No matter how rich and complete the dowry is, the only bed must be prepared by the man. The woman's parents must put some peanuts in the quilt for the good luck of "having children".
In the old society, the dowry of wealthy families was very thick. The dowry is arranged and displayed at home first, and what table is in front and what table is behind has a certain format. When you get to the men's house, you must display it as usual. The dowry in front must be a bucket for children and grandchildren, which contains a bag of red eggs and a bag of happy fruit.
The folk weddings in Jiaxing basically follow the customs of the Southern Song Dynasty. In the old society, the marriage between men and women was very feudal, and people over middle age had to ask a matchmaker to marry them, which was called "wearing marriage". After the man and the woman asked Budeji for a "fixed post", the man chose a date, prepared a gift for the woman, and the parents met. This is the so-called "blind date". If the woman likes it, she inserts a golden hairpin into the crown bun, which is called "inserting hairpin". If you are not satisfied, send two colored satin, which is called "shocking the world." At present, wedding banquets are held in rural areas such as Haining, Jiaxing. The first day is "media waiting day", which means to entertain the matchmaker.
We used to get married in a sedan chair, but now we use a sedan chair. Earlier on the wedding day, we will send the bride to the city to make up, and then the wedding car will stay in the city to decorate, and the groom will simply make up. After that, the groom took the wedding car home and prepared to leave with the wedding team. There are usually two groomsmen, the groom and the children, who go to the wedding reception. Generally, the better car is the first car in front.
On the wedding day, it is commonly known as "meeting the bride". Early one afternoon, the sedan chair was carried to the men's hall. At night, all the candles are burning and the lights are brilliant, which is called "bright sedan chair". The woman should also prepare a banquet for the bride one day in advance, which is called "farewell dinner", commonly known as "no drinking"
There are a few small points to pay attention to here.
Red represents happiness, and of course red is indispensable for weddings.
Sugarcane is a necessary thing for marriage, meaning: life is sweet in the future. The groom will offer tea to his parents-in-law, and his parents-in-law will give gifts to the groom.
The bride's parents feed the bride and groom longan jujube soup, which means wishing the couple to have a baby early. The bride can't walk on the ground. The bride was carried to the car by the groom and put on new shoes before getting married.
When you arrive at your in-laws' house, you should wash your face and powder yourself (symbolically, of course), which means starting a new life. The bride got off the sedan chair and walked on a sack. ...
The sacks are kept, which means: handed down from generation to generation.
They got married in the sight of everyone.
Key points of marriage: dragon and phoenix candles
There should be a big wedding banquet in the countryside to entertain guests and friends.
The bride (groom) should propose a toast to the guests, and the elders of relatives should give the bride or groom a greeting. The bride wants to help her parents-in-law, which means to show filial piety to her parents-in-law.