Politeness is not your decision, but the woman's family. If you think the woman's request is inappropriate, you can negotiate (let your parents talk to her parents, and you two try not to get involved).

The average family gift is around 38,000.

There are also sugar and clothes. If you are a foreigner and don't know the etiquette here, just give the sugar as money. Then you need to take money to buy clothes for your fiancee (the average family can get 3000 ~ 5000, and 30 thousand if necessary). Try not to take hundreds of dollars and one thousand dollars)

These three points must follow the Chaoshan tradition.

Besides, the wedding reception is held according to the tradition of your hometown. After all, you are the daughter-in-law, and the woman's family will do some necessary things before going through the door. This has nothing to do with you.

In Chaoshan, unless the family situation is better, people generally don't get married. )

Then, three days after entering the door, you and your wife go back to your parents' house for dinner (of course, some people will go through this process on their wedding day)

I advise you not to eat too much before going back to your mother's house for dinner! Because when you arrive at your parents-in-law's house, your mother-in-law will first serve you a bowl of sugar water (there are at least four boiled eggs and some dumplings in this bowl of sugar water, so you have to finish it ...)

The marriage customs of each town in Puning may be a little different. The above is for reference only.

I wish a hundred years of harmony and an early birth.