If you can afford it, you must get it back. If she can't be idle, then find a leisure job for her to do, and you should also have time to cultivate feelings at close range! If the family conditions are not very good, both sides are fighting for the family. You should be considerate of her, care about her, accompany her from time to time and help her share the burden, man! But if she changes her mind, deliberately, and it won't affect the children too much, then give her up resolutely! I hope it works for you!