My husband and I got the marriage certificate in May 17, and the wedding was held in October 10. The place where he works now is no longer his hometown, so we stayed in the city where he went to college. When I first got married, my mother-in-law urged me to have children, but at that time, we had just graduated for less than a year and always wanted to be stable. But my mother-in-law kept urging me to say it once on the phone, and even told her husband directly that I had problems and couldn't have children. What she doesn't know is that I just had a physical examination that year and there was nothing wrong with my body. My husband may be what everyone calls a straight man. He told me this sentence intact. I can't tell what it tastes like when I hear this.
Later 18, I told my husband that we don't use contraception, let nature take its course and we will have it when we get pregnant. Then I went to the hospital to check that I was pregnant on New Year's Day in 19. The whole family is very happy, but I don't know if I am happy or not. . . . I am luckier than most people, and I didn't throw up. My appetite is so good that I gained 20 Jin after four months of pregnancy. However, God didn't always take care of me. When I was doing NT months, I found that the index was abnormal. Then the doctor suggested that I do a non-invasive DNA, saying that the accuracy is higher. When I heard the doctor say that there was something wrong with the child, my tears kept running down. After the noninvasive DNA is done, it will take about 7- 10 days. During this time, I was on tenterhooks all day, praying that the child was okay. God always likes to joke, but there are still problems. The doctor said that there was something wrong with the child's chromosome and suggested that I induce labor. However, I have been in my stomach for more than three months, and I am very sad, but I still don't give up. I've been wondering if other people's test results are wrong. The doctor said that if he was still alive, he would have an amniocentesis. Later, I was disappointed and induced labor after 4 months of pregnancy.
At that time, my mother-in-law always thought it was my fault that my child was not raised, because I had a cat at that time. She always told my husband that cats had bacteria, and that it must be this reason that my child was not raised. In fact, my husband asked the doctor when he induced labor. The doctor said that there were many factors, not necessarily the reasons. Later, my mother-in-law told her husband that she would take care of my confinement, but less than a week after I was discharged from the hospital, her mother-in-law secretly told her husband that she would go home, saying that I would not eat the cooked food, because my husband and I were not in the same place and my living habits were completely different. I am in the south and he is in the north. I eat rice and he eats noodles. So after my mother-in-law came, she cooked me five meals a day. I couldn't eat any more, so my mother-in-law told her husband that I wouldn't eat her cooking, and that she was in poor health and wanted to go home, so she went home. I didn't say anything because I was still in pain of losing my child, but I didn't show it. They think I'm in a good mood and not sad. I don't know how many nights I secretly cried under the covers. My husband naturally doesn't know.
This pregnancy made me gain 20 kilograms. Didn't lose weight before pregnancy. It was 1 10 kg. When I induced labor, it was 130 kg. He is very busy at work and always goes out early and comes back late. I was almost depressed. Later, after I gave birth to the baby, something happened. He invited other girls to dinner and cheated on me. When I found out, I started playing tricks. This sentence stimulated me, and I began to realize that men always only look at the appearance, even if they say they love you again, their bones are the same. I began to make up my mind to lose weight, and finally lost 94 kg at the end of 19. Slowly, I found that his attitude towards me changed. He often said that it was good to lose weight and everything looked good.
This induced labor and my husband made me realize that women should love themselves at all times. So I was in no hurry to have children, and my mother-in-law started again and began to urge me to have children.
Originally, he and I planned to have children for 22 years, but this year we had an unexpected pregnancy. I'm pregnant and I want it now. I thought I would be infertile and vomit like the last one. Results I stayed at home from April 15 to June. In the meantime, I vomited all my bile. Every day my chest is stuffy, my throat is burning, and I can't drink a mouthful of water. I spit a lot every day, too. I spit every day and drool at night. At that time, I was alone at home, and no one paid attention to me. I am alone every day.
I remember one night, I vomited in the toilet. I vomited my bile at that time. He stood by and handed me a glass of water. He smiled and said, "I finally know what color bile is." I had tears and a runny nose. He is still in the mood to say this. I didn't feel well at that time and didn't want to say anything to him. People who haven't experienced morning sickness can't feel that feeling. Later, I couldn't bear it anymore, so I told him that we were divorced. Your family can't accept that you have no children. It's really unbearable. The children don't want it. He said, why divorce? Even if we don't have children, we can adopt one. Hearing this, my heart is still very warm, so I feel a little bitter.
The period of my morning sickness is about the end of April and the beginning of May. My mother-in-law is in hospital. Let me briefly talk about my husband's family. They have three children, the eldest is a girl, the second is a son, and the husband is the third in the family. According to the truth, the favorite is the youngest, but his family is complicated. Because he and his younger brother and sister are half-brothers, their mother died of an illness. My mother-in-law got married later, so my husband is an only child. But I don't know why his sister was married when I married into their family, and she broke up with them. I don't know the exact reason.
My mother-in-law treated these children equally and bought a house for my brother and him, which is relatively close, upstairs and downstairs. His house is on the fifth floor and my husband's is on the fourth floor. Because I don't live in my hometown, this house has always been lived by my in-laws, and his brother's two children are also raised by my mother-in-law. But because of his brother's family problems, he is not allowed to live at home now, so he is allowed to live outside. But my mother-in-law and I are in the same city. This time, just when I had a serious morning sickness, my mother-in-law was ill. I can understand that my husband didn't say anything about driving home, because after all, someone else's parents gave birth to my husband instead of me. It was right for him to go back to take care of him, but my complaint is that he called his brother and no one answered. In the end, he turned off his phone directly, not to mention taking money. My husband went back to get tens of thousands of dollars, and I don't think there is anything wrong with taking money, but the brothers should at least make it clear how to take money, and the brothers should settle accounts clearly.
Originally, when we got married, I didn't want a bride price, three gold medals or anything. We also paid for the wedding, wedding photos and other expenses. At that time, we had just graduated for one year. 17 bought a house in this city, but we didn't have any money at that time, so we thought about buying an apartment first. My mother-in-law didn't take money to buy a house At that time, she paid a down payment of 0.2 million/200 thousand, which was also paid by ourselves My family took some money. I always thought that we didn't depend on our parents. Parents are not easy. I can work with him as long as he is self-motivated.
But this time the old man was ill, and his brother didn't say anything, but his sister-in-law was in the hospital. When it comes to money, he just keeps silent for fear that they will spend money. But I have been taking care of your child for more than ten years, and now I don't care if I am sick. I have some opinions in my heart. Because I was born in February, 65438, the old people on both sides couldn't come and take care of me, and my one-bedroom apartment didn't have a place to live, and my parents were in poor health. In the future, there were too many places for us to spend money. It's not that I don't want him to spend money I just want fairness. I think my father-in-law should have said something to his eldest son, but when he said it, he said, "He is like that. What can we do? " Such words make me speechless, but I can't say much. If I talk too much, he should feel uncomfortable.
My husband has been home for almost a week, but he also has to go to work. I couldn't help vomiting at home. Later, he came back and my mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, but it didn't last long. My mother-in-law went to the hospital again in less than a week. This time, like last time, he went back. His brother doesn't answer the phone or take money, and so does his sister-in-law He doesn't take care of my mother-in-law, and he doesn't give money. His attitude is the same as last time. In-laws' attitude remains the same, or that sentence, I am completely speechless. This time I told him that my in-laws are not particularly old now. When my mother-in-law is well, they will make it clear about your brother. After all, it is inevitable that you will get sick when you are old, and you can't do this every time. Now that the child is not born, can you say that you will go back when you are born? That's what he thought, so he mentioned it to my in-laws. My in-laws attitude is that they are in poor health and don't want to care so much. Anyway, they just avoided the question, and my husband was very filial, so he didn't say anything.
Later, the work was a bit unsatisfactory, and the remedial classes were also affected. Coupled with the flood epidemic at that time, we basically stopped working at home to rest, because we are both alone, with no relatives and friends, and he is the only one around, but he often goes out for entertainment, and I always don't answer the phone and send WeChat back. Because I'm pregnant, I'm in a bad mood, because I have a lot of quarrels. He never gives in to me. To put it mildly, I don't want to make more money. I asked him to look after the children's things with me. He only knows how to brush Tik Tok, because children buy things for their children, and I don't want to get angry. I'm just saying don't worry about it. I prepared it myself. Being a mother for the first time, no one told me what to buy and what to pay attention to. All by yourself. It seems to him that the child has nothing to do with him. He always takes the trouble to wash what he buys. Now he counts fetal movements every day, and it's only an hour at night. What can I expect him to do?
A few days after the National Day, my mother-in-law was hospitalized again, suddenly dizzy, vomiting and diarrhea. She has been in the hospital until now. This time, no accident happened. As before, she went back, but the eldest brother still ignored her. There are too many things at home to say clearly. I go to work by tram, buy food, cook, walk and have a physical examination. I often think, why should I get married? What does having children bring to women? The more I think about it, the more uneasy I am. My mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital a few days ago, but she wanted to go to another hospital for examination. She also said that if she needs to be hospitalized this time, she will take care of her in the hospital. Eight and a half months without asking me what to do, I have to go to work. At least her father is with her sister-in-law, and all her relatives and friends are here. There's something around, no one around. There is not even a signature of the operation. I feel very tired, too, and I don't want to say anything more.
I often tell him that I really have something called 120, which is faster than him 1 10. I often wonder if this is the life I want. Some people may say that if you don't want to live, divorce! But divorce is really no trouble, no other things? No matter how you choose in life, you will have regrets and regret. Maybe it will be like this all my life!