpret colorful life stories. Friend, have you ever settled down to think about this problem? From ancient times to the present, countless people advocate the realm of Tao-"the wall stands tall, and the desire is just." "How many people can do it? The so-called lofty, mostly helpless choice. Once famous hermits in history, such as "Mei Wife Crane" and "Seven Sages of Bamboo Forest", could not get rid of the influence of officialdom honor and disgrace, and after vicissitudes, they became pale and powerless. This is also a sad sadness. People don't want to be too bad, they always want to get ahead. So we can see how many people are fighting for fame and gain, even by hook or by crook. So people are cold and warm, and the world is cold. In modern times, it is a good phenomenon that many young people flaunt their individuality and pursue the realization of self-worth. However, with the increasing money worship, power desire and comparison psychology, many distorted human natures appear naked in front of people. Not to mention Mathilde in the necklace, the stingy blacksmith in Nikolai Gogol's ghosts, they are just a group of slaves drowned by vanity. To uncover the warmth of human nature, everyone has vanity in his subconscious. Yu once wrote in an article: "Don't let the evil wolf in your heart dominate you. "This means that sin will get bigger and bigger like a snowball, and eventually some people will go crazy and become slaves of vanity, prisoners in prison and even bodies on the execution ground. It is precisely because of this that some ignorant people reproduce the so-called "value" in the most ignorant and extreme way. It is reported that a rural youth killed someone with a knife in a small ballroom in the city. While killing, he shouted: "I am also talented. Why do you eat, drink and be merry, but I am poor ... "It is not difficult to understand that desire is like fire, which makes the devil in my heart embarrassed. Is vanity really that terrible when you brush away the dust and see your true colors? In fact, we don't have to see through the world of mortals, live in seclusion in the mountains and be good at passing away; Not to mention the deliberate decoration and covering. But remember to grasp the degree of being a human being, and don't let yourself become a secular wretch and a hypocritical slave and disappear into the torrent of history: when you are alive, you will become a dirty specimen after you die. Mr. Lu Xun once said: "If you want to have a complete book, there is no book to read in the world. "If you want perfect people, there are only a few people in the world who are worth living." Of course, we don't have to ask ourselves whether it's worth living, as long as we live quietly, have personality and have respect from the world, isn't it? Vanity, humanity, earthly deduction. Face vanity, face humanity, stay away from glitz, and be warm and sincere in the world. Clear water and blue sky, life is infinitely beautiful.