If you are struggling alone, it is no exaggeration to say that you feel these feelings, but this cannot be an excuse. Struggle is to realize the commitment to oneself, relatives and ideals. One's struggle should have what it should have!
First, don't complain often.
In life, there will be more or less bumps. Many people will complain, but they are dissatisfied with reality, pay attention to suffering, feel unfair, and believe in flattery. Such people can't control their own lives, but entrust themselves to the outside world and others. You complain about what you can't do, and the result is always like this: what you can't do or won't do, what you have is gradually lost. Psychological research has found that people's subjective thoughts can affect the development and changes of things, and complaining will only make beautiful and normal things moldy!
We always like to tell others about our past to gain their sympathy, but what we get is to hear about others' sadder past. Complaining is easy to make people compare with others, and complaining is the most energy-consuming and useless move. Success belongs only to those who go forward bravely without any excuse. Complaining will only make our thoughts stay in the past and will only make our steps stagnate.
On the road of life, everyone can't be smooth sailing, and they will always face various setbacks and difficulties. When we face them, we shouldn't complain, because complaining can't solve any problems and difficulties we encounter at present, it will only make our mood more depressed and irritable.
Second, don't compare yourself with others.
The world is unfair, so don't imagine that you must race at a fair starting point, because when God created man, he didn't put him in the same environment. However, some people say that God is fair, because God has given everyone a soul, neither more nor less. But why are some people happy, some sad, some blind followers, and some confused? Later, I found that people always like comparison, because there is deviation in comparison, and there is dissatisfaction because of deviation. However, only a few people try to be satisfied because of this dissatisfaction, and most people have resentment and jealousy because of the differences of dissatisfaction.
There is no difference without comparison, at least you won't know it in your heart. If a person compares everything with others, loss, jealousy and inferiority are inevitable. And a person's struggle should not always compare himself with others. The purpose of comparison is only to let himself know himself more clearly, and then to formulate the correct methods to surpass himself and improve himself. Besides, everyone is different. What you have may not be available to others. Why not cherish what you have? !
Third, don't waste time on the wrong people.
Many people don't understand the concept that time is precious when they are young. Because you are young, you can squander that wonderful time. But when you go from youth to middle age, you will suddenly find that wasting time is really a waste of time. Just playing time. After all, we had a good time. However, if you invest in one share, you will lose everything. How do you feel? !
Many things seem invisible, but you think a lot, but they are irreversible. Don't always waste time on the wrong person, and don't reason with people who don't understand, because even if you say vomiting blood, that person still doesn't understand you. In the same way, don't choose the wrong partner, don't choose the wrong couple, don't find the wrong friend, because you can't afford the time. A person's struggle is not to waste time on all the wrong people and things!
Fourth, don't run away from the problem, but try to get through it.
There are many helplessness in life, and we can't reverse it. On the way to starting a business, you may encounter insufficient funds; At work, there are many complicated and trivial problems; Emotionally, either because of quarreling or because of being alone. A lot of problems followed, from raw materials, daily necessities to weddings and funerals. The solution of one thing will have the influence of nepotism more or less. Maybe the matter itself won't give you a headache, but nepotism is enough to make you feel at a loss and choose to avoid solving it. For example, many people who are afraid of marriage know that marriage is a beautiful thing, not because they don't want to get married, but because the preparations for the wedding, the entertainment of family and friends, the wedding in the RV, and the married life are enough to make a person feel entangled.
But as a struggling person, you must understand that people will always face many things they have never experienced, such as fear, nervousness and being at a loss. These emotional experiences are normal. But experience comes from experience, and you can't hide in your safe corner forever. You need to face it bravely, and avoiding the problem will not solve the problem. Only by facing it and facing it squarely can we feel the feeling of coming back from the dead! Bite your teeth and stick to it for a while, and you will get through it!
Without the vibration of heaven and earth, there can be no vicissitudes of life. Life can't reach its peak without ups and downs. Struggle has always been a high-spirited word, just like a soldier. It is used to interpret all the happiness and sadness, sadness and helplessness, success and failure in a person's life ... The purpose of a person living in this world is to find himself and become what he should be, and a person's struggle is to find himself, so a person's struggle should also have its own appearance! (This article is collected by 365 quotations and lines for you. 365 Quotations and Lines Network collects and shares classic quotations and lines. If you like me, please continue to pay attention to www.365j.com)