How far a marriage can go and how beautiful love at first sight must be filled with eternal determination and confidence.

Walking began to be confused, began to be sad, began to be tired, began to escape, until their respective ends of the earth.

People can pursue love in despair, endure harm in love, and boredom in love is sweet. When you enter marriage, you will feel pain if you are slightly hurt, and you will feel bored if you are bored for romance, and you will never try your best to enter your world again. Because you already belong to me. A sensitive heart can feel the changes before and after marriage, although only subtle changes. So after marriage, we should take good care of love, manage love, manage love, and form habits and tacit understanding.

The harm in marriage is often because one party is too headstrong and sensitive, too selfish and overbearing, too lazy and dependent, or lacks the minimum trust and respect, or goes its own way and lacks care. Many marriages are broken up or sad because of some trivial things. Everyone stepped into the marriage hall and began to enjoy the beauty of marriage for the first time. Family is the same as * * *, but two people have not yet become one. Who has a career, who has relatives, who has friends, who has hobbies, who has long-term feelings, who has personal space. You have me in you, and I have you in me, which means loving each other deeply, being honest with each other without cheating and lies, being tolerant and understanding without complaining and accusing, trying to make each other's life happy and comfortable, thinking of each other's parents when thinking of their parents, being able to accompany or help each other when encountering difficulties or troubles, and making a phone call with friends no matter how busy or far away, so as to reassure each other. Instead of always restraining, limiting or questioning, guessing or complaining, getting angry, not even listening to explanations and losing your temper. In marriage, everyone is experiencing it for the first time. In fact, two people need to grow up together. They will love each other, communicate with each other and resolve conflicts with tenderness.

But I came to this day and looked back at my married life. Only then did I know how immature I was, and the road to growth set too many obstacles for myself. My feelings are as fragile as a thin piece of glass, and they are easily hurt and broken.

I am sensitive to everything he says. I said no, but I care. When it comes to love, I always get along with him casually. I know I can't let go, but I can't be together. Although I have experienced too many ups and downs, I have also caused some harm to my son and parents, but I have always been together and still have deep feelings.

Sometimes I think, maybe, this is life. The ups and downs that must be experienced in marriage. My father's generation also came here noisily. After living together for decades, I learned to speak casually without thinking, and I was no longer sensitive until I got used to it.

I remember that time, when I was extremely angry, I dumped a sentence on my husband: Son, this is not yours either.

Such a sentence is cruel and vicious enough for men. But he didn't show any abnormal reaction to this sentence, and he never doubted that his son was not his, let alone questioned me about his birth. I am puzzled, because I have a clear conscience, and I don't care about the harm I will bring him. When his son was about to get married, he smiled casually and told his friend that she was angry and said rudely, Your son is not yours. I thought about it, but I believe my son is mine, absolutely. For an instant, I understood that he cared about this sentence very much, but he believed me.

We have a good habit: we never go through each other's cell phones or pockets, because most of the time my husband is honest and he knows I won't lie. Just because of his kindness, he unconsciously hurt me a lot, hurt me and hurt him. I was too serious, too concerned about my mouth shut, and I was wrong. I only reflect in my heart, but few people apologize to him. If there's one thing I don't care about, it's that I've figured it out. My husband seems to understand that we quarreled, and after that, he will never mention it again. Sometimes, although it looks smooth and I haven't figured it out yet, he looks fine. In fact, so is he. He never goes through my things, and we don't hide from each other when we answer the phone. Even for a while, my husband and his friends often went out to play together and occasionally pulled me in. I saw his friend holding a beautiful young lover, but I never thought about whether my husband was having an affair with such a person every day. 10 years later, when I saw his friend again, the friend with a lover said to me in front of his wife: Sister-in-law, my brother has never betrayed you. I really feel sorry for my wife. If I put it on you, you can't do it. My brother hit me for this.

I am loyal, and so is he. Of course, my husband also has doubts. Everyone has the principle of being a man. I am not a person who lives only for myself. Now that you have chosen, you must keep going. My principle is to let myself, my husband and my son face life frankly, and they will never hold their heads up because of me. Therefore, in his bones, he will not allow himself to do anything out of line. Someone asked me, if I meet someone I love very much one day, would I be desperate? She didn't believe me when I said no. Later, I thought about it carefully. There are people around me who I really admire, but I know how traditional I am. I can't bear the betrayal of others, and I can't bear the heavy pressure of betraying each other. Therefore, I just want to keep this happy and sad marriage until I am old.

The premise of trust in marriage is mutual loyalty. The so-called generosity is not infinite. Just tolerate willfulness and nonsense that does not exceed the bottom line. No matter how pregnant a man is, he can't stand that a woman loves two men at the same time and makes out with them at the same time. In fact, the same is true for women. Only lovers can tolerate a man's wife for a while for a place, but after all, they try their best to monopolize this man.

2

My friend Qin divorced, strictly speaking, she was abandoned by her lover who had lived with her for 25 years.

Jean's son is getting married, and he said he didn't want to invite his father. In fact, my son's incomparable contradiction and heartache, strong hope and strong resistance. That kind of love and hate seems to stand on the edge of a cliff. If you jump, you can get rid of it. Take a step back and you will feel pain and resentment.

If a father misses his son's wedding, will he be sad?

If the son doesn't even tell his father about such an important thing as getting married, will both people's hearts hurt?

That man, when his son was about to work, abandoned his wife and stepped into the marriage hall again with his online lover.

For a son who is already in love, the sweetness of love can't make up for the sadness of his parents' separation, and the pain and hatred far exceed the weight of his happiness.

In sorrow, he lingered between love and hate.

Whether to tell the treacherous father that he is getting married.

He went to his company instead of his father's home. The man who faced him with some confusion and embarrassment was invited to the car. He didn't look him in the eye, but simply said: I will get married tomorrow.

The man burst into tears in an instant, and his son's heart was cramping.

Instead of inviting his father to attend, he told him that he was getting married.

The man carefully walked into the wedding scene with a smiling face, and when he passed by his mother-in-law, he still called his parents kindly. In such joy, no one wants to have a hard time with him, and they all lightly agree.

The ex-wife greeted the guests with a big smile. For his arrival, she was as dull as an acquaintance, with no expression and no sadness on her face.

When his son and daughter-in-law saw their parents, he cried and laughed as if he were crying. My son burst into tears in an instant, which made the whole audience sour and wiped away tears. The man lowered his once high head. The silent crusade at that moment destroyed all his self-esteem.

The son will suppress his deep love and hate for his father at the wedding reception. He has been very patient. He wants to finally call him dad today, and then go to the ends of the earth. But family ties are linked by blood, and we don't know how heavy it is until we want to give up. For example, when we cut our own meat, every piece will hurt to the bone, so the emotional gate will be washed away, and the man will burst into tears. At the moment of marrying the bride, the sweetness of this life will be shrouded in pain.

The man quietly left the scene in the misty tears of everyone, and he was watched by many complicated eyes and those tears that could not help.

He got married and started a new life. He must end his inner entanglement and let go. Maybe he shouldn't let his mother cry today, because she tried her best to help him walk down the aisle today.

His mother said to him: It is inevitable to get together in Where are you going and stay together for life. The past is the past. He must be your father.

My mother learned from a painful experience and accompanied her for nearly 30 years, but she gave up the result of being abandoned.

Still smiling and alive.

three

It's foggy and raining, and tiny raindrops are fluttering.

Pedestrians are still on their way to the mud overflow. Stains splashed on trouser legs. I didn't see a puppy this morning. The owner doesn't want the dog to get dirty on such a day. A white cat is free, but its owner still gets up early and is busy.

It's still warm in rainy days.

Yesterday, I saw Chongqing Satellite TV's "Speak out if you want to love", and I was deeply touched. It's really good to show your feelings and let everyone comment on all kinds of entanglements or contradictions in love. Love also needs to know and learn, and needs to operate. Two people in confusion don't know what they really need. It is difficult to feel whether two people are together for love or to enjoy being taken care of, and the reasons are still very chaotic. The authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear, so let everyone point out the maze.

Once upon a time, people were unhappy about emotional things, always hiding things, and their hearts were only bitter. Even their best friends did not necessarily open their hearts. Now, things are different. Love is love, and not love is not love, not pretending to be love. In daily life, you hurt yourself and each other, and having children hurts children even more. Sometimes it's really hard to let go of a relationship, but instead of being tied together for a long time and suffering, it's better to get rid of it early.

A few days ago, I watched the TV series My Mom and Dad. In the unilateral deep love, after she made great sacrifices for love, the mother said to her son: it is important for people to live in love, but what is more important than love is conscience. To this end, the two suffered painfully in their marriage. After all, they have been together for decades, and love has become a family relationship. At the urging of their son, they left, and the bitterness of breaking up stimulated them to become beautiful later. Give the man you love deeply a chance to live, and also give yourself a chance to choose the one that suits your life, and each other will be happier.

Love is a matter for two people. If you really love each other, you will really think of each other, you will pay selflessly, and you will experience the storms without regrets.

Therefore, love is about loving well. Since we want to enter the marriage hall, we should manage our marriage well, play different roles and move forward hand in hand in the direction of happiness.