What do women get married for? If this question had been put in the past, many women would have replied: Marriage is because of love, and it is to be with the person you love for life. I hope a man can love me deeply and love me for a lifetime.

But now it is found that more and more women get married for these reasons. People always say that women nowadays are too realistic. You need a car, a house and a bride price when you get married. It seems that marriage is for material things. What's more, some gold diggers publicly declared that they would rather cry on a BMW than laugh on a bicycle.

This concept of money worship has had a very bad influence. Subtly changed the purpose of many women when choosing a spouse.

In fact, everything should be divergent. On the one hand, the prevalence of hedonism makes many women pursue materialism more and more. On the other hand, it is also caused by disappointment in marriage. Since the pursuit of feelings in marriage is not happy, why not pursue material things?

Emotion may go bad, but matter will not, it will always enjoy it. With this in mind, many women changed their purpose when they got married.

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The above conclusion seems reasonable, but it seriously deviates from the initial intention when getting married. We got married to find a suitable person to spend the rest of our lives with. Feelings are very important and are the foundation of marriage. Is there any value in a marriage without a foundation?

If you blindly pursue material things, you might as well live alone. Anyway, money can be earned by yourself, life can be self-reliant, and there are a lot of troubles in marriage.

I think both men and women should think about it. What is marriage for? What do you want to pursue in marriage? Want to understand these two points before deciding whether to get married. This is responsible for yourself and for others.

Women need to know what they want in marriage, and men need to know what they should do in marriage. Because I found that many people's marriages are muddled now, and they don't know how to run a marriage. I don't know what my responsibility is in marriage.

Especially for men, lack of responsibility in marriage is a common phenomenon. "Widowed marriage" refers to this situation. If a man can't do what a husband should do in marriage, then stop complaining about the material reality of women.

Everything in marriage is relative, contradictions will not arise for no reason, love and hate will not appear for no reason, and women are not so realistic from the beginning. Marriage is the responsibility of both parties, so no matter what happens, we must face it together.

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Many times, marriage is actually very dull. When two people are together for a lifetime, some contradictions may occur during the period, but they can all be solved. This is probably a brief introduction to the marriage of ordinary people.

But it is undeniable that some people's marriage will not be so simple, and many wonderful things will happen during this period, which will also become the talk of others after dinner.

What we are talking about today is provided by a reader. A wonderful thing happened to her. Although I am divorced now, I will still be angry in retrospect.

Yingzhou is 27 years old Just married for a year, she divorced angrily not long ago. The reason for the divorce is also very strange: because her husband and mother-in-law have been cheating on each other, she divorced in anger.

Yingzhou and her husband Ahao met through their families. They belong to the right family. Yingzhou's parents are employees of the company, while Ahao's parents run a small supermarket.

Both families agreed to their marriage, and Ying Zhou and A Hao got along well. Ah Hao is a bit male chauvinistic, but Ying Zhou can accept it.

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The two families began to discuss some details of marriage. According to local standards, the man buys a house, the bride price is about 50 thousand, and there are many three gold and some messy expenses. It can be said that after this wedding, the Qin Hao family can be said to have been skinned.

A Hao's family has always wanted to discuss with Ying Zhou's family whether it is possible to pay less bride price. However, the Yingzhou family refused, because these are standard in the local area, and her family didn't want much. Without the bride price, her daughter would lose face.

In order to get their son married, Ahao's parents gritted their teeth and borrowed some money, and the wedding was held smoothly.

There's an episode here. Getting married locally requires "three golds", that is, three kinds of gold jewelry. It is bought by the man's family for the bride, usually necklaces, rings, bracelets and the like.

Ying Zhou wanted to buy three golds before she got married, but A Hao and her mother-in-law told her that they had all been bought, including necklaces, bracelets and rings. I'll send it to her on the wedding day.

Yingzhou was a little confused, but her mother-in-law really took it out when she returned to the house. Yingzhou gave it a try and it felt good. So I didn't say anything.

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The wedding was held as scheduled and three gold medals were also given to Yingzhou. Yingzhou still likes these jewels, so she has been wearing them since she got married.

As we all know, if a woman wears jewelry for a long time, it will lose its freshness, and then she will not wear it. Yingzhou is the same. After wearing it for a few months, she put away her jewelry and never wore it again.

And A Hao's marriage life officially began. After the marriage, Ahao told her that his family had borrowed more than RMB 10, and the money needed to be returned by the couple.

Yingzhou certainly didn't want to, so she quarreled with A Hao because of this matter. Finally, A Hao waved and said, "I don't care whether you like it or not. Anyway, the money must be paid back by both of us! "

A Hao doesn't give Yingzhou the money he earns every month. According to him, it is repayment. Ying Zhou is responsible for all the expenses at home.

In this way, after half a year, life went on as usual, but the couple always quarreled over some trivial matters. A Hao's male chauvinism was exposed. When they quarreled, A Hao never took the initiative to apologize. He also had a cold war with Ying Zhou, and he always took the initiative to make up with him.

Yingzhou thinks that marriage may be to tolerate each other's shortcomings. So she always chose to put up with A Hao's temper.

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Not long ago, Yingzhou's best friend was getting married, and I asked her some details. She told her best friend everything in detail. That day, my best friend visited her house and they chatted for a while. My best friend excitedly showed Yingzhou the three gold coins she bought from her boyfriend's house. And I want Yingzhou to compare three gold medals.

Yingzhou looked cheerful and really took it out, but she didn't expect that when she took out the three gold coins, she found that the necklace was a little faded.

My best friend also took a look in her hand and said, "This weight is also a little lighter. How can gold fade? "

Yingzhou was in a hurry and went out to the jewelry store for identification with Sanjin and his best friend. Unexpectedly, when the appraisal results came out, these jewels were all gold-plated, not pure gold at all!

Yingzhou realized that she had been cheated by her mother-in-law and her husband. No wonder I didn't follow her to buy it. She has been deceiving herself.

After returning home, Yingzhou was so angry that he asked A Hao what was going on. Unexpectedly, A Hao listened to her and told her, "No way, I had no money at home and borrowed a lot of money to buy a house. This kind of thing is just a form. Save it if you can. Gold-plated also cost my family a lot of money! "

Yingzhou was so angry that she always called A Hao and her mother-in-law liars, and even did such a wonderful thing that she was laughed at by her girlfriends.

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A Hao looked at Yingzhou and scolded, and he was very upset. He interrupted her directly and said without fear, "Our family cheated you. What happened? Why are you still insisting? " Do you dare to divorce now? "

Yingzhou is already angry. When A Hao stimulated her again, she was even more angry. She roared, "if you leave, I'm afraid you won't succeed!" "

Two people had a big fight, and then they really went to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce.

Yingzhou lost her marriage because of a scam, but she did not regret choosing a divorce. She firmly believes that she will meet a man who won't lie to herself.

In fact, we will encounter many contradictions and frictions in marriage, which are inevitable. As long as there is an emotional foundation between husband and wife, it is easy to solve.

But cheating is different. Cheating means that both husband and wife have lost trust, which is a very serious matter. Marriage without trust is like ping-pong without roots, so don't cheat the other half in marriage.