You must choose an auspicious day for your wedding. Parents will write their children's birthdays on red paper and ask the boy (the spokesman of all kinds of immortals on the earth) or a respected gentleman to help them choose a good day, and then they will start to arrange the wedding. Some time before marriage, about a week in advance, the man will give the woman some deposit as a bride price. The number must be even, depending on the family situation, but now the money is actually used for both parties to buy goods.
For a wedding, you have to go shopping and buy all kinds of things, from soap and toothpaste to beds and cabinets. In short, everything in the new house should be moved. Of course, oranges, boy dolls, red lines and so on are all indispensable for marriage. The process of purchasing is very tiring. Remember what to buy today every day, so as not to worry. The bride and groom will also take photos of their wedding anniversary together to leave fond memories, and will also take time to buy or order their own wedding dresses.
Second, prepare
The day before the wedding, the bride's family asked three happy aunts (family reconciliation, gave birth to a boy) to send the dowry to the groom's family, commonly known as "urging marriage." Among these three aunts, two are dowry promoters and one is a matchmaker to lead the way.
There must be two oil lamps, two lotus roots, sweet potatoes, peaches, two thermos bottles and a big red envelope in the dowry, which may mean "having children early". Others depend on the financial situation of the bride's family and how much bride price the groom's family sends. Sometimes it's a TV or a washing machine. If the bride's family is poor, the groom will.
When the aunts "marry" into the new house, the elders of the groom's family will also give red envelopes to the parents of the bride, indicating that "returning happiness" is also a blessing to your family. The amount of the red envelope must be even. Of course, each of the three aunts who gave the betrothal gift will get a red envelope.
On this day, the final layout of the new house will be ready. The groom's family will let the little boy at home, under 12 years old, play in bed, commonly known as "rolling bed", and sprinkle a bubble of urine in the washbasin prepared in advance (spittoon is usually used now), indicating that men will be added in the future. Also, please ask a clever woman with a big smile to sew a quilt, tie the blanket on the bed into the shape of a lotus, and then put a prepared male doll in the middle. Of course, don't forget to hang a bunch of oranges on the bedside, and then hang a bunch at the door of every room, even the dog house, which probably means good luck. Of course, Xi Lian won't forget to post it.
In the evening/kloc-around 0/2 o'clock, the groom's family will also worship the ancestors and the landlords. The offerings are very rich, including roast suckling pig, pig's head, fish, pork belly, and some vegetarian dishes, such as vermicelli, yuba, peanuts, watercress, dried bean curd, and lotus roots and peaches sent by her parents.
Third, the ceremony
The wedding day is the hardest. In the morning, sprinkle peanuts, red dates, lotus seeds, rice and other things on the new bed to show that your son is born early, and then light two oil lamps (table lamps are usually used now) for three days and three nights. The fire cannot be put out, otherwise it will be unlucky.
There used to be many people living in bungalows, and the wedding banquet was placed in the groom's yard, so the banquet was held at noon. Generally, the banquets at noon are for female relatives and children, and there are no rich dishes at night, mainly eating Hainan powder, commonly known as "eating powder"; The evening is the highlight. The main guests are male relatives and friends, and there is no Hainan powder, commonly known as "drinking". But now most people live in buildings, and most choose to hold wedding banquets in hotels, so there is no difference between "eating powder" and "drinking".
Around ten o'clock, relatives and friends arrived one after another, and so did the groom's friends. Their task of coming so early is to accompany the groom to meet the bride and call her "brother". One of them should be chosen as the "elder brother leader" with good eloquence and good relationship with the groom. At the same time, the bride's family is also very busy. Brides should dress up and wait for their friends, usually eight, commonly known as "sisters". Of course, one of them should also choose a "sister head" to sing with the groom's "brother head". On this day, the bride's family only holds a banquet at noon, and friends and relatives gather at the groom's house for wine at night. The two brothers had a simple lunch, and their moment was coming. Usually at noon 12, the two brothers will hold the groom together to pick up the bride. The groom can't just enter the bride's house, but must be picked up by the bride's brother-in-law. If you don't have a brother-in-law, other little boys in the family can do it, but the groom should give a red envelope.
Finally, I entered the bride's door, but there was another door to shut the bride and sisters in. Traditionally, it is not easy for sisters to let the groom take the bride away. They try their best to make things difficult for the groom and even imitate the barking of dogs. At this time, the bride can't feel sorry for the groom, or she will lead the war to herself. Making things difficult usually lasts until a good time to go out.
There are some rituals to be done when you go out. First of all, the bride and groom should offer tea to their parents and bid farewell to them. After drinking tea, the woman's parents will give the groom a big red envelope containing oranges, lotus seeds, peanuts, red dates and rice, which is called "betel nut money", indicating that this is the money for the groom to buy betel nuts. It used to be for the groom. There are not many people in eat areca now. Let's express our meaning. The money in the red envelope belongs to the parents' elders. The bride gets an ordinary red envelope to show her parents' blessing to her daughter.
After the ceremony, the groom can take the bride away. In the past, he often took a sedan chair, but now he takes a car. Floats should be prepared in advance, usually eight. On this day, everyone's mood is full of joy. Parents are finally looking forward to their children growing up and getting married. The groom imagines how beautiful his bride is and looks forward to a bright future, while the two brothers can laugh with their sisters and maybe find their other half. Smiles are always on everyone's face.
Fourth, go back to your mother's house and squat in the corner.
On the morning after the wedding, the younger brother or sister of the bride's family will go to the new house to take the bride back to her family. It is not until the evening that the groom will go to the bride's house to pick her up. On the third day, the bride can't go out all day, commonly known as "squatting in the corner". On this day, the bride's close friends will come to chat with her, and those who have never seen the bride and are curious will come to see her today. Anyway, the bride will be an exhibit today.