The first and third points are very important.
A person's three views are directly related to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't fit each other, then your three views may be difficult to agree. It is very tiring for two people with different views to live together, and marriage will naturally be useless after a long time.
Second, the goal of life.
In marriage, if Reeve and his wife have the same goal in life, they will be in harmony for a long time. However, if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and concept, it will directly affect their marriage goals and structure. You think about the future goal of marriage, but he thinks it's good to muddle along, so can marriages with different marriage goals last long?
So many people don't care about family background and family circumstances when they get married. They think that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits brought by their family background. Compared with these, spiritual harmony is more important, because it will directly affect whether your married life is relaxed and happy. Therefore, if you want a happy marriage, you must not ignore the spiritual fit.
Third, * * * the same language.
The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether you have the same language. You are talking to him about the world political situation, but he replies to you in a trivial way, just like a chicken talking to a duck. You'll never find a topic to talk about. Slowly, you will become alienated and the spiritual world will feel very lonely.
Fourth, the salary is moderate and the requirements are reduced.
Don't be too impulsive, since you are rushing to get married, then many things should be decided after rational thinking, not emotional choices.
Now that you have decided to spend the rest of your life with someone, please learn to pay moderately and lower your requirements. Moderate pay is to prevent yourself from being unwilling, even if the other person is not as good as you think, but if you are restrained in paying, you can balance your grievances and uneasiness, and even some small thoughts.
Lowering the requirements is actually lowering the requirements for the other half. Everyone is not perfect. We might as well treat the selected people with a normal heart, admit each other's mediocrity and accept our own mediocrity, and strive to make them become loving lovers standing side by side, but we will not be bored and picky about each other after a long time.
The best love posture should be to have requirements for yourself and lower requirements for others. Many times, the higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. On the contrary, as long as you can maintain a certain degree of balance and control, you can have emotional comfort.
If you want to be warm, warm yourself first. If you want to be happy, be happy first. When you are self-sufficient, the other person will be influenced by you, and then will involuntarily give you the happiness you want. Getting along with others is actually such a model: what you can bring to others determines what others will give back to you.
Your value determines your happiness.
A person with self-knowledge must have a low sense of value and be easily loved for a long time, even for life. The salary is moderate and the requirements are reduced.
Don't be too impulsive, since you are rushing to get married, then many things should be decided after rational thinking, not emotional choices.
Now that you have decided to spend the rest of your life with someone, please learn to pay moderately and lower your requirements. Moderate pay is to prevent yourself from being unwilling, even if the other person is not as good as you think, but if you are restrained in paying, you can balance your grievances and uneasiness, and even some small thoughts.
Lowering the requirements is actually lowering the requirements for the other half. Everyone is not perfect. We might as well treat the selected people with a normal heart, admit each other's mediocrity and accept our own mediocrity, and strive to make them become loving lovers standing side by side, but we will not be bored and picky about each other after a long time.
The best love posture should be to have requirements for yourself and lower requirements for others. Many times, the higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. On the contrary, as long as you can maintain a certain degree of balance and control, you can have emotional comfort.
If you want to be warm, warm yourself first. If you want to be happy, be happy first. When you are self-sufficient, the other person will be influenced by you, and then will involuntarily give you the happiness you want. Getting along with others is actually such a model: what you can bring to others determines what others will give back to you.
Your value determines your happiness.
A person with self-knowledge must have a low sense of value and be easily loved for a long time, even for life.