Should the bride price money be given to parents?
Daughter's dowry can be handed down through the changes of the times, so it has its value and necessity. More or less, whether to stay or not depends only on the environment, cultural atmosphere, the economic conditions of both families, and the opinions and consultation results of parents and children. Raising a daughter is not easy. The customs and reasons for staying should be divided according to feelings and reasons, and there is no reason to comment and discuss. There's a reason not to stay. After all, hiring a daughter is not selling a daughter.
Whether you want your daughter's dowry money is different from place to place. Some places want it, and it will cost a lot of money. Some places may not be needed or not much. Speaking of every daughter's parents, some parents may want more, some parents may want less, and some parents may not want a penny. There are all these situations. Rich local tyrants will give their daughters' parents1800,000 or more before asking them for a bride price. In other words, whether they want bride price or not is different.
Besides, whether parents should leave dowry money for their daughters is also a local custom. Some places may be left by her parents, some places may be left by her parents and taken away by her daughter, and some places may be brought back to her husband's family.
When it comes to each daughter's parents, the situation will be different. When the daughter gets married, no one in the family can make money, and the source of income is cut off, because the original source of life in the family is that the daughter works to earn money to support her parents, so the dowry money of her daughter is left to her parents. Some parents can earn money to support themselves, so they won't leave their daughter's dowry money, while others will leave some for their daughter to take away. So the situation is different, and the dowry money is different.
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When the eldest daughter got married, the man's parents discussed the bride price with us in advance through the introducer. Quantity. My wife and I clearly told the introducer that more or less is up to the man. We have no special requirements or opinions. We don't care more or less. After you take it, we'll let our daughter take it back intact when she gets married. As long as our daughter and son-in-law live well and live happily after marriage, we will be satisfied. Because I am three daughters, the eldest daughter is working, the second daughter and the third daughter are at school, and the economic conditions are limited. How much money I can give my daughter is my business. So when the eldest daughter got married, we not only didn't leave a penny of the bride price money given by the man, but also gave her 10 thousand yuan.
Before the second daughter got married, when the man's parents and son-in-law gave him a dowry, they sealed three red envelopes, one for his granddaughter (the child of my eldest daughter) and the other for me and my lover to buy clothes. After I received three red envelopes, the bride price red envelope was directly given to my second daughter and son-in-law, the red envelope for my granddaughter was directly given to my granddaughter, and the red envelope for buying clothes for my lover and me was returned to my in-laws. I said: We have received the wishes of my in-laws, and this red envelope is free. I gave my second daughter 20,000 yuan when they got married. When the third daughter got married, the dowry money was the same as that of her two sisters, and we didn't leave any money. Because of better conditions, we gave another 50 thousand. Not only did we not leave the dowry money to our three daughters, but we also gave them all the money for banquets and gifts from relatives and friends. My wife and I slowly returned the favor. At present, all three daughters are happy. Two live in Beijing and one lives with us in Baotou. They all have cars and houses and get along well with their three in-laws.
Therefore, it seems that we can tell the truth whether our daughter should pay the dowry money, whether she should keep it, and how to do it. Whether she likes it or not is not the key thing. What is the key thing? The key is that the daughter marries a good man and a good family!