Signal 1: Who pays the bill?
When you say:? Let's make dinner with AA. ? I'm really sincere to you, but it's 2 1 century. I have a good job and just made some money. There's no reason to keep asking you to pay for my meal, is there? The signal he received: I don't want to feel indebted to you for money. ?
In fact, the appropriate transmission signal was originally like this: no one needs to clearly mark the price, and a simple rule is? Who invites who pays.
? I hate being treated like a little woman on a date. ? A girl said,? But if he insists, I'll let him pay the bill, and then if we go out for dessert or drink, I'll pay the bill. So after the first date, we are still AA. Another option is: let him pay the bill, but suggest that I take him to a bar next time, which is good. ?
Signal 2: Bring one? Light bulb?
When you say:? Can I bring a friend? Actually, you want to say: I really want to have dinner with you on Friday night, but I have an appointment with a good girlfriend in advance, and I don't want to disappoint her. Besides, I want her to see how great you are.
He thought you were saying: I don't want to be alone with you.
The thing is this: when a man wants to have a world of two people, it is unpleasant for a third party to join. ? I plan to spend the weekend with Debbie. Jin Xiao and Dai Xiao are just friends, hoping to get to know each other better through this trip. Finally, she asked me if her friend could join us. I think that time, she was looking for a sense of security. A few months later, I found that Dai was interested in me only because her friend had a family crisis, and Dai wanted to make her feel better with a happy weekend. I thought she had no feelings for me. ?
In order to avoid setting obstacles for the pursuit you are interested in and make him feel that you didn't mean to bring a light bulb to hinder your further intimate contact, we suggest: If you just don't want to stand up for your friend, tell him that I really want to see you, but I have an appointment. If possible, we can go for coffee after seeing her off at night. ? If you want to make your green light signal more obvious, you can praise him and say: I told her about you and that nice personal website you created. ?
Signal 3: After help.
She said:? Can you help me install a new home theater? I really want to get to know you better in a comfortable and peaceful occasion. ? He understood it as:? I need a man like you to support my life. When you finish, I will give you the reward you like. ?
It is every man's innate sense of responsibility to help a girl in trouble, whether it is repairing her stereo speaker or fiddling with her pickle jar. ? My friend introduced it to me, thinking I would like it very much. I want our first date to be ordinary. Zi Mei still remembers that she bought a floor lamp when she went to the supermarket. When he helped me take it home, I invited him in for a cup of lemon tea. Who would have thought that as soon as I sat down, his arm picked me up.
To avoid this situation, it is better to thank him somewhere else than in your bedroom. The proper expression should be: I invite you out to dinner to show my gratitude. Or invite another friend to your home.
Signal 4: I don't know how to refuse.
She is saying: I don't want to fall in love yet. ? What does she mean? I am not interested in you at all. ? Boys understand it as:? I don't want to see you today, but you can make an appointment with me tomorrow or next week. ?
Even if your date is as boring as a mothball, and you talk about his mother all lunch time, it's hard for you to refuse him directly. So it is necessary to find a good way to make him give up easily. ? I met Haoran during physical training, and we dated, but he was too nervous about me, so I told him that I just wanted to make friends with you. Lily said.
Different people have different reactions to this point, and more people will re-interpret it according to their own preferences. Indeed, boys usually don't understand this rejection signal. If you tell him that you just want to be friends with him, he will think: That's good. Many loves often come from friendship. In his mind, you just need time to change your mind about him.
So we suggest that when you don't like each other, honesty is the best way. It's hard, but as long as you say frankly: I'm sorry you're not suitable for me. ? Many men will accept it, and they will say: That's very kind of you. Thank you for not wasting my time. ?
Signal 5: Attend other people's weddings together.
The girl said:? My cousin is getting married next month. Would you like to go with me? If I don't bring a companion, my aunt will let me stay with her assistant again. As a family friend, you can cover for me, and you will be very happy that day. ?
He thought:? I have a good feeling for you, I want to take you to meet my family, and I sincerely hope that the wedding bell will ring for us in the future. ?
? Inviting to a wedding will make a shy man think it is a signal to be with him. A girlfriend I once knew invited me to her home for a wedding as a friend. I think free cakes and beer will be good. Hou Yaozong recalled, but when we got there, everyone regarded us as lovers, and even called me to praise loudly: This is Yi Juan and her boyfriend. So I think it's whimsical that she is hinting at me through her family. But the next day she apologized to her relatives and friends who were eager to attend the second wedding immediately.
So, how can we invite him to an important activity without making him dream? The suggestion is: interrupt all the words that think you are a couple and explain briefly so as not to make him suspicious. Let him know who will be there in advance and remind his friends and relatives that they may be bored and what he must wear. Tell him:? I'm glad to have your company, but if attending family gatherings makes you feel uncomfortable, I deeply understand. ?
Signal 6: I want to contact you again.
You said:? Nice to meet you. I have to go now. ? What do you mean? I like you best in this party, but my friend is leaving and I don't want to go home alone. Now it's time for you to ask me for my phone number. ? He understood it as:? Goodbye, fool. ?
The ambiguity rate of the signal at a party is higher than when you are drunk, so it will be more difficult to understand your meaning. ? Last week, my friends and I went out to celebrate my birthday. I met a girl I like very much. Xiao Wei said,? I thought we were really meant to be, but she just stood there and stared at me for a while, then said goodbye. ? Xiao Wei thinks she is not interested in him. A few days later, he was very angry when he learned that this was the reason why she wanted him to ask her out. How should I know?
We suggest: in order to avoid this misunderstanding, for the sake of safety, give him your phone number, and he will appreciate your honesty very much. If you think calling his home phone is too direct, give him your business card or give him the phone number of his company!