1, marriage talk
Before the traditional Korean wedding, both men and women's families should know each other's family status, knowledge and personality through matchmakers. After both parties agree to get married, the man usually gives the "wedding invitation" to the woman first. If the woman has the idea of getting married, give the Marriage Certificate to the man, and then the marriage will be established. Nowadays, the usual practice is that parents of both men and women bring their children to meet and discuss, and then formally get engaged.
2. That's talent
After receiving the engagement letter, the man's family will write down "Nacai Wen" (a thank-you letter for engagement and a greeting for choosing the date and time for the other party) and "Four-pillar Wen" (a letter recording the date and time of birth according to the 60-year-old son), wrap it in red cloth and send it to the woman's family. The bride's family who receives the "four-poster" will carefully refer to the date of birth of the bride and groom who will hold the wedding, choose the date and time of the wedding, and then write "Ji Juan" (a letter from the bride's family who accepts the four-poster list at a traditional wedding, asking the man to tell her the number of the dress the groom will wear at the wedding), and then send it to the groom's family.
Step 3 name coins
After the groom's family received the "Ji Juan" from the bride's family, they put the "Satin Picking" (mainly blue and red silks and satins given to the bride's family by the groom's family when paying the money) and the "Marriage Book" (the letter written by the groom's family to the bride's family together with the list of gifts when getting married) in the marriage book box and gave it to the bride's family. Among them, picking satin is usually delivered one month before the wedding. Before the wedding, the "money" (a gift for the bride), "marriage certificate" and "seal set" (if the family conditions are rich, you will usually bring more materials) and send them together with the "catalogue". This is called a letter. The bride will sincerely keep the "marriage certificate", "winning the lottery" and "four pillars" together with the items and expenses needed for the wedding to show her love for her husband. These things will accompany her into the coffin until the end of her life.
4. Xun Zili
After the wedding, the prospective groom should get up early. If there is an ancestral temple, he should go first. If not, let his parents sit down and kowtow to them solemnly. After kowtowing, the groom should kneel before his parents to thank them for their kindness, and say that he would welcome the newlyweds (wives) to live a good and serious life, thank them for their kindness, and then come to the wedding hall. The bride-to-be also kowtows to her parents on the morning of the wedding, and then goes to the wedding hall.
5. Yan Li
After the groom takes care of it, the bride's family will guide her to hold the wedding. When marrying a daughter-in-law, people usually walk to the bride's house, but some people will let the groom ride to the bride's house. When the groom arrived at the front door of the bride's house, the representative of the bride's house came out to meet the guests and introduced them into the house. When the groom enters the gate, he has to cross the "fire" basin lying in the yard, which means exorcism. The groom put the goose on the table and kowtowed twice. At this time, my mother-in-law came out and walked into the house with a goose table. The wild goose symbolizes growing old together, which means that once you become attached, you will never change. Live geese used to be used, but now they are made of wood.
6. Worship ceremony
After the ceremony, the groom stood in the hall of the bride's house or the east of the wedding hall, and the gift table was ready in the yard. The bride waiting in the house begins to wear a cluster (also called a cluster crown) on her head after the groom walks in. In order to keep evil spirits away from the bride on festive days, the bride should stick rouge made of red paper on her left and right faces, one between her eyebrows, and then prepare to step into the wedding hall. The bride and groom met in the wedding hall. After the meeting, the bride and groom said goodbye to each other. According to the principle of Yin and Yang in the cosmology of eastern philosophy, the singular number is Yang, the even number is Yin, the groom is Yang and the bride is Yin. Especially in the "wedding ceremony", the number of kowtows should be doubled, so the bride pays homage to the groom twice, the groom pays homage once, and the bride and groom repeat it once.
7. Wedding ceremony
After the worship ceremony, the wedding began. The groom knelt down, the bride sat down, others poured the wine on the glass wrapped with blue and red silk, and the bride bowed. Others put the tip of the glass on the left side of the ceremony table, then on the right side, and then point it at the groom on the ceremony table. At this time, the groom will lick the wine and give it to the bride, and finally take the glass away. The wine at this time is called acacia wine. After the ceremony, the guests put dates and chestnuts on the gift table in the groom's pocket, which indicates that the young couple will have children early.
8. Candle Night
After the wedding ceremony is held at the bride's house, the room where they are arranged to stay at night is called the "new house". They have a habit of peeking at their new house on their first night. There are many reasons to peek at the new house. One of them is that in the past, in order to carry on the family line early, there was a custom of early marriage. Usually, people who secretly love the bride or young people who have secret contacts take the bride away on the first night, so they start to guard the new house. There is also a saying that "there are many good things". When celebrating, you are afraid of evil spirits approaching, so you guard the new house.
9. Yugui Xinhang
Red skirt, yellow jacket, dragon hairpin, prefix, ribbon. Typical traditional Korean wedding dress.
After the wedding ceremony at the bride's house, you have to stay at the bride's house for 3 days, and then the groom takes the bride home. This is called returning home or going to a new place. Before returning to Japan, the bride's family should give her husband's family lucky money and silks such as dates and meat (dates and other foods placed on the table when the bride first meets her in-laws). Almost all brides go to the groom's house in a sedan chair when they start a new trip. At the groom's house, people come out to sprinkle soybeans, red beans, cottonseed, salt and so on. And light firewood at the gate to let the bride cross it, which means to drive away ghosts. These customs can also be seen now.
10, Coin Silk Ceremony
The food brought from the bride's family is put on the table, and the husband and wife salute in front of their parents-in-law, introducing the order of family and relatives. At this time, only the bride kowtows to her family, and the groom stands at the table to introduce her family. If grandparents are here, they will prepare another table, kowtowing to their parents first, then to their grandparents, to their immediate brothers and then to their uncles and family.
In addition, there is the East Bed Ceremony, which is also an indispensable etiquette in traditional weddings. This is a playful activity of the young woman's family playing tricks on the groom. Everyone asked the groom some difficult questions, and then no matter what the groom answered, they tied the groom's legs with ropes, hung them on the beams, and beat the groom's soles with sticks. When the groom can't stand shouting, her mother-in-law will come out to persuade and take out delicious food to entertain everyone.
The above traditional forms of marriage continued in Korea until the1960s. With the deepening influence of modern lifestyle, this traditional marriage custom is becoming more and more simplified.
This is the Korean wedding culture I specially found for you. I hope you can adopt it.
Weddings in different countries are only in different forms, and some basic traditional cultures are still the same, such as color heads, and their meanings are the same.