This is the last ceremony of marriage, which means that the daughter does not forget the kindness of her parents, and the son-in-law thanks her parents-in-law and newlyweds for their love and beauty.
A banquet was held at the woman's house, and the new son-in-law was seated, accompanied by the female elders. The newlyweds either return on the same day or stay for a few days. If they stay, they won't live in the same room.
Generally speaking, the bride's old man attaches great importance to returning home in three days, so the groom should make preparations in advance, both ideologically and as gifts, so as to leave a happy and beautiful impression on his parents-in-law. Gifts are prepared in advance. Buy gifts that the bride and the old man like. There are generally four kinds of gifts. Huimen usually leaves at nine or ten in the morning. The bride and groom should dress up as well as at the wedding, and keep a beautiful and handsome image at the wedding.
When going back to their parents' home, the bride and groom should greet the old man first. At this time, the groom should change his mind and call his parents-in-law like the bride. He should be natural and kind, and be kind and polite to his relatives, friends and neighbors. He should greet people first and treat them with courtesy. At dinner, the bride should accompany the groom and propose a toast to her parents, relatives and neighbors. Thank you for wishing her a new village official an interactive communication platform.
In Weibei area, the most classic program of Huimen is "Playing with a son-in-law". On this day, the woman's elders will be invited to come home to make pots and entertain her son-in-law. As a central figure, the new son-in-law should not only be able to cope with cross-examination, but also be articulate, considerate and greet everyone who comes to accompany him.
The food I ate on the day I returned to China was very particular. There are at least five kinds of steamed buns, which are as small as walnuts. When you get older, people will laugh at your host's poor cooking. The trick of playing son-in-law is to make buns.
A plate of steamed buns was served, and the accompanying person warmly greeted the son-in-law for dinner. The new son-in-law was shy and grabbed a steamed stuffed bun and stuffed it in his mouth. The woman cooking stood outside the door and listened. Look at the new son-in-law. Such exquisite steamed bread is like chewing wax in his mouth, and some of them will sweat. Those naughty sisters-in-law will then squeeze into the room to watch the excitement. The steamed stuffed bun was finally eaten, but the new son-in-law changed his face. It turns out that those steamed buns are either salted or a whole steamed bun with Chili noodles, and there are many kinds of fillings mixed with seasonings, which are naturally unpalatable. The bride watched the groom being tortured by his sister-in-law outside the door and could do nothing.
The custom of returning home to get married.
Preparation before returning to the door
Gifts are prepared in advance. Buy gifts that the bride and the old man like. There are generally four kinds of gifts. Huimen usually leaves at nine or ten in the morning. The bride and groom should dress up as carefully as attending a wedding banquet, and keep a beautiful and handsome image at the wedding.
What should I do when I return to the door?
When going back to their parents' home, the bride and groom should greet the old man first. At this time, the groom should change his mind and call his parents-in-law like the bride. He should be natural and kind, and be kind and polite to his relatives, friends and neighbors. He should greet people first and treat them with courtesy. At dinner, the bride should accompany the groom, propose a toast to parents, relatives and neighbors, and thank everyone for their wishes for their wedding. Don't rush home after dinner. You should chat with your parents for a while, listen to their teachings, and then leave and go home. And you should take the initiative to invite two old people and brothers and sisters to your home, or invite friends, relatives and neighbors, which is much closer than in the wedding banquet hotel.
Traceback time
The bride goes back to her family, usually on the third day after marriage, and the groom also goes to Yue's home to recognize relatives. When I go home, some people are still sitting in sedan chairs, while others are riding horses. When you enter your mother's house, you must jump into the fire to avoid evil spirits.
The origin of huimen
The customs of the Han nationality. That is, on the third, sixth, seventh, ninth, tenth or full moon after marriage, the son-in-law goes back to her mother's house with the bride to pay New Year greetings to her parents and relatives. The ceremony of becoming a husband from kissing is now complete. This custom originated in ancient times and is generally called "mothering in the province", which means going home to visit parents after marriage.
Differences of Huimen in Different Regions
Later generations have different names, such as "Hundred Doors" in Song Dynasty, "Two-way Doors" in North China in Qing Dynasty, "Huijia" in South China, "Jiaoshu" in parts of Hebei Province and "Huilang" in Hangzhou. In modern times, it is usually on the third day after marriage, in the wedding hotel, also known as the "Three Dynasties". This is the last ceremony of the wedding. Daughters will never forget the kindness of their parents. The son-in-law thanked her parents-in-law and newlyweds for their love and beauty. Generally, the woman hosts a banquet, and the new son-in-law is seated, accompanied by the female elders. The newlyweds either return on the same day or stay for a few days. If they stay, they won't live in the same room. Song Mengyuan's "Tokyo Dream Record Marries Women": "When a husband goes to his wife's house, it is called worshipping the door. If you can do it effectively and have fun, you will go the next day, which means you will visit again. Otherwise, you can do it for three or seven days, and the reward is like your husband's family.