Not surprising.
This is mainly reflected in material relations. Mother-in-law bought something for her children, don't forget to buy a copy for her daughter-in-law. Only by being treated equally can a daughter-in-law feel psychologically accepted by this family.
Don't speak ill of your wife.
Some mothers-in-law can't see that their sons are good to their daughters-in-law. She thinks that the daughter-in-law robbed her son and likes to speak ill of her son and outsiders, which is easy to cause family conflicts.
Help the daughter-in-law when quarreling.
When a son quarrels with his daughter-in-law, don't treat her like an outsider. It is always right to admire your son. Helping the daughter-in-law more can make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law warm up rapidly.
Not conservative
Some mothers-in-law often say that their daughter-in-law is a prodigal bitch and often buys new clothes. A good mother-in-law should not use her own aesthetic and consumption habits to ask her daughter-in-law, but learn to follow her daughter-in-law to accept new ideas.
Don't put on airs
Some mothers-in-law have been used to being masters of their own affairs for many years and have a paternalistic attitude. A good mother-in-law will adopt a democratic style and make her daughter-in-law feel equal and democratic.
Don't haggle over every ounce.
Some mothers-in-law have their own money, but they even have to reach out and ask their sons and daughters-in-law for money to buy noodles. It is right for a son to be filial to the elderly, but too much economic care will affect the feelings of his family.
Don't ask too many questions about housework.
If the mother-in-law often talks about her daughter-in-law and asks for too much housework, it will hurt her self-esteem and thus dampen her enthusiasm. Daughter-in-law should give more praise and encouragement when doing housework, which can improve her enthusiasm.
You can't favor boys over girls.
Whether the daughter-in-law gives birth to a boy or a girl, she is their grandson.
Respect personal space
Don't pry into the privacy of your son and daughter-in-law. Don't ask unless they take the initiative. Give them more privacy. Don't go into your son's wife's room.
The daughter-in-law takes good care of her.
After giving birth, the daughter-in-law should take care of not only her grandchildren, but also her daughter-in-law. Besides eating and drinking, she should pay more attention to her daughter-in-law, especially during confinement. At the same time, we should also respect the parenting concept of our sons and daughters-in-law, and learn to accept a new educational concept.