Giving gifts is a form of expressing one's mind. There are not many ceremonies, and the meaning is spiritual; Politeness is not important, just love. "Goose feathers come from afar, a trivial gift, and there is a heavy thought behind it; What matters is not the gift, but the intention behind it. " The gift is sincere, and what the other person feels is affection.
As a cultural phenomenon, gift-giving has its specific rules. In order to achieve the purpose of giving gifts, we must abide by the rules. Follow one's inclinations may cause thankless gifts and troubles. In a sense, gift-giving is a special art of communication. Therefore, you must think about it before giving gifts. What are the main factors to consider and what principles to follow when giving gifts? The following points are for your reference.
(1) Gifts should be light and heavy.
Gifts don't have to be expensive, and expensive gifts are not necessarily popular. Choose according to the seriousness of what you do or the intimacy of interpersonal relationships; The most important thing is that when choosing a gift, we should make some efforts from the aspects of ideological, artistic, interesting and commemorative, so as to be unique and unconventional, so that the other party can accept it happily and achieve the best results.
(2) Grasp the gift-giving opportunity.
You must find the right time to give gifts, that is, find a suitable reason for giving gifts to yourself. Because people don't accept gifts from others for no reason. If you don't find the right time, others will be wary of you, not only won't accept your gift, but also have a negative view of you.
Weddings, birthdays and some festivals are good opportunities to give gifts. Remember to give gifts in time, preferably in advance and at that time at the latest. Avoid giving gifts late except for distant relatives and friends. If you don't catch up with the time for other reasons, you might as well not send it. If you don't send it, forget it. If you send it afterwards, it will put the other party in a dilemma. Not to accept or not to accept. It is useless to give gifts afterwards, no matter how expensive it is. It not only loses its proper meaning, but also makes it difficult to eliminate the heartfelt idea of belittling others.
(3) Know each other's customs and taboos before giving gifts.
Before giving a gift, you should know the identity, hobbies and taboos of the recipient to avoid embarrassment due to improper gifts. For example, an old man's birthday must not be given a clock. Because "bell" and "final" are homophonic, "final farewell" is the most unlucky thing for the elderly. So, don't give gifts blindly, be considerate, and don't do bad things with kindness.
(4) truly reflect the meaning of giving gifts.
Compared with the value of the gift, the recipient pays more attention to the giver's mind, and the deep friendship contained in the gift can't be bought by any money. Gifts should be sent to the heart. Gifts are the transmission of feelings and the medium of friendship. Therefore, when choosing a gift, you should choose a gift according to your own feelings and psychology, that is to say, you should do everything possible to express your emotional psychology through specific gifts, so that the other party can feel your deep friendship when accepting gifts, that is, look at things with feelings and feel people with feelings. Only by doing this can you make your gift-giving behavior look noble, elegant, cordial and friendly.
(5) Give gifts suitable for each other's needs.
For the receiver, what is needed is the best. If you want the recipient to like his gift, you must know what he needs most, what he likes best, and do what he likes best. Don't judge others by yourself, thinking that people who like you also like themselves, but it may not be. Everyone has different interests. Since it is a gift for others, we should take the needs and interests of the recipient as the starting point.
(6) Gifts depend on the object.
For people with different identities, occupations and cultural backgrounds, the gifts given are also different. Because their preferences and spiritual pursuits are different. Generally speaking, people with high cultural level and rich material life should pay attention to the pursuit of spiritual enjoyment, and should choose exquisite and elegant gifts, such as celebrity calligraphy and painting, exquisite arts and crafts and various high-end cultural supplies. People with low education level and emphasis on material enjoyment should choose some novel, chic, exquisite and fashionable consumer goods as gifts, mainly eating, wearing and playing; For some people who have difficulties in life and have few requirements for enjoyment except survival, there is no need to buy things that are simply unnecessary in life. They give them what they need most, and some give them some money, and the effect is good.
summary
Gifts should not only choose the right things, seize the opportunity, but also impress each other with sincerity, which is more valuable than the gift itself and easier to win each other's hearts.
Gifts are gifts of heart and affection, and they are not expensive. As long as you are careful, the other person will feel it.