This sentence is true, but it ignores an important role in marriage-woman, which plays a vital role to a certain extent.
The age of marriage in China is mostly around 30 years old, and due to the concern and attention of the one-child family to their children, to some extent, the age of maturity of children is delayed more and more.
Many women are still naive when they enter marriage. They don't know how to run their own marriage, how to live and how to solve their own problems in life. At this time, women's wisdom becomes particularly important in marriage.
So, what's the difference between marrying a naive woman and marrying a mature woman? Let's listen to the voices of three men.
Oral speaker: Mr. Lin
I married a naive wife. My evaluation of her is that her interpersonal skills, living ability and working ability are all negative.
I met my wife on a blind date. I'm eight years older than her, and I'm an old man with several wives. I have been married for three years.
First of all, she is almost 30 years old and has been working for several years. But she didn't put her mind on her work, thinking about eating, drinking and having fun every day, and she didn't know how to consider career planning at all. In her eyes, playing is more important than anything else.
Before getting married, she told me that she liked doing housework very much. She thinks that marrying her means marrying a wife. Later, I found out that I was fooled. I married a princess and didn't expect to do housework. If only she hadn't made a mess of me at home. If she washes, she can break some bowls.
Later, I let the housekeeper do all the housework.
She has a bad temper and will lose her temper when anything goes wrong. At this time, you have to coax her, and whether it is your fault or not, you have to bear the responsibility.
Why do you call her childish?
In fact, her emotional intelligence is very low, she usually speaks without thinking, and she often talks indiscriminately to offend people. At work, she quarreled with the former boss of the company, with the former boss of the company, with the former boss of the company, and with the leaders of every job. Every time I quarrel with my boss because of my mistakes at work. The maximum length of each job shall not exceed 1 year.
How to improve EQ by searching for more exciting content? In addition, she constantly stressed to me that women are independent and men make money for women. N years after graduation, she still earns 2000 yuan a month, doing the least technical job. After work, he plausibly said that I was tired and kept giving me a look.
The most terrible thing is that when she turns angry, she can forget everything you have paid and yell at my house crazily, so that people in several nearby buildings know that she will never stop until the outcome is decided.
Oh, by the way, she also has gentle and lovely moments, when she reaches for money.
After getting married, I have been thinking about what I really see in her. She is just good-looking. My education is much higher than her, and my family background and earning ability are more than 20 times that of her. She didn't participate in the hard times I went through, she just enjoyed life every day.
Going home is a pain from the heart. Now I'm ready to mention divorce.
Oral speaker: Mr. Chen
My girlfriend is my college classmate. We were together when I was a freshman. After graduating from college, we went back to our hometown to work together.
In my eyes, she is just a little girl. Not only is she very loli, but she is also naive in wearing clothes. Every time I go shopping with her, I always feel like taking my children shopping.
She has the habit of using overlapping words, such as "bathing", "dressing", "brushing your teeth" and "covering the quilt". I always got goose bumps at first, and then I got used to it, so that every time she said that, I felt like I was chatting with a child.
Once after work, she told me that she was cold. I said I wanted to hug you, so just say it. Then she stopped and said, "Give me a hug." At that time, the whole person was crisp, and I hugged him directly, thinking that I would marry this child.
She likes reading comics, all kinds of secondary words that I can't understand. Besides, she likes candy and lollipops like a child. When her parents wouldn't let her eat too much, she would come and tell me that she was wronged and spoiled.
She has been an adult for a long time, not only naive as a child, but also especially fond of children.
Before we got together, she kept telling me how cute the children in the variety show Superman Returns were. She likes twins, Li Shuyan and Li Shujun. When watching the program, she sent me a GIF of Shu Jun, and then said, "Our Shu Jun balabala hahaha ..."
Besides being naive, she always likes to brag and be extremely narcissistic. She likes to take selfies every day and then make friends. ...
When I was in college, we often went to study together. I always finish my homework before I accompany her. Every time after the self-study, she will always say that I have finished my homework. I am great, I am the best, I am the smartest, and I am the most handsome.
Especially when you say it in person, you will add three "yeahyeahyeah" and look childish. Every time I see her like this, my heart breaks.
Well, in short, having a naive girlfriend is like raising a daughter, and I really want to spoil her.
Oral speaker: Mr. Wu
My girlfriend is three years older than me, and we are fellow villagers. After graduating from college, I happened to work in the same city because I was together by chance.
We are actually quite predestined friends, and we met through games. In the game, I accidentally photographed her and said hello ... hahahaha.
Later, we became teammates in the game, and then found out that we were fellow villagers and talked a lot. From games to WeChat, and then to offline meetings, they are all slowly contacted, gradually familiar, and slowly inseparable.
I have known her for more than five months now, and I have been together for more than two months. Although the time is short, I have prepared for my whole life.
Sometimes it's hard to say that feelings are the most important. The person who has been with you for the longest time is really not necessarily the last person.
We are both mature and good-natured, and she has the temperament of a royal elder sister, probably because she is too strong. We will have different opinions on many things.
But fortunately, we will talk about everything, communicate a lot, and chat late into the night every day. So the night after the quarrel is usually nothing.
She is good at taking care of me, probably because I am younger than her and feel that she treats me as a younger brother. She often cooks for me, cleans up for me, and hates me for making a mess at home.
She won't like "work" like other women, and she won't be unreasonable to you. When she meets something in life, she can give you an analysis of what to buy and what not to buy, and how to buy it to save money. ...
In addition, she can patiently listen to you finish your opinion, which is what I like most about her.
Sometimes, she panics. Some time ago, her career was in trouble. Because she has just joined the work and has no financial ability, many things can't help her. At best, just say a few words of self-righteous comfort to her.
Sometimes I wonder if I will lose her if I can only say these words for a long time. Fortunately, she is mature enough to understand my feelings.
We have been together for a year now and are ready to get married. With a mature woman, the biggest feeling is that I will never marry in my life.
For love, the girlfriend's choice is really the so-called green vegetables and carrots have their own love.
But the key to marriage lies in herself. Just like the first example, how long can a naive person who is irresponsible for marriage stay together?
So for a woman, whether she is naive or mature has no direct impact on marriage, but her own attitude towards marriage.
In my opinion, it is more appropriate to marry a mature person, because there are too many things that both husband and wife need to bear together in marriage.
People should be pragmatic and not materialistic, so they are not secular. It is good that two people are not tired when they get along.
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