Many people will fall into an inexplicable anxiety after marriage, and some people have already begun to worry before marriage. But in the face of various realities, there is always such a sense of powerlessness. Whether a man really loves you depends on whether he is willing to invest in you or whether he is willing to do something to express his sincerity. Those men who only know how to take and don't know how to give, obviously, he doesn't love you at all.
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Hua Ze and I have known each other for nearly five years. We were supposed to get married in May. After all, marriage is not a one-sided thing. My prospective mother-in-law only wants us to get married as soon as possible, but her prospective mother-in-law avoids seeing my family. Seeing that our wedding is coming, Hua Ze and her husband's family are in no hurry.
Just a few months before the wedding, Hua Ze kept asking me to buy a new car. In fact, I am a little reluctant. After all, neither of us has a particularly good economic condition. At first, I turned down Hua Ze, but Hua Ze always wanted to buy a car.
"Wife, let's buy a car. How convenient it is to drive. Then we won't have to work in the wind and rain. What's more, the current car price will not be particularly expensive. You pay a little money, and then I'll save a little more myself. Then I'll ask my mother to pay some money, and your father will pay a little more, and our car will be bought! " I still reject Hua Ze's statement. Even if we can barely afford a car now, we can't afford it.
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But during that time, Hua Ze kept bothering me: "If you don't pay, I'll buy a car in the future, and you won't want to sit!" Although he said this very strongly, after a while, he came to me pitifully and begged me. Finally, I compromised and bought a car with my own savings loan, but Hua Ze and her future mother-in-law didn't pay a penny. Actually, I thought to myself, forget it After all, neither of us is married, and this new car is written in my own name and the money is my own. It is better to be clear in the future.
However, a few days after I mentioned the new car, my prospective mother-in-law heard that I had paid the money, so she borrowed it. Speaking of which, I am also very angry. Although her mother-in-law is under 50 years old, she dresses up beautifully every day. As soon as she heard that I had bought a car, she came to borrow mine. At that time, she gave me the excuse that her mother-in-law had rheumatism recently and didn't have to go to the vegetable market and supermarket to buy things.
However, I have not forgotten my mother-in-law. After all, I will marry into their family in the future, so I didn't say much. I just gave my mother-in-law the car keys. I thought her mother-in-law only borrowed it for a few days, but I didn't expect that the new car I bought had been at her house for several months. I urged her several times, but her mother-in-law always had her own excuses. At that time, I was a little unhappy and would complain to Hua Ze, "What is your mother?" How long will your mother keep my car? I bought it and it was borrowed by your mother for months before it was opened! "
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As a result, Hua Ze replied impatiently, "It's not like I won't pay you back. What are you arguing about here? It's just a broken car, what's rare! "
When I heard Hua Ze say this, I was very angry. I didn't talk to him for several days, or when my parents came to the city from the countryside to play, I took the car back from my mother-in-law. I haven't mentioned to my parents that Huaze and I are getting married. Only when they come to town this time, will I tell them that I am going to marry Hua Ze.
My parents were particularly surprised when they heard the news. After all, marriage is a life-long event, and there is no room for carelessness. My mother grabbed my wrist and said, "Do you have time to prepare for the wedding in May?" Besides, your father and I have never even seen your husband's house! "I could see that my mother's face was a little angry, so I quickly called Hua Ze.
Finally, my parents came to stay in the hotel in the city, which was my decision. It was a four-star hotel, but I paid for all this myself and didn't tell my parents, so our two families had a meal, and the prospective mother-in-law mentioned the wedding, but she never mentioned the bride price.
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I know my mother has been there before. Even though I hid it well, she saw some mud ends. Although I went back to my hometown after dinner, my parents called me every day to tell me something about their marriage. After a long time, they finally began to understand me:
"Daughter, even if you and your boyfriend have too many girlish feelings, if he really cares about you, how can he be so casual if he is not married? Although your boyfriend is from the city, it is true that you used to get married, but after all, marriage is equal. If you feel inferior before marriage, how can you live in the future? "
I heard what my mother said and thought about it for a long time. Finally, I quit my job in the city and went back to my hometown. I didn't show up on my wedding day. A lively wedding may embarrass my husband's family and eventually turn into a family dinner. Hua Ze made some phone calls. Until the last call, I explained to him that I was not married. Before I heard what he called me, I hung up and hacked all his things.
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Whether in love or marriage, no matter which side, being content with perfection does not always win the sincere treatment of the other side. Both love and marriage pay attention to honesty and equality. Such a fair pay is the long-term way to maintain love and marriage. With respect between husband and wife, two people will have a sense of hardship, and with equality between husband and wife, they can walk down the difficult road of tortuous marriage together.
Today's famous saying:
The premise of a happy marriage is to strive to meet each other's needs. But it is impossible to be completely satisfied, so we should also learn to admit the reality wisely. Osborne
In fact, respect is the first key for couples to get along. Before they get married, the other party has disrespected themselves. You should consider whether to continue to spend your life with this person. After all, you should always be responsible for yourself in marriage. A good relationship between husband and wife is often based on mutual respect between husband and wife, so that marriage can continue.