Accept talent, that is, the man asks the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's house. If the woman agrees to propose, and the man formally proposes to her, he must bring the live goose as a gift to make people accept his choice. "Yili? The scholar said with a faint ceremony, "When you are faint, you can gather wild geese. "
Asking the name is that the man asked the matchmaker to ask the woman's name and eight characters in order to prepare for marriage. "Yili? "In the Soul of History" records: "What's your name? "Most of the questions are:" If someone orders it, it will be added to divination. Who dares to ask this woman's name? "If the woman agrees, send a gift; Men decide their luck by divination. If the eight characters of men and women match, proceed to the next step.
Najib told her the good news of divination and marriage, and gave the goose as a gift ―― later generations used gold and silver jewelry as a gift. Equivalent to the current engagement, commonly known as delivery, over-commitment, engagement.
Sign, that is, the man sends the bride price to the woman's home, also known as paying money, hiring a big one, giving a big gift, etc. In ancient times, birds and animals were used as gifts. In ancient times, the whole deer was used as a bride price, and later generations simply used deerskin. Cui's "Marriage Essay" records: "Tell the bird to drink the goose with deerskin." The Book of Songs? Zhao Nan? "There are dead elk in the wild" said: "There are dead elk in the wild, and the white grass covers the top. There is a woman who loves spring, and Ji's family lures her. " It's about proposing to a girl with wild deer. Because in ancient times, hiring more geese was a betrothal gift, so the betrothal gift was also called "supporting birds". Of course, in ancient times, not all people used birds and animals as gifts, such as "Feng Wei? "Self-protection" mentioned in "Self-protection" embraces trade silk. When bandits come to trade silk, they come to me, which is an example of using cloth as a dowry Later, the collection of gifts became more and more complicated and became one of the most complicated processes in the Six Gifts.
Invitation day, that is, after the man chooses the wedding date, he goes to the woman's house to prepare gifts and ask for marriage permission. Now people commonly call it "raising the sun" and "sending the sun".
Kiss is to marry the bride. Their manners and manners are different, but most men go to the woman's house to greet their relatives. After returning to the man's house, the bride and groom eat in the tripod, then cut a gourd in half, and each couple holds one, pouring wine and drinking, which is called "magic"-this is the origin of the toast for later generations. This process is one of the most colorful events in marriage custom culture.
In ancient times, the marriage of rich children generally strictly followed the steps of six rites, while the marriage of ordinary families was mostly simple. Qilu is an ancient civilization and a state of etiquette, but it is not limited to the Six Rites. Shandong Linqu is still like this, and it has long been ridiculed by wind poems. The Book of Songs? Qi Feng? Article "refers to:
As soon as I am attached to it, I turn a deaf ear to it, and I will still be attached to it.
As soon as I went to court, I turned a deaf ear to green, so I showed it to Joan Ying.
As long as I am in the hall, I will turn my ears yellow, and I will still be with Joan Ying.
The so-called "writing" in the poem refers to the open space between the gate and the screen; Court refers to the place inside the door and in front of the hall; The lobby is the lobby in front of the room. When getting married, men only wait in these three places, which just shows the marriage custom of not welcoming each other.
The wedding of later generations generally followed the flow of the ancient six rites, but it was different. However, no matter how different the customs are, there is generally a unified step: first, say hello, second, third, say hello, 40% kiss.
When the wedding procession returned to the man's home, gongs and drums rang, firecrackers rang, and the man's relatives and neighbors flocked out to meet the bride. In the area of Qinxian County in the southeast of Shanxi Province, the bride's sedan chair landed on a red quilt. After the bride asked for the money for the sedan chair, she walked into the gate on the red carpet with the help of a "all-blessing person" The mother-in-law then symbolically swept the car three times with a broom, took a handful of dirt home and put it under the mat at the corner of the kang in the new house. This is called "sweeping the soil of sedan chair", which is about the opposite of the custom of "not taking the soil from one's mother's family" You are afraid of bringing your family's soil and affecting her crops; I will do my best to sweep some for my own cultivation.
In some places in Shanxi, after the bride gets off the sedan chair, she should sprinkle a lot of things such as straw, bran, melon seeds, peanuts, walnuts and chestnuts on her body, and at the same time recite compliments. This custom is called "spreading grass" or "spreading happy fruit", which has a very old origin and is said to have been popular as early as the Han Dynasty. Formerly known as "Sagudou", it is intended to ward off evil spirits such as Qingyang, Wuji and Qingniu. Later, it gradually evolved from exorcism to good luck. Jinnan area still retains its ancient meaning. Yicheng is called "playing five ghosts" and Fushan is called "casting new people".
Before the bride leaves the sedan chair, her mother-in-law will put some powder on her in Pinglu, Yanbei, and call it "rouge powder". Then the groom holds an ancient book, Spring and Autumn Annals or The Book of Rites, and Mr. Yin Qin will greet the bride in front of the sedan chair. The bride wears a red veil, also known as "covering her head red", and holds a "treasure jar" filled with rice, grain and other things. The husband who led the bride threw grain to clear the way, stepped on the red carpet with the groom's foot and entered the courtyard. In Wenxi, Jinnan and other places, the groom puts a pan of oil in his hand, enters the sedan chair, lifts the bride's veil and puts a little rouge on his forehead, which is called "oiling". Then, the woman "sends the bride", that is, the woman sends her, and the man "pinches the aunt", that is, the female companion helps the bride to get off the sedan chair and step on red cloth or flowered cloth to enter the courtyard, which is called "spreading cloth". In Yicheng and Quwo, the bridesmaids are responsible for "adding rouge powder". After applying rouge powder, the bride embraces willow buckets, peach tricks, almanac, scales or spokes, bronze mirrors, bronze locks, arrows and other town objects, which are mixed by the "daughter-in-law". Then let the bride and groom hold one end with a HongLing, and the man will follow the woman to the red carpet first, which is called "leading the red". In some places, the emcee greets the sedan chair, sings happy songs and wishes the couple happiness.