The issue of communication before marriage, marriage is a very sacred thing, but marriage must be understood first, not blindly chosen. If it is not suitable after marriage, it will be too late, so communication before marriage is very important. Let's share the relevant contents of the problems that need to be communicated before marriage.
Questions that need to be communicated before marriage 1 economic problems, who should manage the money after marriage, and who will decide the more important things. Whether the two people have the same idea after making money. Whether the consumption concept is consistent, whether to buy a car or a house first or continue to invest. These consumption concepts should also be communicated before marriage.
Otherwise, it is very serious to get into trouble because of these economic problems after marriage. If one's own financial resources are ok, it's a little easier to say. If the economy is tight, different consumption concepts will be particularly contradictory.
Whether or when to have children. Marrying a wife and having children is an old saying handed down a long time ago, so this concept has penetrated into everyone's mind. Getting married and having children at a certain age seems to be a task.
Therefore, we must communicate clearly about the children before marriage. After all, there are many young people who don't want to have children. If you don't make it clear before marriage, you will be embarrassed after marriage. If one side wants it and the other side doesn't, there will be many contradictions. Or one side wants it now, and the other side wants to wait a few years. This will also cause certain contradictions. After all, there is no man whose parents are not in a hurry to have grandchildren. Therefore, questions about children before marriage must be clearly communicated. After all, this is a matter of principle.
About whether to live with your parents. Nowadays, many families are only children, especially men. If he is the only child in the family, he basically lives together.
So whether you want to live with your mother-in-law after marriage should be made clear in advance. After all, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is rarely a perfect way to get along. Therefore, this aspect needs to be clearly communicated before marriage. Otherwise, men will be caught in the middle and affect the harmony of the whole family.
But it's not bad to give it to my mother-in-law. At least someone helps with housework and cooking.
Questions that need to be communicated before marriage 2. Things that must be clear before marriage.
I. Requirements for Marriage (Wedding)
Both parents will make some demands when discussing the wedding. Generally, the man's family meets the requirements of the woman's family. For example, where to hold the wedding, what scale of the wedding. What kind of wedding company? What's the budget? Wedding, according to the custom of the man or the custom of the woman.
For example, if you need to buy a house, who will pay the bill. Whose name should I write?
Who will pay for the decoration and whether to buy a car? What level of rings and jewelry to buy. Is there a corresponding dowry and dowry requirement? These questions are very realistic, and many unmarried couples finally broke up because these questions were not settled. So if you decide to get married, these issues should be discussed well. It is best not to ask for more than the other party's ability. In particular, although the woman's parents love her daughter, they hope that her daughter will be happy after marriage and the wedding will be successful. But if you let your in-laws owe too much foreign debt, it's your daughter and son-in-law who suffer, or them.
As lovers, couples who are about to enter the marriage hall should negotiate two families. Try to meet the needs of the other family and ask directly if you have any difficulties. Don't promise at first and then go back on your word.
Second, premarital property.
For the average family, this problem may not be involved. We are all ordinary people and have no property. Try to hold a wedding for the couple, and then both husband and wife can live. But some men or women are young and promising, have their own careers, or some lovers are already rich second generation. They may inherit some property from their parents in the future, or they already have some property.
If we consider minimizing contradictions in the future, we can notarize these property conditions. Including, if divorced, how to deal with property. If you think this is too cumbersome and hurtful. Then two people have a good discussion and have a clear concept. Don't finally feel cheated by the rich party for money, feelings and regrets.