Whether through introduction or free love, both men and women can meet each other's parents when they feel that they can talk about marriage after a period of contact. The man proposes to the woman's parents, and if the woman's parents have a good impression on the man, they can get engaged. The man should give the woman 100 1 yuan, indicating that the woman is "one in a thousand". Now that the conditions are good, there are also 1000 1 yuan, then the woman is "one in a million". In addition, the man will also give the woman bedding such as blankets, towelling coverlets and moss cloth, as well as two pairs of socks, two red spiked shoes and a pack of needles. Men and women each hold a needle and sew it on the same thread, which means "a thread for a thousand miles of marriage".
After the make-up man sets the wedding date, he should go to the woman's house to inform him. Bring two pieces of red cloth and a few Jin of cotton to make cotton trousers. There is another saying: if you want to be rich, you should wear red cotton trousers from your mother-in-law's house; If you want to be good, wear a red cotton-padded jacket from your mother-in-law's house.
Wedding. Then there is the wedding. In the morning, the woman goes to the barber shop to make up, and then waits for the groom to come and meet her. (The groom prepares good cars at home, generally six or eight, six of which are "66 Dashun" and eight are "Fa". The car is fully armed, and the bride is sitting in the car with a flower basket and flowers. The other cars only have happy characters. The man went to the woman's house to pay homage, and he wanted to bring the intermediary's human flesh and mandarin duck meat to his mother-in-law. In addition, a bunch of flowers will be presented to the woman, and then the woman's brother will take her sister down from the kang and give it to the groom (to the effect that I gave her to you, and I will treat her well in the future), and then go to the yard to take a family photo. Seeing parents off is led by the groom and accompanied by four bridesmaids (bridesmaids are usually aunts and sisters, not aunts, because we have a custom in Penglai: aunts don't pick up, aunts don't send them off, and aunts and sisters pick up their daughters-in-law to get sick. Therefore, it is my sister, not my aunt or elder sister, who picks up my daughter-in-law at the groom's house. Generally, the younger brother carries the chair, and the bride holds the chair (day) to give the man a good life. Then there is the "in-laws" (composed of the bride's grandfather, father, uncle, uncle, uncle, all men). I want to see my in-laws, visit relatives and give my daughter to your family. I will treat her like my own daughter in the future. When the car drove to the entrance of the man's village, it was stopped by his daughter-in-law and began to set off firecrackers. In addition to bad luck, the daughter-in-law peeled a piece of candy and sent it to the bride's mouth (the sweet bride sent it to her mouth first), and then handed a red envelope containing money (to make the daughter-in-law have money to spend). Behind the chair (sky) connected with the chair (live a good life) is the daughter-in-law, and everyone is around. The groom takes three steps, takes two steps back, turns around with the bride, kisses her mouth, and then the woman performs a show to sing and introduce a love story. When you arrive at a man's door, you should close the door, hold back your temper, and have a good temper in the future. After entering the door, sit on the kang with a chair (sit tight and live a good life), and then the bride will change clothes and have a small meal (peaches made of flour brought by her parents). It is said that whoever eats first is responsible. After eating something, we began to sit down. Every time we serve a dish, the chef has to pay a hard fee (usually cigarettes, sugar and red envelopes), otherwise the food will not be served. Halfway through the meal, the bride and groom raise their glasses and put their wrists on them, then accompany their daughter-in-law to say something auspicious. Such as: grow old together, love each other for a hundred years, have a baby early and so on. Every time a dish is served, the bride threatens to put a chopstick in a bowl prepared in advance. After the banquet, the dish is divided into two parts, one for the mother-in-law and one for the family. On behalf of the daughter-in-law's filial piety, if you have food, there will be old people to eat. The man will also send someone to deliver a banquet to the woman. Those who are going to be in-laws have all gone home. Come and say goodbye to the bride. At this time, the bride price giver should avoid attending the in-laws meeting. People who know their in-laws should teach the bride: in the future, they should be filial to their in-laws, their husbands, love each other, respect each other, understand each other and live in harmony. Don't quarrel and grind your teeth, live a good life and get rich.