Marriage and love are completely different.
Love is the possibility of creation. It is possible to fall in love regardless of age, gender, race or belief. Maybe it's because I looked at you more, maybe it's because of the feeling at that moment, maybe it's a song, an encounter and so on. ...
But marriage is indeed a possibility of destruction-once two people who are likely to be together get married, they will be separated because of various things, such as age, income and gender. Her mother thinks your house is too small and you are not suitable.
But shouldn't marriage ensure that two people are legally together? Why break up so many people instead?
After thinking about it, I realized that marriage is not to protect two people at all, but to maintain a stable "state".
Men and women are unstable in the traditional sense as long as they don't get married. In order to maintain this stability, it is natural to increase the sinking cost, hold a grand ceremony, notify all relatives and friends, sign various contracts, and exchange a lot of benefits, so that things will be complicated and two families or even two families will participate. ...
When I was a child, I didn't hate marriage, but I longed to be with my beloved, to be blessed by my relatives and friends, and to be protected by law.
However, when it comes to marriage, it is more like a mathematical model in the eyes of the other party and parents. The data of this model are: how big a house to buy, what car to drive, what job to do, good temper, whether to have children, and how to develop in the future. ...
Simplify a person into an equation, bring in the data, and come to the conclusion whether it is better to get married or find another data.
The love I care most about is the least important because it is not convenient to quantify.
The classmate gets married, he is the groom, I am the best man, and we are also the saltiest people on the scene. The whole wedding scene was in a hurry, and the protagonist of the wedding sat backstage to accompany me to drink tea and play chess.
I said why, why so soon, and he said he was tired. At my age, I don't want to look for it anymore. When I meet someone who thinks it's okay, I'll just muddle along.
When I think of my ex-girlfriend's house, she asks questions and says they are implicit, so I can hear them unconsciously. They want a promise that they will always be kind to her and treat their families as relatives. I can understand this feeling, but I just don't want to go on. You can know after a little rational thinking. How can it be done? Standing in the first few decades of life, it is nonsense to make a lifelong commitment to others, especially emotionally.
We can't choose our relatives. You can be friends if you have a temper, and blood relationship is fate. But most of our relatives have no such good fate as you. I don't want to waste my time on useless and complicated social activities at all, but the engagement will greatly increase the time I spend on it. I hate this obligation, and I hate any interference in my life by my seventh aunt who appears under the banner of "for your own good" after marriage.