In order to repay the kindness of the waiter Shen Ying, the crimson pearl fairy grass turned into the human Lin Daiyu and shed tears for Jia Baoyu all her life. From A Dream of Red Mansions, we feel this sad love story. When we are sad about the love story between Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu, should we also think about why the kindest grandmother acquiesced in Mrs. Wang's plan and let Jia Baoyu marry Xue Baochai? Why were Li Wan and Tan Chun alone with Lin Daiyu on their wedding day? I think the most important reason is the bondage of feudal ethics.

1, Li Wan is a widow and should avoid suspicion.

Li Wan is the wife of Jia Baoyu's brother Jia Zhu, but unfortunately, Jia Zhu died when she was young, and Li Wan became a widow early. Although my husband died, I am still a member of the Jia family, so I still have to adhere to feudal ethics. In ancient times, at the wedding of the couple, widows were supposed to avoid suspicion and could not appear in case they ran into joy. Li Wan is a smart person, even if others don't ask, she won't appear at the wedding. In addition, Li Wan usually gets along well with Lin Daiyu and understands the friendship between Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu, so she stays with her.

2, explore the spring? An alliance of wood and stone? And cherish yourself more.

Tan Chun, as the most distinctive figure in Cao Xueqin's works, is alive and well, although she is the concubine of the Jia family. She knows that this wedding is a scam, and it is impossible for two people who really love each other to be together after this wedding. She pitied Daiyu, and even more pitied herself who was spurned by feudal ethics everywhere. If Daiyu, like Xue Baochai, is the daughter of a big family and a woman who abides by feudal ethics, then the person who marries Baoyu is not Xue Baochai.

Feudal ethics separated two people who deeply loved each other.

In A Dream of Red Mansions, grandma loves Lin Daiyu very much, but as long as she touches the bottom line of feudal ethics, she will not hesitate to choose to abide by the feudal ethics and give up Lin Daiyu. Like Tan Chun and Lin Daiyu, Li Wan was devastated by feudal ethics. Neither of us is happy-until eternity passes? This brought three people together.