People are subtraction from birth, less and less every day, less and less every year. Whether life is complete or not will eventually lead to illness and death, some will die unexpectedly, and some will come to an end. No matter in the city or in the countryside, no matter what others say, funerals must be done. With the ceremony, Dai Xiao is indispensable. What should I do with the white woolen cloth or white cloth given by the victim after the ceremony?
A hundred miles of different winds and customs live in our area, so everyone is given a filial hat. It is said to be a dutiful son hat. In fact, it is made of white cloth, about 2 feet long and about 1 foot wide, like a hat. Don't wear the folds of the deceased's generation, not at the top button of the coat; If you belong to the younger generation, wear it on your head. This custom is also called "filial piety".
The treatment of white towels should be similar to that of "Xiao Hai". Let me talk about our local handling of "Xiao Hai". There are always two or three tables by the gate for those who have done funerals. There are books, gifts, and at least two people are responsible for distributing Xiao Hai. When people come with gifts, someone gives a cigarette first, and then a filial hat. According to the generation, people wear mourning hats or not, but also go to the mourning hall outside the door to burn incense and paper money. Someone called right away and sat there waiting to be invited to the party.
After the banquet, the guests left in small groups. When they walk a hundred steps out of the victim's house, they will take off another "sea filial piety" and tear it off from the seam of the filial piety hat and turn it into a piece of white cloth. This is also the first step in the local treatment of Xiao Hai.
How to deal with "Xiao Hai" is different, but the premise is to tear the seam, otherwise it is bad luck. Generally speaking, the "Xiao Hai" is handled like this:
After all, it's a funeral. In order to avoid "bad luck", the white cloth of "Xiao Hai" will be broken into "unlucky things". Of course, if you throw it on the side of the road, you should also avoid the victim so as not to worry too much. As for those who have made shoes and rags, we all know that putting them on them will do the same. This is not surprising. It can also be said that the white towel given after the ceremony should also be treated like this!
The white towel given by the victim's family shows that people understand etiquette and parting is filial piety, which proves that the deceased was highly respected and died at an advanced age, and a grand funeral was held for the deceased. Everyone has filial piety. Filial piety is a respect! Don't underestimate its filial hat and scarf (seven feet long and one foot 23 inches wide), which is the highest etiquette. It's also your pleasure to bring filial piety to old age. When it comes to giving you white towels, it's not filial. People who pay attention to ostentation and extravagance do. There must be a difference between white towels for men and women, which actually means filial piety.
Many people think it seems a bit unlucky to attend funeral condolences, but it is actually a blessing! If four generations of old people live under the same roof and die, or die, children can keep what the old people used. Neighbors all want to be blessed. The tableware and some daily necessities at home have long belonged to others. If the great-grandson's little red riding hood is not taken seriously, it will be taken away by others. It is said that it can be "crushed".
In addition, the mourning can also be made into shoes (to ward off evil spirits) and shirts for children to wear. Speaking of white towels, it doesn't matter if you wash them as towels. Now that living conditions are good, filial piety cloth and white towel can be thrown into the trash can if there are any taboos. Don't refuse to accept it to your face or throw it away under others' noses, then you are really not interesting enough. All relatives should not be so casual. You should bring your mourning clothes to the main house, and the main house will hold a ceremony, take off your mourning clothes and put on a red scarf for good luck.
When it comes to Pima Dai Xiao, all places are very particular about it. Filial piety is not casual. Generally speaking, it is scattered and full of filial piety, arranged according to relatives' contacts and surname numbers. How far the mourning is scattered, how big your scene is. When it comes to people's filial piety, they are only respected and have a long life, which is a normal natural death. Otherwise, this mourning is not casual, relatives are not in the way, and three friends and four friends are a little reluctant. Of course, if the deceased is the oldest, you can keep it. How to deal with it is not for you to decide.
Whether it is a white towel or a white cloth, according to the old man, it is auspicious! You can keep it! In the past, I thought it was bad to get something for nothing. In fact, the old man said the opposite!
This kind of cloth is called Lisbon. There is nothing unlucky. It is a "good thing" that their family gave to their friends on behalf of old friends. Some people will ask for it if they can't receive it.
It used to be a funeral, but it was actually a white cloth with a width of 20 cm and a length of 60 cm. Although it is necessary to do white things at home, it is also a gift. If you don't return the gift, some people are very concerned, especially the elderly. Now it has been changed and a practical product has been issued. Send a big bowl or two small bowls with a dish towel, but there is a prerequisite that only the elderly who die at a certain age will send it, if it is not good.
It turned out to be white cloth, and the old man said it was evil. He made a Chinese-style bra for the baby to prevent the child from catching cold by kicking the quilt at night. Now, not all relatives are white towels, but all relatives give them long ones, because all the relatives in Dai Xiao are younger generations, and they can sew quilt heads and blanket heads. If it is not dirty, take it off and wash the white cloth. It's a shame to throw it away. Why are you a rag?
The white towel given by the victim's family is a substitute for the filial piety hat. Here, the filial hats or filial cloths given by the victims' families were thrown away on the way home. In order to promote white towels, merchants use white towels instead of mourning clothes (we call them filial piety). In rural areas, farmers are reluctant to throw them away, and they will use them as handkerchiefs to wipe their sweat. As for whether to keep it or throw it away, it depends on the individual. I use it as a handkerchief.
Generally, I will throw away the white towels sent by the victim's family after the event, mainly because I can't take them home to wipe my hands or the table. One reason is to feel unlucky emotionally!
After the death of a person, the immediate family members within Sanfu will receive the funeral cloth, funeral belt and shoe cover cloth from the cashier at the funeral and hair-raising stage before burial. The women's office assigned women to help sew. Wear it directly. Because of the death of a close relative, I feel sad and have no leisure to sew.
Five Blessingg's family should bring their own mourning clothes and belts. Wear it when it is induced by companion spirit.
Some friends know that they used to bring a box of cigarettes as a gift to their parents. Most of them are white towels at present. According to the victim's condition, there are pure cotton towels and fiber towels to show feedback. Thank you for coming to the white scene.
Some are brought back for other purposes, and they are all old people who know things well.
Some of them were thrown away secretly, mostly young people, and they felt that they were not worth a few dollars and were useless.
But when it comes to bad luck, don't generalize
It is a pity that the deceased was young and died suddenly. Throw it away.
If you live a long life, don't throw it away, take it home and think about what to do to make good luck. Some old people steal other people's food in order to avoid disaster for their grandchildren?
Even after a centenarian died, it was sent. Sell more side dishes for people to take at will.