Yi Shu once said: No matter how luxurious a wedding is, it doesn't mean a happy marriage. Whether two people live in harmony for a lifetime has nothing to do with how many seats they sit at the banquet and how much jewelry they have.

The happiness of marriage does not lie in the luxury of the wedding, nor in the family circumstances of both parties. Marriage is a matter between husband and wife, and only a good relationship between two people is the basis of a happy marriage. Besides, any material conditions can only be icing on the cake, but can't determine the happiness of marriage.

But now people's ideas seem to be biased, and they pay more and more attention to material conditions, such as how the other person's family is, and whether the wedding venue is luxurious. Don't pay too much attention to each other's character and personality. Because of this, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher nowadays.

Because it is not about feelings, it is never the basis of marriage. Ignoring feelings, marriage is just rootless water and won't last long.

It only takes a moment of courage to decide to marry a person; Guarding a marriage requires a lifetime of hard work. Because, from the beginning, love is a romantic thing, and marriage is a solemn thing.

Getting married is also the simplest thing in the world. If you manage with your heart, it will give you happiness in return. And if you despise it, you will be hurt by it.

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When two people decide to get married, I don't know when they are ready to meet the challenge of married life. Many times, couples are not prepared when they decide to enter marriage.

According to my observation, many couples decide to get married because they are not ready to get married. But there are other reasons, such as: parents' urging, the other party's conditions are good, finding a suitable marriage and so on. It seems that external conditions decide whether we should get married or not. But in our own hearts, we never seriously thought about what we got married for.

Marriage is not just two people together, it contains too many things. It can be said that marriage is equivalent to life. Every little thing in life may affect the feelings between husband and wife, and marriage is often the running-in of two families.

Why do I always advise everyone to carefully observe each other's family environment when they get married, because these are all factors that can affect their future marriage life. We should be cautious about marriage, so we should be more cautious when choosing a marriage partner.

Some people, on impulse or because of their so-called love, blindly want to marry into a family they don't know. After entering the marriage, I found that the other family members had a great influence on my marriage, and my marriage began to become unfortunate. These are all the results of my own carelessness.

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What would you do if you faced a mother-in-law who looked down on you or even your parents?

Some people choose to endure, others choose to break out, but no matter what they do, their marriage life will be affected.

Reader Amin met such a snobbish mother-in-law, who was too poor to love rich people. People around her are bothering her, but she doesn't know it. Always trying to take advantage of small things, always shooting themselves in the foot in the end.

A Min was opposed by her mother-in-law when she fell in love with her boyfriend Zhang. If nothing else, it is because Amin's family is rural, and her mother-in-law looks down on rural people and thinks that rural people are poor. So I don't agree to be together.

In fact, when Amin knew that her mother-in-law was such a snob, she also flinched, thinking that even if she married Zhang, she would inevitably have conflicts with her mother-in-law in the future. But Zhang loved her very much, begged her not to leave her, and vowed to listen to her and not let her influence them. Amin's heart melted.

Zhang really loves her because she doesn't know how many times she quarreled with her mother. Amin was very impressed with what Zhang had done for himself, so he also dismissed his concerns and decided to face Zhang together.

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Every time Amin and Zhang go to his house, they are always laughed at by their mother-in-law, who sarcastically asks her to keep their money with Zhang. Amin was very angry, but for Zhang's sake, he tried to endure it.

The marriage of the two people has been discussed, and the only obstacle is Zhang's mother, who doesn't agree to this marriage anyway. Zhang made a lot of efforts for this, but she just wouldn't listen.

Finally, Zhang was helpless. He asked Amin: If I had nothing, would you choose to marry me? I want to break up with my mother. I don't want my house or car. Will you marry me?

Amin promised him with tears in her eyes.

So Zhang and his mother gave an ultimatum. If they didn't agree to this marriage, he would disown his mother. Mother was afraid and reluctantly agreed.

In this way, Amin and Zhang Cai got married. On the wedding day, both of them cried with joy. After all, there are too many bumps, and it is not easy to get together in the end.

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On the wedding day, everyone was very happy, especially Zhang He. Besides, Amin still has a secret that he hasn't told Zhang. In fact, although her family is rural, she is not poor. When two people got married, Amin's parents got married100000. Far more than the 50,000 yuan bride price given by Zhang Jiali.

Amin finally wanted to tell Zhang the good news, so he never said it. Moreover, she was so annoyed with her mother-in-law's face that she didn't want to tell her about it at all.

The wedding went well, and everyone was happy except her mother-in-law who kept putting on a bad face. After seeing off the guests, Amin's parents are chatting with Zhang's father, and her mother-in-law is sitting not far away looking down at others.

And Zhang walked past, and there were many dishes left at the party. When Amin's parents saw this scene, they asked the waiter to pack the leftovers, because they had a lot of pigs, and these dishes were just right for pigs.

Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law sitting on the side sarcastically said: "Rural people are rural people. You have never seen such a good meal? " I'm going to pack my things and go home for dinner. How embarrassing! "

Amin's parents' faces suddenly became ugly, and Amin's heart was also on fire. The scene was once very embarrassing.

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Zhang and his father played a game there in a hurry. Zhang said that many dishes have not been touched, but it is a pity to throw them away. We should also pack and take some away.

Amin's parents' faces softened, but she didn't expect her mother-in-law to be there: "Your daughter is very lucky to be married to our family, and your family can honor their ancestors."

Amin can't stand her mother-in-law's cynicism any longer. In front of everyone, she said, "Mom and Dad, your daughter won the dowry of100000 from Yuan You. My husband's family is rich, not bad. Take it back. " Say that finish, take out a card from your arms and pass it to your parents.

Amin's words stunned her mother-in-law She never imagined that Amin still had him at home, and he had married so much money. She regretted it. Amin then said to her mother-in-law: "My family gave it to your family, not because of money. Although my family is in the countryside, my parents are not short of money. My family has a pig farm with hundreds of pigs. These leftovers are just that my parents are afraid of waste and want to feed the pigs. "

Mother-in-law's face turned black and blue. After a while, her attitude changed, and the true face of a snob was revealed, and she began to please Amin's parents.

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After this farce, her mother-in-law's attitude towards Amin is getting better and better, but Amin knows that it is not that she has become better, but that her family is not poor.

I thought, it is ok to live well with Zhang and get along well with my mother-in-law. There is no need to be bad.

In marriage, we will encounter all kinds of situations and test the relationship between husband and wife all the time. Therefore, it must be remembered that feelings are the basis for maintaining marriage. Without a foundation, everything else is just a castle in the air, and the flowers in the mirror fall into the water.